Incidental Benefits in the Bedroom

Ecstasy anyone? 😉

@Katzy Sounds right to me 🙂 I haven't had any change in erections that I have noticed (the strength of my erections has to do with headspace, partner, and sometimes, unknown factors), nor post ejaculation changes, but I have had plenty of other benefits including increase in sensuality, which rubs off (no pun intended) on my partner.

@Tommygunn is that a reference to the drug? Because if so, I could draw several parallels... if not, forget I said anything.

@divine_oblivion Although tongue in cheek,it sure was,and I bet you could. 😉

I've noticed similar over the course of a year too.

-I've always been a very sensual person, with grounding in the arts. My appreciation for that stuff has gone from an 11 out of 10 to a 13.

-I am someone who has also always felt things deeply. I also have a firm logical side that I require to balance that out. I am sort of becoming emotionally even higher strung, which is great in most ways, but also I need to stay wary of it... it seems like it is getting to PMS-class levels of crazy at times, and I need to dial it back sometimes. I have to think that must be tied to horomones and neurotransmitters like Serotonin and Dopamine.

-Greater drive to embrace life, and pursuits like fitness training.

I dont have any of those benefits after years of Aneros use.
In fact, my erectile qualities have gotten worse - but I can't say what has caused it or if Aneros use is responsible for it.

I have stopped taking a multivitamin that I've been taking for over a year, which contains Saw Palmetto, which supposedly is a 5 Alpha Reductase inhibitor (supposedly blocks testosterone being converted to a more powerful DHT). I realised that my recent Pygeum use could also be an issue as it is also a 5AR.
Even before this multivitamin, my EQ was not improving.

What are you all doing that's giving you great results? I need to emulate it!

I try to follow a healthy diet,porridge and berries every morning,salad for lunch and all that shit. My erections have always been fine. Sometimes during prostate orgasm,they go supersonic. Like they may touch my stomach if I stand up. Sensitivity around the body has rocketed from nothing but penis and balls to everywhere along my skin. When the wife innocently touch’s me on the arm or leg in conversation etc I get a stirring in my genital area. Maybe we have it wrong,maybe we’ve always had these ‘changes’,but the journey just made us self-aware. That is how I feel self-aware,and feel much more of a link between mind and body.

A side benefit for me is that now my whole body seems to get into the act of sex, whereas before I only felt things in my penis. I get nice little rushes of pleasure that shoot across my entire body and seem to ramp up in frequency the closer I get towards orgasm. My erections are stronger but I suspect that has more to do with the daily kegel exercises than unlocking my prostate. I also get a lot of "afterglow" once I orgasm, where my entire body feels tingly, and sometimes my body will give me a small prostate orgasm or two during after-sex cuddling.

I let my girlfriend onboard my journey right from the beginning (my first aneros was actually a Christmas present from her) and I think she was a little apprehensive at first wondering how she'll fit into everything. Now she realizes there are way more options than before. It didn't limit her involvement in my sexuality, it only increased it. Having many different ways to get me off has increased her participation in the bedroom, which has made both of us happier.

Guys, what @Katzy has noted is a commonly noted 'side effect' of Aneros practice as confirmed by many Forum members over the years. I believe @Tommygunn partially and correctly touched upon factors which may be responsible for this phenomenon. Obviously, being healthy overall is of major importance to assure that your body can respond at optimal levels, but the mental aspect of this can not be overstated.

I believe we men have always had the capability to experience these high levels of sensitivity but through enculturation, social stigmatization, physical and psychic traumas, etc. we have armored ourselves against the external influences which have caused those traumas. In doing so we have desensitized ourselves to ignore the very subtle sensations our senses are fully capable of detecting and processing. Aneros practice, due to its intensely intimate nature, allows us (perhaps even forces us) to change our thought paradigms and open our minds to alternate paths of pleasure. The yardstick we formerly used to measure pleasure from penile stimulation suddenly gets replaced by a micrometer for subtleties of sensations and the world view gets expanded through our mental awareness of previously ignored perceptions.

Men who have achieved high levels of success in their Aneros practice probably got there by repeatedly fine tuning their awareness. This may have been done consciously, subconsciously or combined. It is somewhat like finding your reality immersed into the very world you are looking at under a microscope. What was once unseen and unacknowledged has become very real and relatively magnified in significance. When you return from the micro-world of your Anerosession your expanded awareness comes with you into the wider realm of your day to day reality. The real world has not changed but your relationship to it has changed and you know it. That subtle touch from a loved one can become an electric jolt reverberating through your whole body, the inadvertent nipple stimulation stirs a tremble to your prostate, a kind word warms your heart, the list can go on and on. I wish every man could reach this level of awareness, fortunately many men on this Forum actually do! Good Vibes to You !

@rumel Dang, well put!

@Tommygunn I mentioned this before somewhere on this forum, but the overall physical and emotional sensitivity that I have now in the bedroom is akin to my physical and emotional sensitivity under the influence of mdma. For anyone that has experimented with this wondrous substance in combination with sex and intimacy, it basically amplifies every physical stimulation, and makes you feel incredibly compassionate and loving. Just having your partner lightly touch your skin can feel like an orgasm, and you can be overcome with the desire to tell your partner the sweetest things. Sound familiar?

I have used mdma every 6 months or so over the last several years, always with a partner, always in bed for around the 4-6 hours of the drugs effects. Before I had heard stories along the lines of "once you have sex on mdma, you never want to have normal sex again". My experience is the opposite. By discovering this hidden potential of my sexual sensitivity and that of others, albeit with the crutch of chemicals, I have learned many lessons about my mind's capacity to experience pleasure. The same holds true for a lot of drugs, if one uses them in a healthy way. That is, if one doesn't abuse them, and if one doesn't use them to escape problems but rather to open one's mind to the realm of possible consciousnesses.

That ties in to prostate play because, since I have discovered it, the sensitivity I have gained from usage, both emotional and physical, has been present outside of the sessions themselves. That is, I don't need my toy in to glean infinitely complex sensations from the seemingly benign caress of a partner's fingertips on my cheek. The use of prostate massagers were part of what got me to this hyper-sensitive state, by opening my mind and body to a realm of possibility. To tap into that realm now is just a matter of letting go and acceptance of the moment.

This is by no way an invitation to go do potentially dangerous drugs (although I find mdma way less dangerous for my mind than supposedly safe marijuana), rather a description of my own experience. And for anyone worried about legality, all of these experiences took place in countries where possession and use of mdma has been decriminalized.

And @Tommygunn your description of your eating habits made me laugh. "I try to follow a healthy diet,porridge and berries every morning,salad for lunch and all that shit." You mention a slew of healthy foods, followed by "and all that shit". Such a dainty diet juxtaposed with such vulgarity-- fucking namaste! 🙂 I love it.

@divine_oblivion I remember my misspent youth well. Being in clubs where everyone just hugged each other,erections that wouldn’t go down,the delayed ejaculation of a ‘porn star’. It was a good era,an era of love,fun and a relaxed attitude to life. I’m sure marriage guidance councillors used to prescribe/recommend mdma to couples in therapy a long time ago. No I would advise anyone to drugs either. But they sure would help some people greatly.

Yes,whilst I’m not a total vagabond,I’m not aristocracy either. I tend to say what I think,how I think it,and worry about it later,sometimes to my detriment!