I hate to keep asking this, but I NEED help to solve this

You have a lot of expectation " I KNOW if i could get past this hump i would achieve something incredible. ".
"But my body physically NOT mentally, shuts down. " what you describe seems more mental to me. I also shutdown as you describe when I had too much, it obviously isn't why it happens to you, but imho, you might should dig in the mental block and seek the why.

" it HURTS the hell out of my back and it also feels force. " This is an arousal killer, unless your into pain.


" Whenever i lie on my back i find that i get really drowsy, even when I'm well rested. Is it possible that my body releases a chemical of some kind that makes me think its time for bed? " Seems unlikely to me, sounds more like vast amount of blood going into the brain. Try keeping your head higher using a pillow, or practice hand-standing to get used to that.


Good luck.

I know you won't believe me when i say this, but i disagree strongly. The Cut off of felling is immediate and without reason. My mind is not looking for anything i.e. sensation, just 'being'. My prostate stops producing noticeable sensitivity after this period. I firmly believe it is not mental, i used to think the opposite too.

There is no mental block, its a physical response. Only on the odd occasion i find that not only does the physical response shut off but also it kind of removes the arousal desire too. The closest thing i can compare it to is the feeling of when you have just ejaculated, minus the sense of relief and fulfilment of course. Its as if 'I'm spent' or 'had enough', as you put it. Like my body cannot take more than one average-good Dry O.

I will try the pillow idea, thanks.

Do you watch some Porn, while doing your sessions, or you're just focus all your attention more on the feel/expectation of the Aneros?I found that if I watch some Porn, say, 30-45 minutes before entering the whole meditative/relaxed state of mind, I'm usually very aroused and "into the mood", wired, for most of my sessions times, which are usually around 2 hours.
If you don't like watching Porn, while Anerossing, you can always try get stimulated with some good quality aural porn, perhaps, or just have a few picture galleries handy, on your tablet/phone to watch while Anerossing.
Another suggestion I can give you is that take a rest between a session. Try to refrain from any sexual activity for at least 2-3 days. Give your body some time to recover from all the loss of energy and overstimulation. That way, not only you will feel generally better, but you will also be much more aroused and "into the mood", straight away, and you will certainly want to have a very good time with yourself.

" Whenever i lie on my back i find that i get really drowsy, even when I'm well rested. Is it possible that my body releases a chemical of some kind that makes me think its time for bed? "


I get the exact opposite, everytime I wake up in the morning. I always feel like I've been flying all night, for some strange reasons, even though I slept very well. I usually feel pretty disoriented and without a sense of time/space. Though, I usually recover after having a very good relaxing bath. In my case, it is just overtiredness and some mild-anxiety. But I learned how to cope with it, with some meditation exercises I do, as well, after having a good bath.
I'm no doctor by any means, nor I pretend to be one. But, after reading and studying, personally, many health articles/books on the whole dizziness/drowsiness/vertigo/spinning sensation/motion sickness subjects, all I can say is that all these types of symptoms are always related to either inner-ear canal infections/tinnitus, drug side effects, sinus, neck problems, fibromyalgia, hyperventilation, sudden change of pressure, blood pressure spikes/problems and general anxiety.
I suggest getting one of those medical-aid pillows they use in hospitals, and try to see how good you feel. And last, have some medical check, in case you're worried about your condition, and if it always repeats very often.

Sounds to me that you are getting an initial arousal/excitment of insertion and climaxing, like a normal orgasm. A super-o does not work like that, once you get into the super-o "zone" you can have practically limitless orgasms with no refractory period. I believe you are still in the rewiring phase. I would suggest that you try to enjoy the subtle feelings that the aneros provides and try not to "get past this hump". Men are unfortunately wired to "fix" things and solve problems. This is not a problem to be solved, but an experience and a journey. Setting your mind on a goal (as a traditional orgasm) will keep you in an endless loop of frustration.

Have you thought about the mental aspect being an unconscious or subconcious mental block? I know you are strongly opposed to the notion of it being mental, but it can be mental without being conscious.

Also, when you typically stop your sessions is it due to discomfort or just the lack of sensation and the feeling of "enough is enough"?

@staley89_IT I have tried all you have suggested many times over the years. If i watch porn I can become too aroused and want to ejacualte. Occasionally I watch it during a session along which works for a time, but quite honestly lately I find porn really lame, it gets me going for a few mins but it's mostly boring as hell.

@the_bishop I think you might be right, I'm not 'there' yet. I'm happy to just enjoy. What I would ask you though is this; When the 10 minute pleasure window ends what do I do? Do I continue on regardless, pleasureless, forcing it? Or do I stop and go focus on something else (work etc)? Being left on the edge is frustrating, let me tell you. In the past I often will end up masturbating a little later on as my mind is totally aroused, my body is not. I wonder if I've picked up a bad habit somewhere over the ten years of frustrating, harrowing journey with the Aneros.I've not felt this low in a long while because of strange, weird and difficult issues re the aneros.

@mkts it's possible, however I've explored the issue for months, I find that whe the feelings stop I'm not even thinking about them stopping or it's not at a point where I'm loosening focus or anything, it just stops, like the engine cutting out in a car, it is very abrupt. There is no discomfort at all, I invariably feel still very aroused and relaxed but unable to 'wake' the Prostate again. Occasionally I feel totally done, like I've ejacualted... Except I haven't.

I'm in the subconscious mental block camp here. It just doesn't make sense otherwise. Unless you are having a dry traditional orgasm, and I' sure you would know if that was the case, how else can it be explained?I don't think that any of this is open to full logic or understanding or we would all be super-Oing at will, but I haven't noticed anyone on here claiming to have the answer to making it work all the time for everyone.

Some people can sleep when they want, some are insomniacs. Some people are happy, some chronically depressed. Someone who sleeps well can't tell an insomniac how to get to sleep, someone who is always happy can't teach a depressed person how to feel happy (unless they are trained in CBT of course). This whole prostate orgasm thing is without doubt totally in the mind and nervous system. A super-O is an explosion of energy in the nervous system, but how and why does it happen? and how do you trigger it?Is it in the spinal cord or the limbic system? It is physical but only in the sense that conciousness is physical.

I can't really talk, I'm still stuck in block as you probably know if you have read my blog and forum posts, but I'm sure it's psychological or spiritual or whatever, but it's not physical. I don't have the answer or I would fix myself.

Why don't you take a chance and start looking for psychological causes? It's been painful for me and I haven't cracked it yet but I think I will.

By the way it is strangely comforting for me that someone else is brave enough to post about their frustration and problems. Thanks for sharing and keep posting.

@inhope --- Have you had a full physical exam recently? I ask because it's not always the things we KNOW about our own health, but it can be the things we worry about subconsciously that, if we only had answers, or had the chance to talk with a physician about, we wouldn't need to worry as much perhaps.

You may be perfectly healthy, but if you worry that you may not be, then it effects you!

Whether you think I'm arrogant or not, I've always only wished the best for you.

TG

Oh one thing, I have been taking a lot of multi vitamins lately, it's the only different diet alteration than before.

@Theme_gasm I don't really think you're arrogant 🙂 yeah I have and I'm fine, though not a prostate exam. Here is a point for you; I decided today to have a wank. Not sure why, I think it was to reinvigorate or regenerate my prostate. Somehow I knew this subconsciously that in ejacualting I would feel things in my prostate again. Sure enough, I'm back feeling aneros less feelings like before. Please read below for more about what is happening to me in my reply to @smudgefish

@smudgefish Because I already have looked at psychological issues and have elimatined them, I can't think how else to view it?

I feel it is physical is for a number of reasons. Mainly though it's because I've finally not got many Hang ups in sessions or any like I used to have. I've overcome them. Here is a good of example of physical response. If I lie on my side with my legs together and up toward my stomach (in fact even as I am typing this message) I get instant aneros less Prostate pulsing p-waves warmth and I feel very close to orgasm. If I then use my mind I can enhance these feelings into orgasm(s).

This is a good example of the duality of the experience: physical response and mental focus working together, but BOTH are required for orgasm to happen.

Also I am not in the least turned on, not thinking of anything negative or positive, just typing away. If I then lie on my back or stand up or whatever, the feelings instantly stop.

It is the action of pressure by lying on my side that forces the muscles together to cause a reaction in my prostate and that is purely physical. For aneros sessions I need some physical element ie the device making contact with the Prostate to produce pwaves or warmth or some physical feeling to then allow me the mental ability to continue to dry orgasm, I need something to build on. Quoting a member here recently: "there is always a river of pleasure running through my sessions to allow me to build on the feelings". For me that 'river of pleasure' has a dam erected just as It gets flowing.

The issue I have is those physical elements are present, and very much alive and amazing In the first minute of sessions, they stop so abruptly that no matter of mental or cognitive focus does anything but make me very aroused but still the prostate does not physically respond. There is nothing then to build on. I have never had an orgasm whilst having an aneros in, only through aless have I had them. I assumed smaller devices would be better as a result of this. Remember my aless sessions NEVER have this issue, they are incredibly lengthy and they last for days and days quite often.

It's only when a physical object touches my prostate does it shut down. In fact I find that I cannot super t with an aneros present either, it sort of blocks the prostate as the contractions start, stifling the feelings (even though the build up is great)

There are users here reporting that if they contract too hard with an aneros it kills the feelings and stops their session dead. This is I feel what is happening to me, however for me it happens in the do nothing approach as well (I do not contract at all in sessions usually)

I think the issue is two fold potentially; firstly I am a very short and small fellow, 5ft4 ish. My breakthrough in feeling anything at all was the second smallest peredise....after 10'years. I get closer to super t when using this device then any other device I own. I wonder if using smaller devices is better because it allows more movement inside my ass as well as not putting too much pressure on the prostate and killing the feelings too quickly. I have the smallest zini janus which is like a mini eupho crossed with a peredise, might be a good place to start then move up to bigger devices again.

Secondly I need to observe the confident boomerang again. I have had sessions in the past that last longer, I just can't recall which devices I used that allowed this. (I always use confident boomerang but in the past the 'river of physical response' was always present to build on)

@staley89_IT I have tried all you have suggested many times over the years. If i watch porn I can become too aroused and want to ejacualte. Occasionally I watch it during a session along which works for a time, but quite honestly lately I find porn really lame, it gets me going for a few mins but it's mostly boring as hell.

@the_bishop I think you might be right, I'm not 'there' yet. I'm happy to just enjoy. What I would ask you though is this; When the 10 minute pleasure window ends what do I do? Do I continue on regardless, pleasureless, forcing it? Or do I stop and go focus on something else (work etc)? Being left on the edge is frustrating, let me tell you. In the past I often will end up masturbating a little later on as my mind is totally aroused, my body is not. I wonder if I've picked up a bad habit somewhere over the ten years of frustrating, harrowing journey with the Aneros.I've not felt this low in a long while because of strange, weird and difficult issues re the aneros.

@mkts it's possible, however I've explored the issue for months, I find that whe the feelings stop I'm not even thinking about them stopping or it's not at a point where I'm loosening focus or anything, it just stops, like the engine cutting out in a car, it is very abrupt. There is no discomfort at all, I invariably feel still very aroused and relaxed but unable to 'wake' the Prostate again. Occasionally I feel totally done, like I've ejacualted... Except I haven't.

If I am not having a good session after 15 mins I stop. I would not masturbate after though, save the sexual energy for later sessions!

PS You been trying 10 years??

@the_bishop, the point is things kick off amazingly well in the first 15 mins, it's continuing beyond those minutes that is the problem. Yep ten years! I have had lots of progress and great sessions in the last year or so, leaps and bounds.

Read my last post I made in reply to smudgefish, I don't know if I'm right but I feel it best surmises what happens to me during sessions and possibly how I now need to approach further ones.

When you say 'I already have looked at psychological issues and eliminated them' how do you know that? You sound too confident for it to be true.You say you don't feel turned on (maybe just as your block kicks in I don't know). As a doctor if someone complains to me of lack of libido I know it's going to be psychological 99.9% of the time. I will check prolactin/testosterone/ thyroid function and general health but I never remember a single patient in which I have found an abnormality; and then we have the 'chat' and find out about their stress, depression, relationship problems or whatever.
As @Theme_Gasm has suggested why don't you see a doctor, get checked out, and then you are left with only one possible cause (and it's not a physical one). I stand to be corrected however.

Read my rather lengthy reply to you above. Like I say I can activate my prostate any time of day or night even if I'm nowhere even close to being aroused or even when I'm tired just by lying on my side which pushes the muscles together. That is physical and I can make it happen under any circumstance (except one)

When an aneros is inserted things really kick off well, then it ends after ten mins. When it ends I'm not angry or frustrated, often I feel quite ok with it, those things kick in a little later. Anyways, If I then lie on my side after the session with an aneros I cannot get the prostate to respond. It is as I say like the prostate has been somehow shut off, as a method of protection, overstimulation or some other reason I cannot fathom. Usually after an hour or so it comes back to life, lying on side etc works again and I am even then able to have more sessions with the aneros... But again 10 mins is all I get again.

If I'm really thinking about it I have memories of sessions being much longer when my prostate doesn't seem to shut down as quickly, I need to research what works and what does not and get some sort of consistency.

For lengthy sessions i beleive what I need:

-Be really, really aroused
-Be really really aroused in the *right* way, mmo Horney basically (not wanting an orgasm as such)
-not lie down completely as I feel that at times drowsiness can be a factor, I get too relaxed and I find myself drifting away from sessions because I could fall asleep (possibly a chemical release, like my body thinks it's going to sleep)
-don't close my eyes when lying down, this really can make drift away!
-get fit/have a better diet than I currently have.
-observe the confident boomerang

It's a process of elimination, I am merely being methodical in moving forward.

I even feel as soon as the device is inserted that I get auto fucking happening, the muscles contract so beautifully. But he prostate seems to only be able to take so much before it becomes unresponsive. I can remain mentally ready and totally in the right 'zone' well after his happens.

Anyone here remember me constantly saying that my nipples get overstimulated and sensitive after only a few mins? I think it's the same thing here. I have always physically been very sensitive.

That being said i could have formed an expectation that it will stop after ten mins, which is making me think it's physical. I happy to look at all possibilities in moving forward, I do feel I have made great progress with expectation and focus in sessions, I no longer really expect anything at all. If I get even something small, I take it and try not to get frustrated. I'm only trying to make sessions longer because I know it would be nice to.

I think it's important to consider what uncharted territory we're in here. In a way we're all researchers and pioneers. I adopted this attitude years ago when I was trying for hands-free mentally-induced orgasms, it felt like I was the only person on the planet even trying it. And searching for other's experience of it is how I found the aneros. I only mention it because it might help with the frustration you feel. We're doing things most men think aren't even remotely possible.
-don't close my eyes when lying down, this really can make drift away!

That stands out to me. I used to get that. I'd get so relaxed for so long that I'd inevitably disengage and re-emerge 20 minutes later realising I've been day-dreaming about random things instead of being engaged with the session.
I think it was the wrong kind of relaxation. It was relaxation without the component of being erotically present. It's the "going to sleep" kind of relaxation, which I hold as distinct from an erotic submissive relaxation.
I think the trick is to let the session lead your relaxation. You can go into that thoughtless trance, but there's something you need to take with you. You have to slide into it, keeping the erotic part awake and focused, while the others are slowly becoming quiet.
My best sensations were wordless, thoughtless, focused, trance-like states of mind, except for some animal sexual part that was allowed to stay awake.
Personally I find it easier to go deeper into this state with my eyes closed, so I wouldn't rule it out completely. It might be something you become able to master.

@inhope
Please don't take it as a disrespectful comment, but you definitely need psychological or psychiatric help. All you have said in this thread should be told a doctor or a therapist, not random people on a sextoy forum. We can't solve this for you.

The only word of advice I could give you... would be to trust your body and subconcious.

Pain means "stop", drop in arousal means "no", devastating loss means "issues". Usually the body and subconcious take good care of the whole person. Only because you don't know their reason for acting the way they do doesn't mean they are wrong in doing so. Fighting oneself is both pointless, potentially harmful and surest way to reach imbalance.

Sometimes, one is just telling oneself : "there are issues I need help with, bring me to a therapist". The negative emotional response and imperative tone are sound indications of that.

Cancan, I really sorry but sadly (as it was not your intention) but yes what you're saying is quite offensive. I am a proactive, motivated individual so analysis as well as positive planning are what I need to in order to progress. Don't think so?

Look at my progress over the last year. Go back and look at my threads between then and now. What a difference! I got there through venting any frustrations (here) and also analysing what I did (and didn't do) and for me it has worked wonders.

I appreciate that you might have my safety or welfare in your comment but it's hard to play psychotherapist on these forums, especially as this is the not method of validating such a 'diagnosis', you might for example see a huge rant here from myself about a session that failed miserably, does that mean it true reflection of reality? Hardly.

Thank you for your concern though, I know in your own way you are only being compassionate, for that I thank you.

I wanted to update this thread anyway a little later but I will do it earlier seeing as how it currently seems to invite derailment otherwise.

I'm feeling very positive, I have a plan I place, a strategy for scenarios that present themselves In sessions to stop me feeling negatively and stop any psychosomatic responses occurring. I will share what these are once I've tried them out, but they all involve listening to what my body needs and more importantly what my minds needs also. It is a combination of the esoteric and the proactive physical element that my sessions have lacked.

If you wish to discuss my mental health I am more than happy to, please though, let's use the private message system here. I would appreciate it.

but it's hard to play psychotherapist on these forums
Precisely my point.
... And I wouldn't say "hard" but rather "impossible and unwise".

As to being offended, very sorry, and you shouldn't be. Regular sessions with a therapist are a healthy habit replacing good old confession to the priest. Nothing shameful or insulting.

Fighting oneself is both pointless, potentially harmful and surest way to reach imbalance.

Be safe.

Ok well it's good you're still concerned it shows you have a good nature, but I am going to say this now not just to you but for all reading this. Be careful how you word things, (yeah, I am guilty of this too) or how rather how your intention comes across when you trying to help someone. Unless you actually are in the profession in which case I would be happy to talk further, but once again as a matter of respect please use the private message function of this site in doing so.

Like I've said on many occasions here my own CBT is what has helped me get this far (which is monumental by comparison to this time last year), everyone learns and progresses differently, my way is one of analysis and proactive focus (against the 'rules' right?) but it has been really effective for me.

I have a new focus and a new set of tools to implement in future sessions, what I lack is control and consistency, they are aspects I am currently working on. It is actually a sort of therapy in posting on these forums, even this very thread! Sometimes just writing down what happens In a session helps to identify patterns, even bad habits, to challenge or overcome or sometimes just a as way of recording a great memory. By that I don't infer that you are therapists but rather in the action of describing what I experience is the way in which I deal with how I progress. Even if it is in the form of venting or detailed analysis.

As a matter of interest have you or do you see a therapist cancan? (Feel free to private message me if you don't want it seen publicly, happy to discuss)

Ok, to highlight the elephant in the room here. You have contributed 1200+ posts of bullshit to this forum... Give up... Just stop. Credit to some here, they have the patience of saints, but you contradict yourself all the time and you knock back every bit of advice you are given. Fucking chill out and enjoy what you have got out of this, and maybe, one day something better will happen.

Welcome back bunk! do you think its fitting to act like this? You say i knock advice, yet its that very advice that has helped me massive leaps and bounds.
I am a little shocked at your lack of compassion. I think you need to understand that help comes in many different forms, the greatest help comes from within, from yourself. Even i realise this. I felt quite positive in my last response, quite resolved. As i stated it has been of great therapy to me to just post of my issue and to talk through it (even if its just that others see it too) However you, in a few short sentences have really put me in a low place, it shames me to admit.

Despite all that, I forgive you. Why? were all human here and we all lash out when were frustrated.
Part of the problem is that had any other user post this people would not have the prerequisite to dismiss what is being said as a desperate male at the end of his rope (which i admit was me many months ago) but things have changed, i asked for help on an issue that is real. My sessions over the last 9 months or so have been pretty amazing and I've had some experiences i thought i would never even get close to.

I'm a little peeved i have to yet defend myself (something i should not need to do, nor anyone here) and once again the thread is derailed/ruined by yourself as a result. If you see one of my threads i urge you, i implore you, do not reply in it.

I wish you well @Bunk

@inhope please don't take offence at what I have to say but I agree with all the recent posts.As you know I like your honesty and you actually helped me when I was having my block.
I have succeeded in getting through my block and I'm starting to get back on track. I did it by positive thinking and taking the advice of other more experienced users here on the forum, also by 'letting go' and trusting myself and what people told me. You do seem very hung up in a negative cycle of self doubt and concentrating on what is going wrong, at least that is what it sounds like from your postings.

I do treat patients with depression and other psychological problems in a professional context although I am not formally trained in counselling, and you remind me of the patient that always has a reason why nothing I suggest will work. It's almost as if they don't want to get better and are quite happy in their own little unhappy world, often because of secondary gains. How often do I see someone who is so depressed they can't work, who promises to self refer for formal counselling coming back a month later having done nothing and needing another sick note. That behaviour has to be challenged.

Please don't take offence. I want to help.

@inhope please don't take offence at what I have to say but I agree with all the recent posts.As you know I like your honesty and you actually helped me when I was having my block.
I have succeeded in getting through my block and I'm starting to get back on track. I did it by positive thinking and taking the advice of other more experienced users here on the forum, also by 'letting go' and trusting myself and what people told me. You do seem very hung up in a negative cycle of self doubt and concentrating on what is going wrong, at least that is what it sounds like from your postings.

I do treat patients with depression and other psychological problems in a professional context although I am not formally trained in counselling, and you remind me of the patient that always has a reason why nothing I suggest will work. It's almost as if they don't want to get better and are quite happy in their own little unhappy world, often because of secondary gains. How often do I see someone who is so depressed they can't work, who promises to self refer for formal counselling coming back a month later having done nothing and needing another sick note. That behaviour has to be challenged.

Please don't take offence. I want to help.

Ok lets address this and be serious for a moment. You know @smudgefish you are the first here to have been compassionate, non-judgemental and genuinely showing love and concern in your reply. (or perhaps you just come across that way moreso than others...apologies to those that genuinely care) So as a result, you have not offended me.

Here is some honesty about myself. I am depressed, yes you are quite accurate (and good at your job too it would seem) but here is the issue; i am depressed, in part, because of the 10 years of suffering, trials, lack of understanding, failure, picking myself up and desire for success in the use of the aneros.

Now I'm not solely blaming the aneros for my depression but it has been a big, big part of that. You could argue it is the desire for super orgasm or indeed any success in this pursuit that has caused it, but it's all related (either directly or indirectly) to the aneros experience.

Before anyone suggests counselling again, i need to tell you that i have had it and i have worked out my issues. I know some of you will disagree with that. But what i have, i have for life. What i do to deal with it is all i can do, medication is not an option (its a long story).

So over the last year (since april 2014) i have worked on myself and as a result i have made incredible progress. I went from not feeling a thing when using an aneros to feeling like I've had some sort of 'orgasm'. Which to my mind is immense in terms of 'progress'

I know i have other issues regarding expectation, impatience and anger. Those are things i work on daily.

Lets set aside the mental aspect of the aneros experience for a moment. Physically something is not consistent in my sessions. I find that i can feel a vast array of sensation when starting out, i can be lost in a sea of wondrous 'nothingness' just pure feeling, no thought, it is building to something. It always, without fail, stops suddenly. The aneros experience in my opinion is mainly mental, but there needs to be some physical element prevelant, one that stays constant throughout a session. I will not be heard on this because of people pre-conceived ideas of my conduct here (particuarly of my past aggression and frustrations) which i understand and put it down to me needing help of a mental nature.

Another quick empale: I have found that the aneros can be a direct inhibitor to feeling an orgasm! something nobody has commented on. For example, the wiki states having a super-t, which is 'masturbating with an aneros' in. If i do this, i find that the orgasm is stifled to the point where i ejaculate semen with no orgasmic feeling at all. Is that a mental problem? i don't think so.

Yet if i put my legs together by lying on my side out of session i can automatically trigger an amazing orgasmic physical response that requires no mental stimuli whatsoever. IF i then use my mind to focus, i can increase those feelings into an orgasm (occasionally) and if not i find i can at least intensify those feelings a very great deal. Weather I'm alone in that remains to be seen, but its the truth.

I appear to be unique in my experiences more-so than the variants of those users i have read in the last 10 years on these forums.

@smudgefish Please could you point out what people have suggested that i have ignored to help me? what have i ignored exactly? I may have missed their wisdom, perhaps in a fit of despair or frustration.

P.S. if any of you have something to say that involves being rude, judgemental or just plain nasty, go for it, you are most welcome to vent.

@inhope I think what other people have suggested is in this thread.
I can't tell you how to fix it, neither can anyone else. Deep down I think you know the answer.
I'm afraid that I am reading a lot about spirituality at the moment. Whether this is all based on just neurotransmitters and hormones and is all just biology, or there really are some mystic inter-dimensional powers at work who knows, but it gives some framework to understand what is happening. From my learning so far the thing that really stands out is that if you fight the feelings (probably repressed) you will lose and become ill - like depression. This goes totally against all my medical training but it's good to take a fresh look at things sometimes, and I'm getting very open minded in my old age. This can be extended to talking about blocked energy channels if you like, and working on those directly by meditation, Reiki, acupuncture, etc, or by psychological means.
Why not try meditating, once your mind is clear you can't fight whatever is going on deep inside yourself and it's working for me. It's not easy though it takes a lot of time and dedication, and a lot of reading to learn how to do it properly.

I don't think that you are any different to anyone else who has had difficulty with this, it's just you can't move forward.

Not sure that I can suggest much else, but happy to tell you more about what I have learnt if you want to message me. Maybe it is time to try a different approach after 10 years of frustration.

Sadly my points don't seem to have been interpreted correctly. I know others are reading this thread eager to pounce on the "it's in your mind" bandwagon, I could cite other examples of this physical Prostate numbing, such as solo dildoing which after the same amount of time stops all sensation dead in the exact same way as the aneros but it will only be ignored or not explored as a possibility.

I'm perfectly happy to explore the idea of it being a mental block, but I've exhausted it as route of exportation even through meditation and other esoteric studies. I'm left with it being something on a physical Level ie a body response, feeling of having enough like a psuedo premature overstimulation effect or a chemical release that suddenly stops arousal or something else unexplored.

I have, unexpectedly, answered my question though; ther answer is: there is no answer. So I won't bother asking it again you will be pleased to hear.

I'm glad I could help you with your issue, I take comfort in that. Thanks for replying anyways.

Edit: tonight, this very night I am vindicated.

Ready for bed, tired. Lying on my side legs together. Pwaves start, not horny at all. Pwaves increase, hornyness begins (pwaves create arousal, hence my aless success). Stand up walk around, pwaves stop.

I decide to experiment. I lube up the smallest aneros lube once again lie on my side legs together.

Pwaves start.,... And don't stop. 2 hours later I've experienced CONSTANT orgasmic pleasure without break. A few piques of pleasure where it gets super intense, cock isn't even hard! This is what I was saying all this time, I've found a way to engage the pwaves through physical stimulus the use the aneros and my mind together with physical response to produce a continual orgasmic and best session of my life. I had moments of sheer awe and heart pounding excitement! I only stopped because it's super late and I'm exhausted, there were even moments where I was driving off to sleep yet the power of the bliss did not stop!

I told you what I was missing and through trial and error discovered a way to deal with it. It seems being side on pushes muscles and the device enough to keep the pwaves and Prostate response constant and Alive. It is allowing me to build on the sensations using my mind. Like I have been saying for months.

I. Knew. It.

The mental aspects are needed, yes. But so is the damn physical one!

Aha goodnightaaaa! *bows*