I Found My EDGE!

@AneRico, do you use the "do nothing" method or something else?

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Hello there!

After trying and training my mind a bit more, I can now say this is definitely working for me too. After three sessions I can tell my mind has already understood that prostate time is one thing and penis time is another.

For me, it also helps to isolate prostate sessions from traditional penile stimulation and traditional orgasming: I have stopped finishing off an Aneros session with ejaculation (I now stop the session when I decide I had enough and ejaculate in a different time, maybe a bit later, maybe I don't at all and just enjoy the satisfaction of that "intense long erotic glow" all over my body and that's it, so my mind is erasing the "goal" mindset. And yes, it is working wonders, getting intense pleasure waves that seem to spread more and more everytime and get more intense, without feeling like my body is trying too hard to embrace them.

I guess it works as many pointed out in this thread, like a rubber band, the more you tense the rubber band up (relaxing, breathing, not expecting pleasure or anything at all), the stronger it bounces back to the opposite direction... makes sense, we all work under the laws of physics :P)

I've had 3 very good sessions since I understood the "no edge" concept thanks to this thread. My arms and legs now reach a point where I lose awareness of them until the tingling spreads all over my body from my prostate and feels like arms and legs are floating, suspended by sexual energy... and although I can imagine it can even get better, i'm not hoping for it. My mind now focuses on whats happening and what just happened during a session, not on what I can do to make more happen. That has been the key in my case.

I hope many others at the same point I was can finally finally figure this out... seems like a simple thing, and I thought I had understood after reading so many times I shouldn't have expectations... turns out it wasn't that simple, but it was possible to really approach the sessions like that after a bit of mind training :-))

I think I haven't even experienced the intensity of a super O as many describe it here, but to be honest, things feel so nice that I'm not sure norI care anymore! 😛 I'm ready to welcome more intensity when it comes, if it comes, but if it doesn't come the way I was expecting it to come, or at all, I'm completely fine with this too 😉

Have a good day!

@mitsu1980, good to hear!

Thank you mdad for sharing with such description that I was able to follow you exactly. I was also able to duplicate the backing off and have the dry orgasms "run" on their own for the very first time. I visualize it like getting a top to spin on its own. My journey has been over 4 months now and any bit of progress gives me hope. I have re-read your posts several times and unless I missed it, you have not said that you have had the Super O. Is that true? If you have, I look forward to any other details that have taken you to that point. Thanks again for your generous sharing of details.

Congrats ReWire! That sounds great! No, I haven't had a Super-O, but I MAY have had one while I was asleep (I posted about that). I'm not focused on it, though, as Dry-O's and Prostate-O's are amazing when they occur (especially in sequence). I've been quite happy with what I've experienced so far that I feel no reason to stress over getting to another step.

Yes, "do nothing"….which, of course, is in reality DO A LOT OF THINGS SIMULTANEOUSLY.

Hi @AneRico,

I am discovering gradually more and more the "do nothing" approach in my Aneros sessions. I discovered this for sure about a week or so ago when I began lying on my right side while Anerosing. I found that in that pose, I am rather passive. Wow, my Aneros tools DO move and massage my prostate and anal canal, albeit so slowly and subtly, and yet so sweetly. Lying on my right side (my preferred position for sleeping) works especially fine with Maximus and Progasm Classic. 😉

Thom./BigGlansDC

Yes, "do nothing"….which, of course, is in reality DO A LOT OF THINGS SIMULTANEOUSLY.

Hi @AneRico,

I am discovering gradually more and more the "do nothing" approach in my Aneros sessions. I discovered this for sure about a week or so ago when I began lying on my right side while Anerosing. I found that in that pose, I am rather passive. Wow, my Aneros tools DO move and massage my prostate and anal canal, albeit so slowly and subtly, and yet so sweetly. Lying on my right side (my preferred position for sleeping) works especially fine with Maximus and Progasm Classic. 😉

Thom./BigGlansDC

Hey Thom -
I think I sleep alot on my right side, as well as on my back, and the latter position (supine) I find most conducive to Aneros (Progasm) action on my prostate. Also my penis is more accessible, either for the casual "brush" of my hand, or just as a temptation to resist. I rarely sleep prone (on my belly), but it also often makes for a good ride. I sleep nude, and have for almost forty years (I'm 52).

Unless it's uncomfortably hot, my wife will "spoon" my ass when I sleep on my right side. She sleeps very soundly, especially after she's been well f**ked, and she does know I am a frequent wanker. She generally is not aware of how often I ride my Progasm. I try to minimize loud and convulsive activity, except during coition, unless I'm alone. We have a king bed with a heavy LATEX foam mattress on a ¾ inch plywood base, and either of us could bring another person into bed and f**k wildly without waking the other!

"Do nothing" is the key to success in almost everything sexual. I am NOT suggesting the lack of vigorous activity, but an attitude toward receiving whatever erotic pleasure may be offered.

- rip

@mdad

I apologize for hogging your thread a little with this. It became a project for me to find the 'backside of the edge'. I hope I have contributed in a constructive way to your thread.

AneRico -

Your descriptive term "backside of the edge," is IMO a wonderful mantra for mindful erotic sexual enjoyment. I have previously personally used terms like "allowing myself to sink into the pleasure" (as opposed to actively seeking an escalation of genital sensuous pleasure). "The edge" is a wonderful place to exist, and is in fact (IMO) a spiritual plane. The backside of the edge is a place I can visualize, and I will be seeking to camp there for a lengthy season tonight!


Thanks.


- rip

Hi @RipTheJacker,

In contrast to you, I am a confirmed bachelor, twelve years older than you, without having the companionship of a wife. But I think I am on something with my newly discovered pose of Anerosing while lying on my right side. Both the Maximus and Progasm Classic are high-end tools of the Aneros line and are known for their aggressive action. But they give me such a full feeling as I lie on my left side as they both give me such a delicate and sweet Anerosing. 😉

Also I love very much what you have written in response to @AneRico.

Thom.

Hi @RipTheJacker,

In contrast to you, I am a confirmed bachelor, twelve years older than you, without having the companionship of a wife. But I think I am on something with my newly discovered pose of Anerosing while lying on my right side. Both the Maximus and Progasm Classic are high-end tools of the Aneros line and are known for their aggressive action. But they give me such a full feeling as I lie on my left side as they both give me such a delicate and sweet Anerosing. 😉

Also I love very much what you have written in response to @AneRico.

Thom.

I find you elusive as a butterfly - rip

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Are you a butterfly dreaming that you're a man or ...?

Are you a butterfly dreaming that you're a man or ...?

Oh no, @euphemistic! None of that! But I thank @RipTheJacker for the imagery of butterflies.

you never know unless you ask

Like you all (above) I have found this thread one of the most important and insightful ones recently active and I thank you all, especially mdad as the "instigator" and AneRico. this thread has further strengthened my sense of brotherly camaraderie with my fellow 'travelers' and for that, too, I am grateful .