Has anyone opened up about this to friends?

I opened up to one friend with whom I knew was "into things that others might not be". He was supportive, but said "butt things" were not really his area of interest. He asked no questions and didn't ask for an explanation. He and I are both into bondage and we did talk at length about that.

I also informed my wife. She had more questions than my friend - all related to "why?" and "safety". We now joke about my prostate all the time. She has very little interest in it. She occasionally asks questions- "where does that go?" And "How many times a week are you doing that?" Nothing sexual interests her anymore after menopause- a shame cause she was such a vixen when we first met.

I've been dying to tell my other friends but the right moment has not developed and I'm sure they'd never stop ribbing me about it -which is totally cool - that's how we are to each other! 🙂

I told my two best friends over the course of the past couple weeks. I had a feeling they'd be open to it, as one is gay and the other is just a generally open, enthusiastic being. I mostly led with the multiple orgasm angle and felt it out from there.They responded with a lot of interest and looking to order their first Aneros.

It feels good to talk to someone about it! I also had a close lady friend (completely platonic) that I talked to about the glory of the prostate, multiple orgasms etc. It's was a fun conversation to have over beers at a bar. Getting the first sentence on the topic is tough because that perfect moment for a prostate-conversation shift never really comes, but at least in my social circles it seems like a reasonable topic.

e: kegels are also a pretty safe and fun topic that most women are familiar with.

@RidingWaves11 - nice topic idea (Kegles)! Cheers to you for braving the topic!

Hey @Buddha ,

you might find this thread interesting!

Cheers, Unfug

Yes I have opened up to my friends about this but not to my wife.

@Buddha you might also be interested in this poll:
​​​​​​​ https://community.aneros.com/community/community-polls/147196-sharing-aneros-experiences-with-others

Good vibes to you.

Never done that and never will
living in a conservative country where even guys are wearing a shirt to the waterpark to swim in, I do not think that I will ever feel comfortable talking about me using aneros/prostate massager or even playing with my butt to my friends. As much as I would want to share, I just could not get pass of my comfort zone.

That's only between me, my wife.. and the internet lol

@veon You must live in east Texas. I feel like I can relate. Luckily I’m long gone. Move to the city! I’m sure my friends are open to discussing it here. Hell, most of them are in open relationships. I’m just waiting for the right moment.

While traveling on the road with my wife, we had a great lengthy open discussion about. It was awesome actually. She learned some things and supports me even more and likewise. Nothing like open communication!

Great topic.

While I embrace candor and openness with the people at the center of our concentric circles, there's such a thing as too much honesty, and I don't want outside opinions up my ass too, as it were.

It's important in any relationship to know where the lines are; that keeps things healthy. I've asked and chatted with her about such things (like HereBy's conversation above- well earned fruit, that. I've had a handful of these, and they always feel like a new door opens between us). However, my wife has always been clear about her resistance to anal anything. As a result, I feel there are a few things that just aren't important for her to know; should we always tell each other when we masturbate? And really, what fun are cookies if you can't sneak a few when no one's looking?

Re. Aneriding, what's the point of a business envelope? Is it that we're hiding something, or that it's just private business between selected recipients? Sure, if someone asks, and it's a vault conversation, I'd cop, but my guard's staying up on this one. My lovely little toys don't come with an application to Ass Awareness of America.

My prostate is my business. What makes this forum rock is that we all understand the value of privacy, community, and anonymity, and we help each other understand and get off. Hamlet said it best: "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."

I wonder which model he liked best?

Oh, and 'her' is my wife. Just wanted to avoid entanglements.

I have two on line female friends that I have met in real life. I have talked extensively to both of them about it. One of them I gave an erotic massage to during a sleep over we had in a hotel room. I demonstrated for the one I gave the massage to in that overnight we spent together. I would never tell my male friends.

I guess I just feel like this is something that can be helpful for all men, so part of me wants to be open about it in order to contribute to a potential future in which this is accepted as a normal aspect of a man’s sex life. I feel like this is helping me learn to relax and better examine my body and emotions. I’m sure most in here would agree that there are benefits to prostate play outside of the orgasms themselves, and maybe this is wishful thinking, but I think a society with more men who explore this aspect of themselves is sure to be a better society. It would certainly be a more open one, and I’m more and more convinced that it’s that mentality which allows for real progress.

I havent and I doubt I ever will. My wife got me into it. But its too taboo a subject so right now its my dirty secret that only me and my wife conversate about.

I do agree. I wish we could have open discussions about this cause man...I think every guy would love and benefit from an Aneros.