Frustrated (almost 3 years later) Please Help!

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@pspotsquirter

Well then sorry I guess I misunderstood your sarcastic, rhetorical, and cryptic responses. You sure came across like the devils advocate...

And WOW, why does the mention of religion chap some of your butts so much? I asked for help, but I am not going to accept destructive advice. Her ex husband was an asshole and continues to prove such. She did everything she could to try to save their marriage and I respect that and believe she will put the same care and attention in to our marriage. The difference is she has a loving and committed partner this time. And for what it's worth she has told me that believe or not she's much more comfortable with me and has done far more sexually than in the past. So there's that. I'm not above seeking professional help and we've talked about counseling, but I had questions pertaining to aneros as well and some of you have been very helpful of others when it comes to relationship advice.

Perhaps my OP came across wrong. She's not damaged goods, she's a Ferrari that just needs a tune up. Unfortunately I'm an engineer, not a mechanic, but I have faith I'll figure it out in time. She probably just needs patience and time to figure out that sex is a beautiful positive thing; a gift that God gives us. 🙂

Apparently some of you also take issue with men who stay faithful and true to their vows...guilty?

@sensitiveguy22,

i think you should consider ceasing participation in this thread except to discuss aneros specifics.

the thread is degenerating into non-productive topics, and topics that are not appropriate on this forum.

darwin

Well I'm sorry darwin but that's not really my fault. I tried to redirect the flow but I keep being attacked and I won't stand for it!

I politely reiterated that I didn't ask for criticism or judgment. I asked for helpful advice and for the most part all I've gotten has been negativity and attacks on my beliefs...

Fun fact.. Women who come out of an abusive relationship often find themselves in......

I'm leaving this thread. Good luck to you sir!

My advice to you is to read Dave Packards 11 simple rules.

OK. Sensitiveguy, you remind me of myself in many ways. I'm no expert, but based on my own experience, I'd say that you are probably gay... You just don't know it yet. I grew up in a very religious background and it took some time for my sexuality to develop, and a lot of soul searching to finally realize who i was.

The fact that you have only been with this one girl (who happens to dislike sex), might be subconsciously convenient to someone who might not fully enjoy heterosexual sex. If you think about it, you are knowingly and willfully choosing to be stuck in a sexless marriage for the rest of your life. There is no doubt you love her. But since your biggest priority is to do God's plan (and not to pursue your own happiness in a healthy relationship), there is a chance you might just be doing what your religious views expect you to do. That is, marrying a woman and live "happy ever after," regardless of whether you are truly happy or not.

You do have a sexual libido. Your body does want sex and intimacy. So why choose a path that would deny you of that? Sexuality is not black or white. It is something very complex. Some of us just need to learn about ourselves as we go, and have to learn to let go of the mold we were taught as being "ideal" and the one supposedly God wants for us.

Take my humble advice for what it is. I will be more than happy to lend an ear if you need one. Best luck to you.

Interesting theory, but no. While I do suppose it's possible I'm bi I'm definitely not gay. My fiancee can turn me on in a heartbeat without even touching me. Just her presence in the room is often arousing and her scent is intoxicating. I love touching her and eating her pussy but sadly she rarely lets me...

Also I highly doubt that gay men watch lesbian porn, which prior to meeting her I had an extensive collection of. I trashed it all because she views porn as cheating more or less. That's ok though she's sexier than any porn star; don't need any other visual stimuli and when I jerk off I'm thinking about her.