Frequency and Duration of Edging/Surfing Sessions?

@goldenboy Great topic! I generally start out with good intentions but unfortunately due to lack of willpower it doesn’t last long. I am definitely going to try my best with the challenge that SOwithoutAneros mentioned. I am now at day 19 of SR and ready to blow. Doubt I will have the opportunity to try until Friday, I will give it my best shot and report back.

@goldenboy My edging sessions are several times a week, sometimes less because of job obligations. They are mostly in the morning when T levels are higher for a seven decade old but still sexually hungry male. Abstaining from edging every day makes the pleasure more enjoyable every other day or every third or fourth day as my time allows.

Nipple play and making deep meditative love to myself and enjoying/concentrating/focusing on the pleasures generated in my penis, prostate, rectum, chest/breast muscles and sometimes pleasure all over my body becomes a spiritual exercise that regenerates my aging frame and causes me to feel years younger. For me, it is imperative to abandon all thinking, comparison of feeling, analyzing all feelings, and immerse my self in the pleasure of the moment, being very aware of the subtle pangs of bliss which are generated in my glans, shaft or prostate which when concentrated/focused on can become keys to deeper and more intense pleasure.

I can have a ruined orgasm with the release of only a small amount of semen or prostatic fluid and continue edging.

Edging &solo play I surmise to be a great sexual outlet for aging men with wives who are victims of low hormones where vaginal sex is plagued with vaginismus or other problems.

One thing that I have found is that when I hit the PONR and stop or cool down, the intensity and pleasure builds to great intensity and pleasure everytime you reach the PONR and continue the edging.

This nipple play, prostate involved,edging makes an older guy feel years younger.

The edging session can be brief as in 30 minutes or so which includes my stops and/or cool down time from the PONR or they can go on longer to an hour or so or even longer if I have time

I can enter an aroused state where the pleasure is easily accessed after a cool down or stop period where a good erection is quickly provoked in a subsequent session.

Or, I have found that sometimes, the erectile quality of each successive edging session may not be as firm, but the pleasure is there. I don't worry about the lesser erections as I have read other guys report this too. It seems at least for me, the more the prostate becomes aroused, the more erectile quality might be affected negatively. I would like to hear from others guys who may have had similar erectile diminution the longer the edging session goes on. I chalked this up to prostate involvement, but it may be age.

Edging & solo play I surmise to be a great sexual outlet for aging men with wives who are victims of low hormones where vaginal sex is plagued with vaginismus or other problems. [...] This nipple play, prostate involved, edging makes an older guy feel years younger.

So absolutely true!

@goldenboy, my edging frequency too varies a lot due to errands, work shedule, available me-time and so on. It sometimes lasts even a whole day or only some blissful moments.

Lately I stumbled upon a technique described by a domme in her manual about the sexual education of men. She said, the best would be, her hubby would edge himself, as he would be able to get much closer to the PONR, because it were his feelings and he could react much quicker to stop every stimulation to avoid an ejaculation. But the preferred technique should not be stroking his shaft up and down, for much better control he instead should focus on and only stimulate a certain spot of his foreskin, his frenulum just below the glans, what she named the male clit. Gladly I'm uncircumcised and could try this technique. Whoever has retained some foreskin there, should fully draw it back and try to grab the skin right below the glans with pointer, middlefinger and thumb as gentle as possible. Believe me, that's it. Don't do anything else, perhaps tug a tiny little bit. I always get hard and heavily aroused in no time. It feels awesome.

What a joy. As often as I can, for example after nearly every peeing, I indulge myself in a little edging session of perhaps five to fifteen minutes. First I gently massaged my frenulum, now I only hold it and only every now and then tug a tiny little bit. And who knew? It became even a little more intense with every session.

There is still so much to discover! 😀 Life is wonderful!

I discovered during this last edging session that I was super-hard then somewhat soft, but I regained the hardness right back before the ruined orgasm.

I don't edge as often as I would like for fear of the "blue-balls". Is it always necessary to ejaculate at the end of an edging if the "blue-balls" are imminent? Any suggestions here?

Right now my balls have a dull, low grade ache in them and I would think that that is blue balls. I choose to ignore that dull ache and go on with life. So many things ache at seven decades even with gym work and proper diet that I just go on and ignore the aches.

Am I endangering anything in my reproductive system guys? If I do ejaculate, I hate that low, ragged out feeling with little hunger for edging or intimacy with my wife. So my trade off is to put up with the dull ache and go on. I am open for rebuke or comments.

@goldenboy. Thanks for your report of lesser erections in your edging sessions. Like you, when I get to the PONR in times of lesser erections, I do regain the hardness especially if I hang close to the PONR for extended periods.

I find that if I can reduce the touch on my penis to very light stimulation and touch along with nipple play, I can flirt with the PONR and experience intense pleasure that makes my legs shake and sometimes pleasure all over my body. Any similar experiences?

I find that if I can reduce the touch on my penis to very light stimulation and touch along with nipple play, I can flirt with the PONR and experience intense pleasure that makes my legs shake and sometimes pleasure all over my body. Any similar experiences?

Exactly what I just did at the sink. Flirting with the PONR is a wonderful description for that ride on the edge. And I managed to have a slo-mo ruined orgasm at its best, my semen only slowly oozing out. Managed to let it flow like peeing. Only a half teaspoon or so. No refractory period, still blue balls from nearly two weaks of SR, and arousal still high. Let's see how the blanket looks like tomorrow, 😉

Edging has been my favorite hobby as of late and I do it almost daily. All the credit to SOwithoutAneros who told me about edgemeplease.com back in May. Love that website and I so wish there was an app. I started off doing the “normal” difficulty and worked my way up from there. If I have just had a traditional orgasm I find I can do the “long” version on this website. It is quite challenging but I make it through. This may last about 45 minutes. Currently I am on day 15 of SR. When I do my edging session now, about 10 to 15 minutes is all I can handle so to make sure I don’t blow! LOL. A couple days a week I will wake up in the middle of the night with a boner that I just can’t ignore. These are some of my favorite edging sessions. With my wife sleeping next to me I stroke my cock as slowly and cautiously as possible to make sure I don’t wake her. I’ll do this until precum is completely covering my cock and my hand slides back and forth really easily. I can hear the sound of the slippery fluid between my cock and my hand. Typically these sessions can last an hour, as it takes quite a while to get there with the slow, deliberate strokes that I am doing. I lose over an hour sleep but it is so worth it!!

I edge maybe once a month? Happy to report I was able to edge for 30 minutes tonight... so many times I had to clamp down (thanks Kegles!) to stop from ejaculating. I thought I was going to go further but then I lost it in one catostrophic moment... lol.

now I'm "down" physically... grrr.

anyway, I also edge / tease when I have the nocturnal erections - not every time, maybe a few times a month. I also do a much slower pace so I don't wake up the wife.

Great topic @goldenboy I had thought of starting a similar one. So to answer your original question I'd say ever other day or so with aneros sessions on off days. As to length always at least 30 minutes although some have gone on for well over an hour.
I stumbled onto this edging thing after seeing a post on here about multiple penile orgasms and wanted to give it a try. So for about the last month I've started to really get into it. Even though I did try the video suggested by @SOwithoutAneros , which was fun, I have found that I can control things better without watching porn. I have been able to learn how to stay on the edge for much longer and it does feel like you are having an orgasm that lasts for as long as a half hour. The key was to learn to separate the orgasm from ejaculation. I guess it's another kind of rewiring.
Since I started edging I almost never have a TO. In the last month I think I've only had one and it was kind of weak although I do sometimes leak some semen while edging. I do wonder about getting blue balls but to this point have not had any problems. I did read somewhere that your body will naturally release any built up fluids on it's own. Maybe someone with more knowledge on the subject could help out.

I was wondering how many use lube while edging. I find I can last a bit longer if I don’t lube my penis, the lube seems to intensify the stimulation. Also, what about cock rings, ball rings, is it cheating a bit? I see that Dr Cumcontrol always uses one on his recipients.

@Harper I used Wet Platinum silicone lube for this edging session and it was awesome! It didn't dry-out like my water-based lubes and had to be re-applied about half-way. I think that without lube, I may have lasted the full 73 minutes. Is it "cheating" to use lube while edging? Open for discussion...

As long as I am deliberately trying to surf and to stay on the edge, I'd always allow myself a little "cheating" - may it be lube or no lube (imho depending on being circumcised or not) or a different pace than exactly demanded, never mind!

Concerning the coherence between circumcision and masturbation technique I lately stumbled across a very interesting site about the penile frenulum (“frem”) and "fremgasm", where Glen Callender is providing some valuable visuals (surely NSFW!). Blame on me for only stroking up and down for decades.

To kill the clock, to achieve the longest time as high on the edge as possible and to get the best result possible, whether a perfectly ruined orgasm, slowly oozing a little amount of cum, or an awesome TO hitting the ceiling - after all, to harvest a lot of blissful ecstasy - nothing else matters.

Fap on! :p

@SOwithoutAneros I couldn’t resist trying out your suggestion of pinching the skin near the frenulum. After less than a minute I could feel something stirring and began to produce some pre cum. I had to stop before I went too far. That area for me is so sensitive that I try to avoid it during masturbation. Instead I often concentrate on the part that is directly opposite the frenulum. With the foreskin pulled right back I gently place the edge of my index finger just where the foreskin is attached just behind the head of the glans, moving my finger in a come hither manner, no more than about quarter of an inch and never going completely onto the glans drives me crazy. I have had many ruined orgasms followed by a TO using this method, ‘tis my favourite way to go.

@SOwithoutAneros Bro. What other tricks are you withholding from us guys on this site who love orgasmic delight in any form.

When I read your following of and link to Glen Callender, I tried his three methods/suggestions with a flaccid penis in a bathroom break at work. I was quickly getting hard.

MEN: @SOwithoutAneros' RECOMMENDATION TO THOSE OF US WITH FORESKINS POINTS US TO A SACRED SPOT(S) INVOLVING THE FRENULUM WHICH TO ME IS MORE EROGENOUS AND ORGASMIC THAN MY GLANS OR SULCUS OR ANY OTHER PART OF MY PENIS.

I am surprised that this spot(s) is not mentioned anywhere in tantric or doctrines of similar ilk on MMOs, SUPER Os, etc. To you who have studied eastern arousal, is this mentioned in their findings????

@SOwithoutAneros, please give us more of these type suggestions. No wonder you are in a state of blissful ecstasy as you describe.

I cant wait to get home in a relaxed and private setting to sound the depth of Callender's methods. Looks like he is lubed up for greater sensitivity.

I feel like I have started writing a new chapter in edging and MMO delight. With nipple play, these suggestions are instantly orgasmic.

My first post ever. Have been a dedicated user for maybe 15 years since getting my first HIH product at the suggestion of my doctor. Only joined the forum about 6 months ago at the time I bought the Helix Trident. This topic particularly caught my interest upon seeing that others in the 60 and 70 age range still have an active and frequent solo pleasure practice as have maintained. Really nice to know I’m not alone in that respect. Neat to hear about the Fremgasm here and the male squirting on different topic thread. Love getting new ideas for techniques for edging. To get back on topic, my frequency is pretty much daily for 20 to 30 minutes of edging usually in conjunction with an infrared sauna session. A bit of a passive cardio workout at the same time due to the heat. Aneros sessions are separate. Usually early morning before arising 2 or 3 times per week for about one hour. I sure appreciate everyone’s input and really like knowing other older guys are involved in these wonderful pursuits.

MEN: @SOwithoutAneros' RECOMMENDATION TO THOSE OF US WITH FORESKINS POINTS US TO A SACRED SPOT(S) INVOLVING THE FRENULUM WHICH TO ME IS MORE EROGENOUS AND ORGASMIC THAN MY GLANS OR SULCUS OR ANY OTHER PART OF MY PENIS. ...

I am surprised that this spot(s) is not mentioned anywhere

Overpraise, I'm afraid, it's like gold mining, sometimes a lucky guy finds a very surprising big nugget. 😎

I'm surprised too! And I'm only thankful that this mean kinky young woman likes to tease men and to share her so ingenious ideas about femdom and how to stimulate us men until we can only beg for a release. Nevertheless take care, as a lot of Jenny's content is much too kinky even for me and surely NSFW!

With nipple play, these suggestions are instantly orgasmic.

Affirmative! Nipple play can push a lot of things.

@Turnrow, I'm full of anticipation to read more about your further experiences, but I recommend to try it dryly first. :p

@Harper, this spot of my penis has always been much too sensitive to me for any longer stimulation. Only this new technique to dryly tease that spot as gentle as possible made the difference. And therefore I must re-emphasize, that my best results I personally got with strictly dry skin of my frenulum and my fingers. I even avoided to let any precum drip towards that area.

Try to be patient and don't move your fingers, let only your upcoming erection tug at your skin. And the best is yet to come.

Concerning your described technique please read about the the muco-cutaneous junction and multiple ridged band orgasm, both NSFW!, I think these are too some big nuggets you've discovered and I have to try your favorite technique soon.

Precum dripping greetings, Mart

@SOwithoutAneros this makes me curious. I am circumcised. So does this mean I don’t have a frenulum and can’t perform this technique? What a shame if that is true! The more I learn about this the more upset I get that I had this wonderful part of my body removed all without my permission or consent, given I was only a day old. Also can’t help but feel guilty as I have two boys and we had them both circumcised. If I only knew then what I know now...

@jekyll&hyde, I'm sorry, but that may be, if your treating physician didn't let you retain at least a bit of it.

Men circumcised as children in the standard North American/Jewish style may never experience this orgasm — it depends on how much of their frenulum the circumciser left behind, and whether any frem remnant (or “frem-nant” if you will) developed properly during adolescence. For more discussion of the harm circumcision causes to the frenulum and its orgasms, see Circumcision and the frem. (from can-fap.net)

And it's the reason for the Glen Callender's campaign CAN-FAP (Canadian Foreskin Awareness Project). On their website (partly NSFW!) you can find all the details and maybe take part in the circumcision debate. IMHO everyone should voice his indignation. Don't forget women suffering from female genital cutting in some few cultures around the world. A chorus of outrage is long due.

“When my worries oppress my body, with my left hand, I release my pent-up fluids.” —Ancient graffiti in Pompeii

Most men’s sex education begins in self-imposed exile, alone, with his dick in his hand. Typically somewhere in middle school, a boy finds that his urine cannon is also a pleasure stick. What a glorious discovery that is! Then that boy’s natural-born sexual curiosity quickly becomes a source of shame. He learns that masturbation is dirty, wrong, pathetic and certainly not to be discussed. Hidden from guilt and shame, hoping like hell he’ll never get caught, he’s left to figure out his first lessons in sex and pleasure — all by himself.

Counterintuitively, though, the best sex writing you’ll find about male pleasure, like this post, is on women-centered sites like Bustle. Thanks to the feminist revolution, women have been taking their pleasure seriously for decades. They understand that arousal and climax is a form of freedom and power. Meanwhile, men enjoy a far less examined sex life. It’s time, however, to change all that.

These quotes are from another interesting source I stumbled upon, although titled and written in an amusing ironical manner, cutting right to the chase of the matter.

How Did You Learn to Masturbate?
Six men on the first time they choked the chicken—
and the lifelong wank session that's followed.

I am a verbal - written - mental exhibitionist. I don't edge or masturbate myself at all. My sessions are always preceded by erotic writing, sexting with an on line buddy (of either sex) or mental imagery or fantasy. My wife does my masturbating and edging for me. I find it much more erotic to have her do me than doing it myself. For her part she has become happy to do it for me when she is not in the mood or is too tired.

If you only want a short summary.

Just the Tips on Frenulum Stimulation for People With a Penis

@SOwithoutAneros Thanks so much for your tip on Callenders RIDGED BANDS MULTIPLE ORGASMS.

My first impression was that only younger guys like Callender are able to do this and surely not older guys.

So after the staff cleared out of the office, I tried this late yesterday afternoon at work with no lube and no visuals. For a guy over seventy, I was amazed and blown away at the great connection between the highly pleasurable fondling of the ridged bands and multiple orgasms with semen.

In about three mintues, I had orgasmed with cum three times and no refractory period or fading of my erection. The second and third orgams were enhanced utilizing the cum for lube which made the experience even more pleasurable.

I could have gone on, but I was blown away/completely dumbfounded by being able to do this at my age. I must say for myself that concurrent nipple play for me in this ridged bands multiple orgasm brings on the intense orgasmic pleasure and the pleasurable firing up of my aging cock.

All men with intact foreskins should try this out if they are solo practitioners.

@jekyll&hyde I am glad my dad was intact (as much as I could tell) and that he left my brother and I intact. I would not let your being circumcised sully your sexuality.

I would encourage you to fire up the connection of your nipples to your prostate, your sulcus, coronal ridge, your glans and even the area of your frenulum if it is removed. Nipple play is as much mental as it is physical. After you feel pleasure anywhere on the components of your glans or shaft of your cock, concentrating and focusing mentally on that pleasure with relaxation, causes the pleasure to build the more you relax and allow the pleasure to consume you (while stimulating your nipples.)

You have a lot going for you in what is left of your sexuality as a man.

I wish you well.

Gave the cock hero challenge a try last night. I lasted for just over 30 minutes but it was great fun. I was at day 21 of SR. I had to adjust some of the time periods to suit how I felt and didn’t meet the the first “ruin”. I found that being instructed as to when to start, stop and how fast gave it another dimension and actually helped me not to rush. Also I barely noticed the accompanying porn as I was intent on looking at the instructions. Definitely going to make this a regular thing but are there any edging assistants without the porn? Some vocal instructions would be nice.

@SOwithoutAneros -

Sorry to trouble you, but I can't find your original post for this thread. It's a good one, and wanted to read your thinking. I just hit the button to subscribe to you, but could you repost it or guide me to it?

Cheers,

Z

@Harper and @Z as well, thank you for focusing us on the original post. As often mentioned, I trained my "Frequency and Duration of Edging/SurfingSessions" (some of us remember the question of the original post, sorry, @goldenboy for nearly taking over your thread 😮 - I was by using a text based site called edgemeplease. It's as simple as helpful and you can choose the options referring to your stamina, endurance and grit.

@Harper (and @Z as well) thank you for focusing us on the original post.

are there any edging assistants without the porn? Some vocal instructions would be nice.

@Harper, although I can't offer you a vocal assistant, I can recommend a text based version I successfully trained my "Frequency and Duration of Edging/SurfingSessions*" with. (*Some of us still remember this question as the original post, sorry, @goldenboy for nearly taking over your thread 😮
- I apologize for letting myself get carried away by the questions. Never mind!)

The referred site stays without any porn except for explicit language and is bluntly called edgemeplease. It's as simple as helpful and first and foremost can be easily customized. To begin with you can choose the options referring to your stamina, endurance and grit. Depending on your results and due to your further progress you always choose the appropriate option, as there are duration, difficulty level and after all "Yes" or "No" answering the question "Do you want to cum?" Spoiler alarm: The concrete decision is not left to your discretion. As one of the rules remarks drily, "If the screen turns bright red, sorry, it's not your lucky day."

The frequency and duration of my own edging/surfing sessions in between are reaching giddy heights. Yesterday morning having a lot of me time I surfed for about one and half an hour on the edge with an explosive happy ending. It was my first and extraordinary blissful ejaculation from pure multiple ridged band stimulation without touching my glans at all but admittedly with a little help from my steely friend Tempo. Further details will be disclosed in my blog - hopefully soon - as meanwhile only grabbing my frenulum lets me jump on the edge - much distracting I can tell.

Cheers!

SOwithoutAneros: You said in your post of yesterday:

The frequency and duration of my own edging/surfing sessions in between are reaching giddy heights. Yesterday morning having a lot of me time I surfed for about one and half an hour on the edge with an explosive happy ending. It was my first and extraordinary blissful ejaculation from pure multiple ridge band stimulation without touching my glans at all but admittedly with a little help from my steely friend Tempo. Further details will be disclosed in my blog - hopefully soon - as meanwhile only grabbing my frenulum lets me jump on the edge - much distracting I can tell.

Bro. An hour and a half??? You must have approached the gooning state that I have read of about guys edging that long. On a side note, I wonder if there are any guys who claim to be "gooners" and who are now rewired with or without the aneros. I wonder how their gooning experiences compare with the Super O.

Did I miss your blog bro? Just know if you haven't written it, that I am sure several of us guys on this site want to hear the details of the pleasure and arousal and ecstatic bliss brought on by an hour and a half of multiple ridge band stimulation. I would think that that method of phallic pleasure is not known to many guys. Details, please, Sir........

Details, please, Sir........

As requested, Bro! 😎