first time newbee-gctid4729

Sorry to hear about the lovely wife with no desire, but congratulations on your beginner's luck!

Now, details, details on how you managed success so quickly!

Welcome to the Forum w koester !!

I'm normally quiet during my 'journey' sessions but hours following a good session with Dame Aneros I moan loudly in my sleep and never awaken myself or recall a dream unless it turns wet. Moaning in my sleep started as a rarity but has become routine and follows most sessions with or without a mini-O.

The moans usually awaken our dog. That triggers loud barking either at the foot of our bed or outside the door to our bedroom. We have not determined whether the dog is concerned or jealous. 😆

My wife occasionally wakes me to console me when I shout in my sleep (recurring quote, "NO, NO, NO.") I never recall any dreams but this is probably a 'furball' (Jack Johnson term) down inside my being. Keeping all this in the open seems to help my mental health, and more importantly provides an extra topic of communication with my spouse.

Spouses, who have lived with us for decades and have grown accustomed to our erotic whims get very concerned/worried/insecure when our behaviors change. It's our responsibility to not dump mysterious worries upon them as we open the door to our own pleasure -- not the least of which might be, "is he going Bi on me?"

Suggestions: Accept that you are eventually going to share an increasing amount of your orgasmic experiences with your wife -- some verbally -- some up close and personal. Be very sensitive to her concerns and desires regarding small details some will seem strange. (Early on, my wife had no qualms about a white Helix or SGX hanging in our shower but asked that I not leave the black Progasm in my shower caddy.)

There will be some tough bridges to cross and some heavy soul searching from time to time. Make sure she is a part of your search. Enjoy!