I've been getting some involuntaries that start small after insertion and gradually get more intense. I start getting the whole leaking thing but no pleasure except for around the surface of my anus. The contractions eventually get intense but seem to roll right through to into my erect penis (I don't touch it) which makes it buck up and down and then it repeats. It's almost like my penis is stealing the show. I try to relax everything and let the contractions go, but I can't help it and my legs tense up and penis starts going again.
Your journey is what it is! As you progress, your focus may shift more to your Prostate and away from your penis..,at least that was my experience! Be patient and keep going!
TG
As another user told me, 90% of the work toward a super o is done without a toy - check out the Aneros Wiki under the Advanced Techniques, and look for "Tug of War."
And as TG just told you, your journey is what it is. Suspend expectation, and do what feels natural for YOU...I see it as getting our minds out of the way so our bodies can teach us about pleasure.
Happy Motoring