Excitement: Important?

Problem I have had is waiting to become aroused to initiate a session.
As you become older this becomes less frequent.

I find that the monotony of preparing a session is similar to this as well, it sort of tiring and not exciting, going through the motions etc

@DarkEngine --- I think I know the feelings you describe. I think I like that part of the experience! Only because it has happened a few times, and then returns with a vengeance, any doubts about what lay ahead is erased from my mind once I realize what's happening! I'm mostly an optimist, which I think helps! Just my two cents!

TG

Can one be relaxed and excited at the same time?
Definitely. It's something I've been focused on for a while as one of my ever-shifting roadblocks. I find when the pleasure gets good enough, I can make the pleasure itself the source of excitement. And out of that, a trance-like focus descends, where everything else disappears. My world shrinks down to involuntaries, pleasure and monitoring my own muscular tension. At that point I'm relaxed, but not in a sleepy drift-off kind of way, most of me has gone away, but a part of me is very awake and interested.

I don't have to do anything to create excitement, because the excitement is already there in the form of anticipation. Anticipation of the next involuntary. A part of me still has to monitor my muscles to make sure I release them enough for the involuntary to happen. I need to make sure I'm not holding a clamp.
I've also found a much closer relationship between involuntaries and the pleasure they produce, in that they're almost the same thing. One able to create the other. I'd always thought of them as separate, but when things are going well, they blur together.

I never really moaned in sessions, but I can see how that mindset would help. Like if you imagine what state of mind you'd have to be in to feel like moaning... an in-the-moment sense of lust and surrender. That you don't have to inject imaginary sex into what's happening, because what's happening in reality already is sex, or at least some form of it. I think it helps massively to connect with the aneros session itself on an erotic level. That it's not just a pleasure tool, but part of an actual sexual experience you're having.

Agreed that it's important, but as I've discovered recently it's something can happen as a result of feeling pwaves, you don't necessarily need to be excited before begging a session (though it's always best to be)