Erection problems after Aneros

Thanks for posting this in the forum! There are a LOT of men in the forum with lots of different issues and experiences and someone here will give you advice or create a discussion.

First, don't panic! Prostate stimulation through manual means (like toy like Aneros or with a finger, or a dildo, etc.) creates a lot of new sensations that effect your rectum, anus, prostate, and penis in many different ways. I'm going to speak only from my experiences and mine are different, but in some ways similar, to a lot of people here.

I want to first ask how old you are. Erections and their quality change as we age. I'm not saying that Aneros suddenly made you older, but Aneros does things inside me that affects the way I get an erection while the toy is in me.

I always find it harder to get erect with a toy in me. Some members here say that they are hard the whole time without touching themselves while Aneros is in them. I'm the exact opposite. I get like 50-75% hard without touching it while a toy is in me, but I have to manually work on my cock to get it hard if I have a toy inside. The contact on my prostate is intense when I'm fully erect and I have to apply constant stimulation to my cock to keep it hard. I don't have to do this much when I don't have a toy in me.

I don't think that your body is "craving prostate orgasm" and not penile orgasm more or less. You've awakened your prostate very quickly in a major way it seems! But you should not have trouble getting hard unless you gave yourself an injury, which doesn't seem to be the case here. When I have prostate orgasms, including super orgasms, I'm never ever hard. In fact I'm extremely flaccid. But that's just how my equipment works with Aneros; for others here it's different.

When you got erect before Aneros, did it happen on its own or did you have to touch yourself to get hard?
When you got erect with Aneros inside you, did it happen on its own or did you have to use your hand?
When you have sex with your wife, does she get you hard or do you do it? Or does your cock get hard without touching it?

I'm asking because it sounds like you've experienced sexual stimulation and pleasure that is stronger than anything you've ever felt before, and that's great! But, it's maybe made your brain see sex related things differently now. Maybe the old ways you got hard don't work anymore and you need to find new stimulation or ways to achieve orgasm (like, does she touch you to get you hard before sex or did you always do it yourself?). I'm suggesting that maybe you need more intense or different stimulation to get it going because the Aneros amplified your sexual response to such a high degree that the "old" ways you had sex and got erect, etc., are old ways now and Aneros has opened you up to pleasure you never expected.

Try new things now in bed with your wife! Also, have you tried to get hard alone without her? I know you said "I have never been unable to get an erection before" and that you masturbated daily and "do get an erection easily". Maybe you need to try new things??

Sorry if I didn't give you any advice, but I'm trying! Good luck man please let us know how things are going!!

Thanks for your reply techpump.

I am 43 years old. I have managed to get erections before by simply getting aroused, even without touching my penis. Even not very aroused erection has been easy by just begin touching my penis and continuing from there. Now that I think about it, it might have become slightly mechanical action lately. Just wanking and ejaculating for the sake of quick satisfaction and relief. With Aneros inside, I got only erected the first time by itself just from excitement. Other time I had to use my hands to get it hard. I've learned that if there is erection during Aneros session that's ok but if not that is also completely normal. Usually I've been getting hard with my wife by just getting aroused or by my wife touching my penis

I tried to masturbate yesterday and today, but my thoughts are all over the place and my concentration for the whole thing is a mess. My brain just does not function like it was used to. Again, there is pre cum, I even did ejaculate but erection was minimal. So there is feel in my penis, it is not numb or anything like that.

I am suspecting that this has a lot to do with my brain. I am surprised I am so sensitive to Aneros I can achieve such strong orgasms from it so fast and only after few uses.

Maybe it just did break the norm, the safe way of having ejaculation and satisfaction. Maybe it just did it with such intensity that I am still kinda trying to figure out what happened.

Actually, when I first got Aneros, I thought I was just getting an ordinary butt plug. Which turned out to be something completely different. I only started to read this forum after I bought it and found out the sensations it brought on me.

@Boof IMHO, @techpump has given you good advice. One of the first things new users of Aneros learn (according to the Wiki) and may be somewhat counter-intuitive is: [LIST=1]

It is a hard lesson, especially if you are used to regular sex and masturbation. It seems to me that your body is getting confused with respect to erections. If you are still in the "learning mode" with your Aneros sessions, you really should concentrate only on your prostate, not your penis! Put some "distance" between a prostate stim session and any masturbation (or sex). If you are going to continue "regular" Aneros sessions, there will have to be a trade-off. I don't think you can have it all! But there is no reason to doubt that your erections will be substandard when they occur. They may just take a little more time to happen. Are you willing to accept the challenge?

When I perform my Aneros sessions, I am usually wearing a "chastity cup" on purpose and so I don't even know (or care) what my penis is doing. My attention is solely on my prostate where it belongs.

Another question for you: are you experiencing "normal" night-time erections? If you do, then your internal "plumbing" is performing at a good level and you do not need to worry about your erectile response.

In summary, then, your penis is not going anywhere. You will continue to have night-time erections. And you will need to ejaculate periodically either through sex or masturbation (or even a wet dream!). Find that balance that gives you the most pleasure from your Aneros sessions, sex and masturbation! It may take some time and adjustment, but it can be done and will be well worth it! Good luck to you!

Yes I do have those night time erections. I was thinking that maybe I have to make normal intercourse and Aneros session clearly two separate events. Not to be mixed with each other. Same with masturbation. Maybe my body just needs to adjust to that and is a little confused now when I have kinda mixed them.

Just might be the case that my body and mind needs some kind of adjustment on this whole thing. I never expected this to be so intense. Or like I said, I bought Aneros a bit of accidentally when just searching for a butt plug to spice up the sex life with my wife. Which was kinda becoming quite flat and nonexistent. That might be usual after quite a long marriage (15 years) and as I feel I am pretty active sexually do not want that to happen.

seems like I can get night time erection. Woke up this morning with nice erection. Well, after awhile thought to try some masturbation but stopped quite soon as there was no erection and my mind could not concentrate a bit. Took a slight break. After awhile, decided to watch some porn. I usually have had quite a quick erection by just watching some porn. Not this time. It felt kinda boring. After browsing some clips I found one that was really good and had slow pace and some real passion in it, some kind of real home video of a beautiful woman masturbating. Watched it and started slowly masturbate myself. And there you go, erection and ejaculation. Did not even take too long.

So it must not be anything physical, it really is something to do with my mind. Maybe I am just trying too hard on focusing with my penis and erections. Have to loosen a bit and just go with the flow. What happens just happens or doesn't. I am ok with that, only that I slightly feel bad for my wife as she is very intercourse centric and might feel kinda halfway through without actual intercourse during sexual activities. I bought some nice toys for her at the same time with Aneros so we can have fun together with them (already done multiple times, without that erection) and try to encourage her to masturbate once in awhile. I really am turned on the idea of her masturbating, she is not that kind of a person but I have tried to talk her how much it will have health benefits and I am sure it will affect our sex life in general. As we do not have a lot time together (jobs, kids) I think it is vital in some degree. With both of us.

I think you may have unwittingly reprogrammed yourself. But please don't panic. I have always found that aneros and other prostate devices tend to shift me from erections to flaccid. One big exception is the aneros peridise. I enjoying using the larger of the two [its a set of 2] and it really encourages erections. So you might want to try that.

Does you wife know about the aneros? As you have kids [me too] it can be tough to find the time but would you be able to have aneros sessions with your wife present? You may have some erectile frustration now but long term the health benefits will be there for you and you may just emerge from this with great erections and great stamina. Stay with us long term - there may be no quick fix but long term it will work out awesome for you both 🙂

Yes of course my wife knows about Aneros. We had one session when I used Aneros and just, well, did nothing but were naked hugging each other and I was orgasming constantly for a 15 minutes but my orgasms were becoming so intense that I somehow wanted to stop because I thought she would freak out from the intensity of those.

Now it's been two days since any kind of sexual activity because of my work and kids and I suppose it will be another week before I can have Aneros session again. So my body and mind is off from these thoughts for some time. Maybe try some sex with wife though. But I am thinking that I will separate Aneros and traditional sex completely, they are so different. At least for now.

I will be buying 3 new Aneros next week. I will buy Trident MGX, Trident Maximus and Eupho Syn. I think I will love Maximus and I suppose it will give me more of that 'traditional' sexual excitement than the others but I really like to try them all and see what they can bring up. So I am going to try them with open minded.

@Boof It sounds like you are figuring out your body really well, and don't take offense to this, but almost like for the "first time." Everything related to my penis and ass felt different after I used Aneros for the first few times, and especially what my erections feel like. I got hard with Aneros in me (the MGX) the first time I used it and I never felt my erection feel like that before. It was like I could feel how hard I was "inside" of my body; it felt like the base of my cock was in my ass! Such a strange but awesome feeling. I was 28 at the time. I'm 41 now. I never had erection issues back then (I am in no way bragging but I don't have any issues right now either) and I can't remember if the Aneros made my erections better or longer lasting, etc. I was unable to disconnect my cock from my Aneros use for years because I didn't have or didn't realize what a hands-free prostate orgasm was or what it felt like. There was no Aneros forum back then, and the only toys they sold was the MGX and the SGX (which I don't think you can buy anymore). So I was in the dark except for just the simple instructions of what to do when you put it in you.

I want to let you know that no, sex does not slow down after 15 years of marriage! My wife and I fuck like insane lunatics now, and its more hot and passionate than it was 10 years ago, and we both believe it is, its not just me thinking this!! We don't have children, so that's a big difference. But I know lots of couples who have completely given up on sex for almost no reason, and they haven't been married for even 5 years sometimes. It sounds like your wife craves intercourse, at least that's how I'm reading your posts on this thread. But does she like other kinds of things during sex too? How adventurous are you both now in bed, and how were you in the past, like the first 5 years of marriage, the next 5, and the last 5 up to right now? If there were things you both did together in the first 5 years of marriage and you don't do them anymore, do those things next time you have sex!! My wife and I always try new things and have always tried hard to not be boring. The fact that you not only got yourself an Aneros but toys for her to have fun with is an awesome, awesome thing to do after 15 years of marriage!!!! Congratulations on you both being excited about getting it on still!

I was going to say that if you're 43, and you're worried about your erections and their quality, get a testosterone level check from your doctor. Not saying that you need it, I don't think you do, but after ~38 or so years, men start to really lose their T. But I don't think you have a problem with that. Your story about watching the girl masturbate and how it got you hard and you came just fine sounds like you're still feeling good and you have a great sex drive. I think everything involving your lack of erections with your wife, or when you just want to have them just to have them, is mental.

I think the Aneros has made your body realize orgasms and sexuality in an entirely different way. And you're brain is confused over what all of it means. Like I was saying, the first time I got hard with Aneros in me I thought to myself "wow, I didn't really know that my erect penis FELT like THAT!" Aneros, prostate stimulation, and really any and all ass play brings out a completely new awareness of what sexuality is, what sex feels like, what orgasms of all kinds feel like, what ejaculation is and feels like, and what sex is like between you and your partner. I know this all to be true for me because I went through all of this myself long ago. So take it in stride and just try to share as much of it with your wife as possible!

Since Aneros is a toy that is mainly used while men are alone, or with another person but they don't touch their penis, the next time you're with your wife you should decide if you want to wear the toy in you and have sex at the same time. If you both want to, see if she'll give you a blowjob while the toy is in you to start with. My wife does sometimes and while I'm normally completely soft with a toy in me, the feeling of her mouth all over my cock is unbelievable and while I don't get hard right away, the stimulation is just exquisite and amazing. I have lots of orgasms while she's giving me head even when my cock is not hard because the Aneros reacts really really well to the stimulation from her blowjob. I learned (it was like practice) how to have orgasms while I'm not hard while she's giving me head when Aneros is in me, and that led to me having really amazing orgasms with Aneros in me while I have an erection and she's giving me head or we're having sex. It sounds crazy, but it happens! I'm not trying to detract from what the traditional ways to use Aneros are (no touching your penis, etc.) but since you are able to have really good orgasms from Aneros and started to have them right away, you don't need the advice of how to have a hands free prostate orgasm. You're fine there!!! It's how to use Aneros while you're with your wife that seems to be what you would like to do. It's not the easiest thing to achieve, but it sure seems like if you both try you'll both have a lot of fun!

Fantastic! I agree with you the sex doesn’t have to slow down as you age. I’ll be 52 next week, and my wife and I still fuck like rabbits. The aneros has helped me in the ways that you mentioned and yes, that inner hard on experience is incredible. The Aneros has “activated” parts of my body and sexuality I didn’t know existed. I keep in pretty good shape, at the gym regularly etc, so I have had much of a testosterone issue, but I agree that everyone should be checked past the age of 40. What a waste to give up that part of your life because you believe it part of getting older. Thank you for your testimony!

@techpump @KevinT As you say sex does not have to slow down. We have been together for 20 years and are both in our late fourties and have kids. We have sex a lot more now than 10 years ago. (Almost daily.) @Boof Congratulation on your quick success with aneros. Sex is so much moore than intercourse use your imagination and maybe some toys. Use aneros while you are together with your wife it brings you closer. At least it does for us and it is really hot too. Take it slow stress is an erections worst enemy.

The stubborn wife

@Boof Thanks for sharing your story. I’m in a similar situation. I’m 37 and was having the full aneros experience (super-o’s, p-waves, aless, super-t’s, etc.). Then one time my wife and I were having sex (no aneros) and I couldn’t finish. Since then, it’s been difficult overcoming the anxiety. I’ll be really aroused, then it goes into hiding as soon as we’re ready. Everything works just fine masturbating by myself, but having sex has become problematic. What makes the situation more difficult to figure out is that my wife is pregnant. So I’ve been trying to figure out if my mental problems are because she’s pregnant and I’m holding back or because of aneros rewiring. Super-o’s are a slow build up and I always ejaculate when I’m ready to stop. So I thought that could be screwing up my ability to just flip a switch, get hard, and go. But I have kept the aneros in during refractory before and had more super-o’s and another ejaculation after that. So it doesn’t seem like aneros is preventing me from physically being able to perform.

Everything I’ve read is that aneros helps erections and pregnant sex is great, so I don’t know what’s going on with me. As of now I’ve cut everything out, but maybe I should continue with aneros and abstain from ejaculating after.

I would go that route instead of quiting. I’ve recently started having “morning wood” again, which hasn’t happened for years! Full on erection so hard it almost hurts. The kind you can hang wet towels on. Move your Aneros session focus away from your penis and save that for your wife. I think she’ll thank you for that!

Story continues.

Had a break from Aneros use due to normal daily duties. I don't usually have much time for myself or together alone with my wife. Daily jobs and kids are taking all our spare time quite efficiently. Did masturbate during this break a few times, with success at erection but not so very hard ones. Two days ago, had time to do some Aneros session again. Plugged in and relaxed. Just after 5 minutes I do begin precum and in about 10 minutes I begin shaking and and having this series of small orgasmic waves. This continues full on about 40 minutes but had to stop due Aneros popping out all the time in the end. It became kinda funny at that point.

I paused for an hour but felt kinda lacking that satisfaction I needed. So in it goes again. I almost instantly started having these waves again. Much intense this time. About 30 minutes in I had really intense orgasms, so intense that I had to begin concentrate on breathing as they were so long and I did not breath during those. And then after one last one I felt same kind of release as with normal ejaculation orgasm, but without any ejaculation. I just was laying down, Aneros inside, did nothing. Breathed, felt completely satisfied. It was a great feeling, the whole world around me stopped and everything felt so good for awhile.

Yesterday, had a lovely time with my wife just hugging and kissing. We havent done that in ages. Our sex life has been kinda routine like for quite some time. I became greatly aroused but again, lacking erection. Arousal was completely different than before any Aneros use. I had a lot, massive amount of precum. I was flooding wet. My penis was extremely sensitive to touch and touching it felt really good. So even there was no erection asked my wife to just keep touching it. It felt so good that I begun having shaking prostate orgasms from it even there was not any prostate stimulation involved. After some time I ejaculated with a slight erection involved and with prolonged ejaculatory orgasm, like a combination of prostate orgasm and ejaculatory orgasm.

I am now thinking I will continue this thing with totally rejecting normal penile masturbation. I keep doing some Aneros sessions when I just have enough time to do long enough, that means once in a week or maybe two weeks. Only having penile stimulation with my wife together. And totally avoiding ejaculating after Aneros session. We will see what that brings along, with this erection issue and in general.

i am noticing highly improvement in stress levels after Aneros use, it has greatly lowered my stress and I feel a lot better overall in general life. It must be due those intense orgasms releasing something in my body. Also I have no need to watch any porn anymore. I was becoming slightly addicted to porn lately but now I've tried and actually find it quite boring. I'd rather just concentrate on me and my wife, only as it feels a lot more deeper and satisfying.

only downside here is my erections. But I am hoping that with some exercises on balancing two different forms of orgasms I can have a pretty medium and enjoy both, separately.

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@Boof: A remarkable story! Enhancement of one's love life is something that I have experienced, as well (I'm an older guy--67 years old). I've had erection issues, but they predated my Aneros use, and I have found that using my device before lovemaking (sometimes leaving it in!) has, overall increased my desire and function, independent of meds (which I found myself needing a few years back). From a 5 year perspective, I can say that there are peaks and valleys in the quality of my rides (right now, I'm on a "roll" of great and consistent ones). Keep updating! You might even consider blogging, though that can be too much.

I think I am unable to use any Aneros before or during sex at the moment. I start having orgasms so fast and my penis just does not work during that so cannot concentrate on anything towards my partner. Hopefully I can do some training on that. I should be able to control my prostate and penis during that time somehow but as for now that seems kinda impossible.
also my wife is having some issues with my lack of erection. She seems to be very intercourse centric what comes to sex in general so it makes this a bit harder for us.
I myself, do like this new sensation and do not mind my erection or lack of intercourse. These orgasms are much more satisfying than any regular penile orgasm for me. But this seems to be leading to the point where my wife thinks our sex is lacking.

I have been in that state for quite some time myself, I mean I do not get satisfaction I need from just intercourse. I need much more than that. Aneros is giving me that, all I just need is to find a balance. Also this might be some kind of training for both of us and an exploration on sex beyond intercourse.

Training continues. Have not done any Aneros sessions in a week now, since I haven't got time for that. Also I have not tried Maximus yet, all the others seem to give me similar vibes. Maybe MGX Trident being my favorite so far. Well, maybe.

Been awhile since last Aneros session. Two weeks? Something like that. In a meanwhile Been having quite interesting sessions with my wife and with some penile masturbation solo sessions. Noticed that after last Aneros session my erection slowly came back in a few days time. I still cannot seem to get it as hard as it used to be but on the other side, it seems I can last a lot longer than before before ejaculating. And when I finally ejaculate, it feels like it's duration is extended to almost a minute instead of just a few seconds it has been earlier. Again my body is having some kind of combined penile and prostate orgasm during normal intercourse without Aneros. It is strange but in a same time very pleasurable.

Today did a few Aneros sessions in a row. Started out with Maximus, first time with it to be exact. Was a bit afraid it ruins the whole thing if it just feels too big but soon realized it was quite nicely sized for me. Again it did not take long until started orgasming and Maximus felt really good and did it's job like it should. Somehow was missing that mobility Helix has given me earlier. So, half an hour in with Maximus switched to Helix.Felt a bit small and underpowered compared to Maximus at first. With a few minutes tuning all that orgasming started again. Lasted total 40 minutes with Helix before it just popped out and stopped there. Had no such release sensation as did before.

Had about half an hour break, ate a bit and wondered that maybe try Eupho. Just out of curiosity. So lubed up again and plugged Eupho in. Eupho feels a bit long, at times it felt like it was just abit too long but at the same time it was very pleasurable. And yes I just love how I can move it inside. It is absolutely heavenly. Again time goes by and had massive orgasms for about an hour with Eupho. Then just had to stop as felt I could not handle anymore.

Well... thought so. Again had an break. Half an hour and I was just ready to plug Eupho back in and continue. So here we go again...
And again about 40 minutes I lasted that storm of orgasms then I just had to quit as my muscles started to feel like they've had enough.

Phew. That's about what I've experienced today. That makes total of about 3 hours of continuous storm of orgasms this morning. Did not ejaculate and keep abstaining from that as I want to save that for activities with my wife and completely separate it from Aneros sessions.

I have noticed one little detail now when I have used different models. When I use MGX or Maximus, my precum is much thicker, a little white involved. With Helix and Eupho it is totally clear and much more watery. I suppose different models stimulate different spots that do affect my precum during sessions.

I know it was a bit extended session today, but looking at my schedule it seems like I am able to do some sessions only after about an two weeks from here again.
And I think that is just a good thing. Maybe just keeping it that way adds pleasure and keeps the balance better.

@boof Bravo Sir! Its been quite awhile since I’ve had an extended session like that and I can’t wait till I can. I’ve had great success with the Progasm Ice in my abbreviated sessions. Also switch from that to my Helix Syn in the same session. The PG seems to great my prostate ripened up and the Helix Syn becomes more of a surgeon and massages with precision.

@Boof. Well, you don't need me to tell you that you are a fortunate man, with such a great response to the Aneros devices in such a short time. Perhaps, you can put down some of your technique tips for some of the other Newbies who have been frustrated by little or no "results". Switching toys in mid stream is a good thing, and going from the larger to the smaller seems to be more effective (with me). I am assuming that you are young from the way you describe things, but I would just say that you should be careful about overdoing riding in one day--I know that once things start to really "groove", it's hard to say "enough", but besides being left sore (which depends on whether you are a bucking bronco type or a calm seas type of rider), it may still be a better idea to ride for shorter times (though I have successfully ridden more than once a day> Using Aneros as "foreplay" before intimacy is also (for me) very effective. Wishing you and all of us continued success in our journeys.

Great accounts of Aneros pleasure! I can sympathize with the erection part, it's really easy to start questioning what's going on when you don't feel like you're getting as hard as you should. I think it's fair to say that they Aneros didn't change your physical make-up, it's just a mental and habit thing. With traditional masturbation most people usually clamp down on PC, anal and ab muscles and hold their breath as the pleasure builds--a tension explosion. It sounds like you've found the relaxed pathway to pleasure through aneros, and now your penile pleasure is mixing the two.

Some ideas:
- Just like in the Aneros process, nothing softens a hard cock like putting heavy expectations on it to get hard. You're talking about partner sex, so you'll likely have to address your own expectations as well as do some communication with your wife to get her take and find a level of understanding that clears up your subconscious a bit. Communicating your feelings ("I'm sexually satisfied but feel like not having intercourse is hurting your pleasure. I'd love to lick and toy you more, or try something you're interested in.." etc) and findings mutual pleasure might free you up some.
- Have you tried Aless? It's fun.
- It might be fun to try including your penis a bit more in your exploration. Have you tried squeezing your head or doing very slow micro stroking (like a .5cm stroke) while relaxing and getting into the dry orgasm mode? Sometimes doing that I can feel a hot white fire at the tip of my penis that feels like ejaculating that just carries on for minutes. That type of play might be fun and/or helpful.
- You can try toggling between tensed-traditional-masturbation and dry-o-relaxing-masturbation. In regular sex or in masturbation, start with the tense type until you get close to the edge, then release the tension in your pelvic floor and switch to prostate focused sensations. It's like edging, but combines the super stiff tension with the relaxing body waves. You could try tense -> relaxed or relaxed -> tense.
- Mantak Chia's books on multiple orgasms have a greater penis focus, and might have some good tips regarding erection strength. I've avoided them because of the clench-to-stop-cumming approach, but you might find some gems.
- You can always try a cock ring!

The experimentation ideas are just ideas, but I think addressing mental pressure by communicating openly to yourself and with your wife and shifting your perspective are worth trying.

Have fun and keep us updated!

Just a short update on my case. Had a long session few days after the last session I mentioned here. And my erection problems are back. Haven't been able to erect in two weeks now. Have not used Aneros during this two weeks. I think I might be overdoing Aneros sessions when I do them and such causing some issues. I have masturbated and ejaculated during this two weeks. I can achieve some kind of semi erected penis and am able to ejaculate but amount of sperm is minimal and there is no pressure, sperm just drips out. But amount of precum is massive in arousal and after ejaculation, like with Aneros. In fact I begin precum really easily even slight arousal and am all wet, without erection involved.

no idea why Aneros does me this but I will keep away from it for now and see where this is going. At least until I can maintain my erections and normal penile activity again.

Had successful erections in last two days with a handjob from my wife. So that makes it two erections and I think I am able to continue my journey.

Will try some Aneros sessions next week. But I will try to be careful not to overdo it now. It is kinda strange I am this sensitive to these devices.
There even is no any arousal needed. I just plug any model inside me, lie down and relax. Do some movement with my muscles to move Aneros and there we go. It takes only 5 to 10 minutes for me to start orgasming and am all wet from precum. And it just continues growing stronger to the point I just cannot physically take it anymore.

I will try to completely avoid any muscle movement next time, add some penile stimulation during Aneros inserted. Try to achieve balanced orgasm instead of just extremely intense series of dryO's and lenghten the duration of subtle enjoyment. No idea will it work, but it is worth a try.

Tried completely different approach today. Just for the sake of experiment.

started out with Lelo Bob, but that was completely distracting my concentration as I have to keep my hands on it. Otherwise it will turn upside down inside me, always does that. Swapped to Maximus and started doing some microstroking to the top of my penis. I did not do any kind of activity with my muscles, just tried to relax and let Maximus be concentrating on my penis this time. Erection was hard to come by but the whole thing felt good nonethless. Whole process was extremely fast even I tried to slow it down. It took only minutes for me to start prostate orgasming again, not a chance I could do to keep it not coming. Kept stroking until did have a slight erection and ejaculated while having continuous orgasms from the prostate.

whole session took just about 20 minutes, which was kinda faster I wanted but I'll take it as an experiment. A nice one, kinda quickie.

I don't know if I am lucky or not to have this sensitive prostate. Could you guys give me some links how to do Aless? Might try that.

Aless is the same process of relaxing, focusing on the small sensations and letting it build into an orgasm. The sharpness or character of the orgasm may be different than your normal Aneros orgasms, but I think you'll find it worth trying. Getting it started depends on your current state--some people can tune into their "butt buzz" at any time and go from there, others like to do sets of kegels to get a butt buzz going, then tune into that.

You seem to be really sensitive, so you might be able to just tune in to your natural buzz. The two most popular places would be sitting on a chair (chairgasm) or while laying in bed. In your preferred place, relax and tune in to your prostate and see what you feel.

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Back on the topic of erectile problems: Without being too ominous, I'd like to say that some people have had some serious extended ED experiences after continued Aneros use. If you're worried about your problem continuing or getting worse, you may want to take a longer break from Aneros usage (months) and "relearn" traditional masturbation. Things like edging to build erection, finishing with ejaculation and doing PC exercises might retrain your habits a bit. There's a chance that charging forward into prostate play will make your problem worse and make recovery a much longer proposition. Most of us have the opposite problem, so you've received a lot of encouragement from us to continue with your prostate pleasure journey. I think it's important to stop, consider your wife's situation, clarify what you both need going forward in your sexual partnership then work towards that. You're a natural with prostate pleasure and will be able to pick it back up with no problems. Investing a little time to maintain your traditional reflexes may save you a lot of worry down the road.

Thanks for the tips, RidingWaves11. Important things to consider. I've been busy so have not been able to do any Aneros sessions in along time, been active with my wife though. Our sex life have become more of a tantric style lately, I might be able to erect and ejaculate, or might not. I am not worried about it as long as we are having fun anyway. As for the sex itself, I think it has become a lot deeper and sensual than before. We have introduced our selves to massages and such lately and we both think it is highly enjoyable. Much more than before.

What comes to Aneros and it's use. Yesterday I did one session, again tried a different approach. I just put Helix inside and lay down. Did nothing, tried to relax as much as I could. Seems I get very excited Aneros inserted, heart pounding and slightly hard to just be. I got my excitement decreased, heart beat back to relaxed state and breathing slowly. One thing I maintained whole time, I did not do any movement with my muscles to Aneros. Not a slightest. Tried to be as gentle as possible with the thing. After about 30 minutes, I started having few orgasms, not so intense as before. Which was kinda expected and welcome as I wanted to see what happens if I do nothing and be as gentle as possible. After about 20 minutes of nice orgasms, I stopped there. Before getting things too intense. That was nice, it left me some kinda wanting more for the rest of the day.

Today, I had an feel I would like to do some traditional penile masturbation but not ejaculate. I read articles about semen retention so got slightly interested on the issue. I have done it couple of times before, stop just before ejaculating but have not been able to keep it after all. It have been extremely difficult for me to just stop and leave it be. Today, I started to masturbate, got pretty ok erection and at the peak where I could just ejaculate, stopped. I got extremely aroused, penis pumping and breathing heavily. Then, I continued to stimulate my penis and at the same time slightly pressed the area under my balls, outer area of prostate I presume. Again, stopped at the point where I felt I was going to ejaculate. At this point, I got hardest erection in months. Wow. Then, something completely unexpected happens. Every time I stimulated my penis to the point of ejaculation and stopped, I started having prostate orgasms. Did it few times, no idea but I think about 7 times. With extremely hard erection, penis pumping in excitement just on the peak ready to ejaculate I just kept it not coming and had exactly same kind of orgasms without Aneros that I have with it inserted.

Then I stopped, even it was hard to keep myself not to ejaculate. I am extremely happy with this experience and I look forward to do some more practice on this. Yet, I was very happy to see my erection as hard as it was. Very interesting session, without Aneros involved.

Title of this thread should be edited to something like 'My journey so far...' or something.. this is getting pretty much off topic but I will continue to post some updates of my experiences.

I got pretty excited on penile masturbation that ends without ejaculation but still will orgasm. Did some 'training' and managed to do so constantly, orgasm like crazy but still hold off from ejaculation. With a slight help with cock ring this was achieved surprisingly easy. At one time went a bit too far and got over the point I ejaculated partially but came more aware of the timing and feel I could control it better.

Also did try Helix as some kind of triggering device for full body orgasms. Inserted it in, relaxed and wait just to the point I had one nice orgasm from it, then pulled it out and started stimulating my penis to the point I was about to ejaculate and stopped right there. I began having extremely pleasurable full body orgasms everytime I just slightly stimulated my penis. This could last an hour leaving me really horny afterwards and had to continue later and all could be done again and again just by stimulating penis.

Just a few days exercise alone we were having some fun with my wife and she did some penile stimulation with mouth and there we go again. I was having constant full body orgasms during the whole time she played with my penis. With or without erection, it kinda varied during the session. At some point managed to have erection hard enough to intercourse, and did. I was controlling my ejaculation all the time and had such great orgasms that the last one almost gave me a black out. The whole sex was so intense and took about two hours when had to be stopped.

It was absolutely one of the best sexual experiences in my life and it happened with my loved wife.
we repeated this kind of session next day successfully, more brief but really intense again.

and I am really horny all the time, I could just get on with these orgasms all the time but because of daily schedule it is not possible.
also my whole body and mind feels a lot more energized and better overall. And oh, did I mention I am massively horny all the time, what ever I do.

Next step on my journey is that I am trying to manipulate orgasms more with my mind and abstain from ejaculation as this really seems to be making progress on my journey. Using Aneros sometimes as a trigger but not so much maybe.

one thing is for sure, I would have not experienced this without first introduced my body to Aneros. That did trigger the whole investigation on this kind of sensations and through some desperation and confusion or what ever it caused I am at this point.

I am very happy with this progress now, even it turned out to something completely different.

@Boof Sounds amazing. It must be every woman dream to have a lover like you. Your wife is a very lucky women. We work on it but the progress is slower. I have to show this to my husband as soon as he comes home tonight so he sees that it not is impossible.

The stubborn wife

I am learning what rocks my boat I guess. Have not used Aneros since that last session mentioned in the last post. But I have had really great sex with my wife every day. I have not ejaculated, if I feel like I am about to ejaculate I will focus on stopping it and focus on purely on the orgasm itself. Cock ring is a huge help here and I feel like it is essential item on this. I keep orgasming harder and harder until I just am like I've just run a marathon. Maximum for us have been something like two hours that's maximum I can take these continuous full body orgasms.

Keeping from ejaculating seems to make me more horny everyday, never been so horny before. Last night after our session I had intense pain in my balls but it went away in a few hours. Today thought I will ease the pressure a bit and let some sperm out, did some masturbation to let some drops out but feel that was a mistake. Should have not done that. I am not so horny anymore and feels like a step back on my progress.

I will continue to keep my semen in from now on and see where this is taking me and my wife. This has been all really worth it. Also my wife loves the progress here as our sessions easily go over an hour and I make all things possible she gets her satisfaction too. That versus the earlier intercourses that were quite short and ended at ejaculation is priceless.

This have had also huge effect on our love life and woken up the feelings that have been buried deeper during our years of marriage.