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(@gasjim)
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I suppose more than anything, this is by way of introduction and a comment.

My name is Jim (and I've petitioned the powers that be to change my ever so descriptive username from aneros_user49950 to GasJim. The former is accurate, I suppose, but the latter reflects my decision to be an anesthesiologist. I am 62 years old, and have been the diametric opposite of a tantric sex folllower my entire life. Pretty much stick it in and get us off, ya know? My current wife (I made a mistake or two in my earlier years) is a wonderful woman whom I love very much. She sort of started my thinking on anal play...early in our deal she started fingering my prostate. I enjoyed it, some. So, over the last 5-6 years, I've explored some other prostate massage sort of stuff, including a very nice little vibrator. All of this enhanced my experiences...but I was pretty much at...see above.

I bought a Vice thinking it might be a bit better little (err, not so little) vibrator for my prostate. And then I started reading on what an aneros is supposed to do. And I found that (as so many here, no doubt), intriguing. So I got a helix...and started fiddling toward a hand free...no real success...yet...

In parallel, having discovered this community, I started reading it...and then found the Wiki...and, well, the instruction book...and finally I am paying more attention to doing it right. Oh, so up until today, I've had 4-5 sessions...not much longer than a half hour each. I noted that aneroshypnosis thingy and tried it...but didn't really work it hard (so to speak). During one of those sessions, I did hit a spot that felt pretty darn good and worked it for a while. At any rate, I've not worked the program well, so to speak. As an aside, I did discover that I am attracted to trancing (from the hypno session) and that has opened up yet another area of pursuit of sensuality. I suppose at the end of the day, as an established major Alpha male...chief of a department...I am a classic example of the guy who would pursue a bit of fem-dom.

So I was on call this weekend (48 hours in the hospital...and I only got around 3 hours of sleep the whole time). I did my job, of course, but I did spend some more time reading on the Wiki and other folks comments. I came home this morning, took a nap, woke up pretty horny, cleand out, inserted, and spent a couple of hours with it in. Tried some relaxation, tried some porn, tried some trancing (which felt pretty good). I was working hard to not have any preconceptions of where to go...just a plan on some experiements on the way. Found a nice sensation, and worked it...what was the image from the wiki? Trying not to jerk the lure out of the fish's mouth...just gently pursuing it. A few trembles, a few twitches, more than a fair amount of pre-cum, but no major events...just...pleasant. I made a point NOT to masturbate or anything after.

And that leads to my comment. I am going to try again tonight at bedtime. And I feel such an exciting sense of anticipation. Ya know that feeling when you were a kid and it was Christmas Eve and you KNEW there was great stuff and you KNEW you WERE gonna get it soon? That's exactly how I feel...only more-so. As an aside, I once got Fentanyl (a very powerful synthetic narcotic) when I was having a surgical procedure under spinal...and that generated EXACTLY the same feeling. Oh, and my wife is currently living in New Mexico (building our retirement house) and so I have some time to play. I hope that I'll get to the point within the next month (when next I see her) that I will have something to share. She'll love it.

It is very nice. This is starting in the direction of an excellent journey. And I feel very, very good. Love to hear your comments.

Jim



   
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(@ten_s_nut)
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Hello, Jim.

Nice to hear from another old guy (I'm 62) and that you're making some progress. It's also great that your wife's on board. Using Aneros during partnered sex is a good thing.

The Xmas Eve anticipation is good for arousal, but not good in the expectations department. As you know from the Wiki, expectations generally work against the process. Of course, the big key to success is relaxation. Alpha Males have particular trouble with this. You might think that just because you are in bed, flat on your back and calm that you are relaxed enough. Truth is, you're not. There are a bunch of muscles inside your pelvic region that most guys don't have conscious control over. You'll need to get those to "let go." It's difficult.

You'll know when you've achieved a relaxed enough state because the Vice or Helix will start to move on its own due to involuntary contractions. The tendency is to jump in and amplify those movements with voluntary contractions. Don't. Try and stand outside yourself and just let whatever happens, happen.

Good luck,

Dave



   
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(@gasjim)
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ten_s_nut: Thank you SO much for your reply. Do'h...I think I knew that ...relaxation was key. However, being Alpha I figgered I could help it along! Without your advice I'd prolly be a sadish puppy tonite (not too bad...I'm still getting some endorphin rush and good feelings out of the deal). Your cogent comment was spot on, better defined a problem that I wouldn't have even known I had, and I appreciate you and your help. Great forum. Thank you!!!

Jim



   
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