Can't reach super O at all

@drown --- It sounds like you've been given some poor advice about how to achieve a prostate orgasm. The Wiki pages have all the details and yes, if you are not relaxing and you feel tensed up, your current strategy is working against the goal of achieving an orgasm.

The Aneros experience is not about pushing it in and out to achieve orgasm! It's about putting it in, relaxing, and focusing on the new sensations that come about as the Aneros touches the anal wall next to your prostate.

I recommend you read the Getting Started sections of the Wiki and review the Milestones list to get a sense for what you are likely to experience with time and patience!

Also, don't get frustrated, as most of us did, before we finally relaxed and let the sensations come to us...it cannot be forced...EVER! Don't think you can force it, because it won't happen! Learn to relax and enjoy what comes your way because you will be happy you did!

TG

It's funny, when I first arrived here (and even now in the wiki) it states or seems to state that the do nothing approach is somewhat a less common technique (almost inferred to being something less likely to work), yet now it seems among the forums that it's THE technique to use.

@drown --- It sounds like you've been given some poor advice about how to achieve a prostate orgasm. The Wiki pages have all the details and yes, if you are not relaxing and you feel tensed up, your current strategy is working against the goal of achieving an orgasm.

The Aneros experience is not about pushing it in and out to achieve orgasm! It's about putting it in, relaxing, and focusing on the new sensations that come about as the Aneros touches the anal wall next to your prostate.

I recommend you read the Getting Started sections of the Wiki and review the Milestones list to get a sense for what you are likely to experience with time and patience!

Also, don't get frustrated, as most of us did, before we finally relaxed and let the sensations come to us...it cannot be forced...EVER! Don't think you can force it, because it won't happen! Learn to relax and enjoy what comes your way because you will be happy you did!

TG

Very right.

Think of the Aneros as a perturbator. It's alien presence inside you is meant to put your body off balance and it is that state and the way your body adapts to it that does the trick. Which is why relaxing is so helpful.

You can't "will" it to happen like masturbation.
If I dont experience anything after 30 mins I quit, sometimes it's not meant to be.
Find a position that you like and try not to think about the aneros, but concentrate
on a good sexual fantasy. Enjoy your quiet time and relax, but try not to become
fixated on a "goal" of prostate orgasm.

P.S. If you have a hard time relaxing a bit of weed can be a huge help. 😉

The wiki says to not take drugs or more than a glass of alcohol.
Plus you dont want to become dependent on alcohol or drugs to get you to a super-O - it's better if it comes from within.
Plus in many countries, weed is illegal.

The wiki says to not take drugs or more than a glass of alcohol.
Plus you dont want to become dependent on alcohol or drugs to get you to a super-O - it's better if it comes from within.
Plus in many countries, weed is illegal.

I second every word.

It's funny, when I first arrived here (and even now in the wiki) it states or seems to state that the do nothing approach is somewhat a less common technique (almost inferred to being something less likely to work), yet now it seems among the forums that it's THE technique to use.

Well, not exactly. First there is the deep relaxation and then there is the do-nothing-approach. The do-nothing-approach is the consequent step further in this direction but you can still be more
proactive. But you just can't do anything without relaxation. For
people who struggle with this first part (which are plenty), the do-nothing-approach is simply the best approach. I for myself had never success with it and there are plenty of exercises, that help you to sink in deep relaxation without being totally passive (e.g. syncing your strokes with your slow breath).

The wiki says to not take drugs or more than a glass of alcohol.
Plus you dont want to become dependent on alcohol or drugs to get you to a super-O - it's better if it comes from within.
Plus in many countries, weed is illegal.

Uhh, this is fiddly topic. We are here in a learning environment, so the various tips and statements should always be put into perspective and questioned for their reasons (and not taken uncritically). The motivation for this advise is, that you shouldn't dull your senses - that's it. As far as from my experience, weed enhances your ability to notice subtle sensations instead of dulling your body (like alkohol does). And yes, it's forbidden in many countries, but we are all grown ups here. Most people who are successfull with the aneros, over time gain the ability to do it without it. Regarding this, it's pretty safe to say, that weed (or alk) may be good relaxing helpers for beginners, which become obsolete pretty fast.

Sorry, "strokes" ?

Sorry, "strokes" ?

Hm... I meant flexing your pelvic muscles with the resulting massager motion. Maybe "thrusts" would be the better vocable here. :-/ (non-native speaker here)

Sorry, "strokes" ?

Hm... I meant flexing your pelvic muscles with the resulting massager motion. Maybe "thrusts" would be the better vocable here. :-/ (non-native speaker here)

thrusts or any kind of action is not relaxation or doing nothing...?

thrusts or any kind of action is not relaxation or doing nothing...?

Uhm what? Is that a statement or a question? I seem to have created some confusion here. 🙁

I just wanted to point out the difference between a general relaxed state and doing light contractions, and the doing-nothing-approach without any contractions. Relaxation is crucial, doing-nothing is optional.

Making strong contractions respectively doing lots of active (controlled) musclework is mostly wrong.

The closest I've gotten to an orgasm was using the Aneros a week ago (not hands free, because if I don't use my hands I don't really get any decent sensations) and I was on the edge of orgasm but the feelings went away because I got all tensed up.Your Aneros is intended to be used hands free, this is not only to avoid potential injury but to also you to get more relaxed and to focus on the induced sensations from the massager.My sessions are relatively short, maybe like 30 minutes max. Am I not giving it enough time or something?There is no specific formula for the length of time an Anerosession should be, however, it is important to allow yourself sufficient time to get relaxed, without distractions or an impending time limit. Being impatient or expecting your body to respond in a specific time frame is a recipe for disappointment and frustration. Trying to wedge a prostate based orgasm into a particular time slot just isn't going to work even if you have unlimited time available. You need to develop a sense of when your body is ready to produce these sensations and then make time for a session, not the other way around.
I almost never get an erection during my sessions either, usually when I do its because the sensations build up but they quickly fall back down. Am I not supposed to be using my hands or something?Having an erection during an Anerosession is not necessary, some men get them, some don't and some cycle between flaccid and erect states, it doesn't really matter. I think it is counterproductive to maintain an erection via penile stimulation. This means you are holding on to an old thought paradigm regarding orgasm generation. Please read 'cockadoodle’s thread Penis, NOT and 'rook's thread Whole Body/Whole Mind - the mental side & "zoneros" for a little insight.I've tried the other sex toys and my hand ends up feeling like its going to fall off after 20 minutes of thrusting and I give up. I've tried reading guides and following them but it's still the same experience for me in my sessions. Anyone have any advice?Please take the time to read the the Getting Started section of the Aneros WIKI. Learning to orgasm through prostate massage require a paradigm shift in thinking away from your traditional masturbatory techniques and until you make that shift most of your efforts are going to fall far short of your expectations and desires. Try not using your hands to manipulate your massager or stimulate your penis during a session, instead use your hands to caress other parts of your body to build arousal.

@Sorena_, I think you may sometimes misinterpret or take too literally some of the terminology used in this Forum. The feelings and sensations the Aneros induces are really indescribable yet words are the only vehicle we have to convey information here on the Forum. As far as the "do nothing" technique goes, please read the thread -> "Do Nothing" What does that mean?
Good Vibes to You !

Thanks rumel but "you may sometimes misinterpret or take too literally some of the terminology used in this Forum." Well if you mean once or twice and only in this thread, then yes. If I have done it elsewhere please let me know.

Will read your link.

After reading that i realise that I have the correct understanding of do nothing, which is good.