Can't feel pleasure without nipple play. Should I incorporate it in the beginning or should I not?

Hello wanderer15,
I understand very well how you feel when you say that you feel like you are cheating by stimulating your nipples. I'm a bit like that, without nipple stimulation I feel less pleasure.

What I do is to delay fondling my breasts or nipples as much as possible. I wait, if possible, until I have had my first Mini-O's before stimulating my nipples. But then, I manage to modulate my pleasure with this kind of caresses. Nipple stimulation allows me to control the intensity and duration of my orgasms when the session goes well. As long as I stimulate my nipples, I manage to make the orgasm last, it's pretty awesome!

I'd say that as long as you don't touch your penis, everything else is fair game. You're lucky to already have some nipple sensitivity, some people (like me) need a lot of time to get anywhere with nipple play and I believe it's one of the more powerful tools to help you get further, so in some way you're already a little ahead of the game. 

Here's something you could try :

If you feel like nipple play is "unfair", start your session with just breathing and relaxing for 15 minutes, don't touch your body in any way. If something starts to happen, let it build and see were it goes. If nothing happens, then why not add some light nipple stimulation ? What's the harm, really ? You're not interfering with anything because, well, nothing is happening. Play with your nipples for a minute, stop, see how it affects your arousal. Slowly get comfortable with the idea that using the tools at your disposal is perfectly fine. Repeat.

One way to see it : What if you had an hyper sensitive prostate right at the start, would that be cheating ? 

Take care and have fun experimenting.

Fine responses above.

What if you take it in another direction in separate sessions without a toy? Try spending an hour with your fingertips and your nipples, chest, and other even less traditional erogenous zones. It will likely help you on your way to prostate bliss, as well as become an exciting new form of pleasure in and of itself, with the possibility of culminating in orgasms. 

Since experiencing nipple play, I almost always use it to kick start and continue my anal and prostate stimulation. Whether gently flicking them or doing circular massage, I always get results which I feel in my anus, prostate, perenium, and cock - the pleasure felt is overwhelming!

Posted by: @wanderer15

As the title says, I cannot feel much pleasure without nipple play. When I do use nipple play, I have a tingling sensation while contracting for about 10 minutes or so, very pleasurable, but nothing exceptional.

 

My question is: should I stop the nipple play until I get some results with raw sessions or should I keep going like this? It does feel a little bit like cheating, to be honest, considering the discrepancy between what I feel when I use my nipples and the almost lack of sensation when I don't. Also, my nipples send stronger signals to the head of my penis than they send to the prostate, which sometimes shifts my attention from the objective.

 

Honestly, I feel like I should experiment more with raw sessions, though, as I said, I don't feel much pleasure then. Maybe it's because I got used to the extra kick from nipple play. What are your thoughts?

 

 

wanderer 15

keep getting off ,you want to mass pleasure ,you keep on and one session you are going to be quivering,shaking till the muscles quake, do what fells good ,,I do , I find walking with them in me turns me on too.   

 I think I was lucky when being able to get enjoyment from nipple play , I read only 52 percent of men enjoy nipple play, my wife use to lick and suck my nipples to show me how to treat hers, so I now play with  my nipples ,as I play with the anerous. I get turned on by it 

My nipples are a very important part of my Aneros sessions, but I have to be careful not to overdo it. I refrain from touching my nipples for the first 20-30 minutes, but that last 5-10 minutes of that is really difficult and I really start thinking about them loads and the anticipation for nipple play really builds. When I finally allow myself to touch my nipples, I begin by gentle teasing and build it up and it feels amazing and I find myself moaning so loud.

But like I said, I have to be careful not to overdo it. At first, I would play with my nipples throughout the entire session but they start to lose their impact and I wasn’t getting any pleasure from them. I need to give myself a 10 minute rest from them and allow that anticipation to build for them again. I’ve really found a great balance for my nipple play over the last few weeks.

I'll echo what some have said here...if it generates pleasure for you without touching your penis, then go for it.  I like fiddling with my nipples throughout my sessions...its like two little buttons that connect to my prostate.

Posted by: @wanderer15

Also, my nipples send stronger signals to the head of my penis than they send to the prostate, which sometimes shifts my attention from the objective.

Hi, @wanderer15, as I see it you've already hit the point. Shifting attention might become a hurdle for your further journey. There have been some advices given how to reduce the weight you actually lay on your nipples. I'd suggest to simulate your nipple play until you feel the effects without nipple play. Start faking your moaning, start visualizing you would stimulate your nipples, but focus on your gland area, where you want the pleasure to grow. Fake one orgasm, then another one, and observe the effects.

Good vibes, Mart

In normal times, our old-time friend @bigglansdc (resident expert on nipple diddling) would most likely chime in with valuable advice for you @wanderer15 . We hope he's safe and in good health!

I miss him