Breathing and Kegels.

As a person who has been at this for a month I've been a little lucky with some success. No PO yet but some great feelings and waves. If you would of asked me if this can be done without an erection a couple of months ago, I would of said IMPOSSIBLE!!! But with some mild success, I've sacked out a few as well. I believe because of maybe improper breathing, tensing up of my core. Ofcourse this happens with the impending waves that build and then they slowly go away. How do you do small kegels and maintain proper breathing? Do you squeeze at the end of the exhale or end of the inhale? I hope the deep proper breathing gets natural without thinking about it. One more thing that I need to work on besides relaxing. Thanks, John.