abstaining? also...going for something new!

Originally Posted By: convulsions
I am planning on abstaining and letting tension rise...hopefully this weekend I will have an amazing experience.

I need more time to recharge, so I find it helps me to abstain from sex for a few days before a session.

So its worth a try.

wow! I actually got the helix in the mail today...I couldnt really wait to try it out. For anyone that isn't a believer...wow! I didnt expect it to be so good. I think it might have just turned my life around! (a bit of hyperbole, but seriously- I had such a long, full orgasm that it almost changes your whole perspective.) I will write more when I have time to experiment more since it is finals week soon...

Bottom line: the helix hit all my right spots and I feel great. Is 67$ worth an orgasm? probably, to some. But is it worth orgasms that are relatively long, full, and repeatable for as long as you use the device? definitely. I thought I was anorgasmic in this sense but my perspective has totally changed. I am only scraping the surface of my potential and I am overwhelmed. for some reason the MGX just wasnt 'pushing my buttons' in a very literal sense, so hopefully I will become more awakened in the future.

Thanks, lets keep up the convos!

Convulsions,

Although I've posted on this extensively in the past elsewhere, I can't seem to find the thread to direct you to, so I 'll give it to you thumbnail here.

In my opinion, there is no question that abstaining can be very helpful in charging your path to the Super O. Abstinence for a day or so can help generate a more potent form of arousal. In general, creating and managing arousal will be the single most important key to your success. How long one abstains is more of a subjective matter. Many times this relates to how many times per day or per week you have some form of sexual release. For instance, for those that are lucky enough to have it several times a day, it may take less than a day to feel charged up. For others who get release once or twice per week, it may take several days to build this up. For those who have it more seldomly, it may take longer. Again, you must judge this for yourself, so do some experimentation.

One thing to keep in mind is that when it comes to abstinence, there can be too much of a good thing. That is, if you abstain for too long a period of time your arousal can degenerate into anxiousness...and anxiousness is a non-starter for the Super O. So be measured about this.

Enjoy

BF Mayfield

B mayfield:

I have a question for you. As a college student, I am sort of trying to find myself both professionally and personally, and I've seen a lot of your posts on the forum, no doubt aiding my success. I was wondering- what kind of things do you do to become more knowledgable about this topic. It seems as though you are very professional about this thing that many people would consider taboo- putting something in your butt to stimulate the nether regions for the reason of finding something new, exciting, or just feeling good are probably something few men think about. So I guess my questions are

what kinds of things do you do to improve your knowledge of meditation, sexuality, orgasm, and the like? Do you read things primary or experience them?

To be a bit personal, One of the main reasons I explored the aneros in the beginning was because I felt as though I was somewhat anorgasmic. I dont know for sure or not if circumcision makes a significant difference in male sexuality, but I was circumcised as a kid and for the past year I began to think it might make a difference in the negetive for sexuality. I know that for many men it seems to make no difference, and there is probably a huge psychological factor in sex, but I dont know. Men circ'd as adults both say it increases sensitivity, decreases, or has no difference. So my thought is that it is really hard to say that it definitely makes a negetive impact, but it isn't unrealistic to say that it could. Every guy is different. To make a long story short, I thought whatever I felt about myself, it needed to be positive and moving forward. If some aspect wasn't ideal then there are other areas to focus on. For me, aneros seems to have awoken a very large positive spirit that perhaps has changed my whole outlook on life. I dont really know what else to say other than I am going to keep developing my skills with this, there are many possibilities!

Any thoughts would be great, although I hope this doesnt turn into a huge debate about circs. In general, if you cut off part of the body there is probably going to be nerve loss, but that doesnt mean you can't be satisfied with what you have. That is all for now I guess- just know that the aneros is very powerfull! (and so is the prostate!)

(this post was edited 2007-04-27 19:48:02)

Convulsions,

Regarding my background, I studied Transcendental Meditation and Self Hypnosis as a teenager, and have practiced both (off and on) ever since. I have degrees in biology and psychology but gravitated toward I.T. after I left school. In my twenties I hooked up with a lady who was on the Tantric path. A lot of "doing" went on there, although I would actually learn about all of it years later, well after we had broken up. I'm a voracious reader but I've never found that any one resource held everything for me. Instead, I've culled together what I believed to be the best ideas and have put them into practice in my life ( a lot more doing). With respect to the Super O, things are still evolving and revealing themselves to me to this day. If you're asking me if this has all been an intellectual exercise, the answer is a resounding no. The sensual journey that I began some years ago has been an exploration of mind AND body, with one facet complimenting the other.

With respect to circumcision, I too would like to avoid getting too deep into this, as I'm aware that there is a lot of emotion that surrounds this for some people. Suffice it to say, that having had no choice in the matter as an infant, and having enjoyed myself just the way that I am for so long, I have seen no need for regret or loss about the fact that I'm circumcised. I hasten to add that it has not precluded me from enjoying every traditional delight under the sun AND the Super O, a rapturous experience that is not penile in origin.

BF Mayfield