Trying to Increase Amount of Semen

Pygeum, worked wonders for me, increased my volume 5X. Really the first time I came after 3 days I literally pissed cum. Helped to improve my day to day ejaculate also. Good luck have a good trip.

Posted by: @ca25

I really want to perform as well as possible in regard to the amount of semen I can produce when I orgasm with her.

I hope you are not setting yourself up for disappointment. Given your recent history of intermittent sex, do you really expect your libido to make a big step up in ability to perform on demand every day? Do you expect your body to produce prodigious amounts of semen every day? Given the fact that ejaculations with Aneros devices actually more thoroughly drain your prostate and seminal vesicles this could be counterproductive. The pygeum stack supplement may help increase semen volume a bit but it also may take some time for you to get your body used to producing more of it and it may not be effective for everyone. You can get almost the same result by making sure you stay fully hydrated on a regular basis.

Perhaps it would be better to simply go into your vacation with the idea of strengthening intimacy bonds through open communication, playful behavior, caressing, cuddling and kissing and allow the sex to happen spontaneously rather than as a planned exercise. If you do try the supplement regime you may want to start soon for it to have any effect. In any event I wish you the best and have fun.

Good Vibes to You!

@rumel thanks for the dose of reality, and suggestions, I appreciate it. I agree, it will be a big change from our current normal frequency. We have promised to at least attempt it if the desire is present. It is kind of a fun sexy challenge to do while on vacation; in addition to some other sexy type things we want to do to help spice things (and desire) up while away (skinny-dipping, sunbathing nude, sex outside, my wife going braless in public, her wearing more revealing clothing, trying new sex positions... and things like that that are turn-ons for us.)

I have been taking Tadalafil in a small dosage (5mg) on-demand prior to sex for the last six months or so, with really great results in my performance. I asked my doctor if I could adjust the dosage to a 2.5mg "daily" dosage for my vacation; instead of on-demand. He was OK with that and I have been experimenting and seem to be able to get a serviceable erection by only taking 2.5mg every other day, so that is going to be the game plan for vacation.

Thanks for the clarification about the aneros draining me more than normal. Knowing that I think I should try to preserve as much semen as possible by just having normal orgasms without using the Progasm; except for maybe once or twice during sex that week.

My wife is totally on board with knowing my/our libido might get very diminished after making love one or two days in a row, and is open to help me with that also, in her own ways. So kind of fun challenges for both of us, and yes knowing that we should not put pressure on ourselves to perform as it might not happen. If we do one sexy thing each day (like skinny dipping in the ocean, or my wife going braless to dinner one night), and with me being on Tadalafil, I should be able to use that built up desire from those events to get aroused enough to attempt having sex when we get back to the room. It will be fun to see how it works out.

@tbob thanks for the suggestion. Looking into this.

@ca25 Heres some suggestions to spice things up. Make a bucket list of things you would like to sexually accomplish accomplish, really have fun with it. Like, public, or only using your toes or nose. or butt crack or pussy crack, or choose an item in your hotel room you think you can get her off with or vice versa. Take one day each where 1 has to serve the other all day like a slave, and I'm not just talking about sex. Do a striptease for each other, ya never had so much fun, surprise each other with your costumes.Toga night. Pull an all nighter cuople drinks, mabe some dancing a little sex no more than 15min, idea is not to orgasm, couple more drinks hell start a movie,pause fuck a little, make sex just a part of your evening, culminating in like a 4in the morning orgsam if at all. Makes for the best wake up sex. These are just afew ideas have fun

There are other ways to play. You are both wise enough to know,week long loads aren’t going to be available daily. If bigger loads are preferred,maybe the goal of your wife getting off everyday could be fun. Get a chastity cage and give her the key. She can let you out every 2-3 days when she needs her big load. Be in full control of your orgasm/ejaculations. And you could service her in between by worshipping her pussy with your mouth,fingers,toys etc. You could even get a strap on for you so she can still have intercourse while you brew up the loads for when you get to finally unleash. Lots of ways to fun time things up.

@helghast thanks for the suggestions. Coincidentally, she brought up the idea of orgasm/intercourse denial as something for me to experiment with prior to our trip. I was really taken by the fact that it was her idea and that she wanted to follow through with it. I am really excited by her initiative, so in that regard I had to agree to try; after we discussed it and her specific ideas about it, her wants, and needs, and outcome for us. It is intriguing, and something she told me she has been researching and wanted to try with me. So basically I can not have intercourse with her, or ejaculate at all, until we are on vacation. As previously noted, we hope to try and have sex each day while away.

For now, there is no cage, or humiliation involved at all. She can tease me sexually, and we are still fooling around... making out, turning me on, she even asked me to kneel down and shave off her landing strip while we took a shower this weekend... and there has been LOTS of pussy worship from me. In the last week I have gotten her off three times orally (and with vibrators and large dildos) on three different nights. That has kind of become my outlet.

I so want to be inside of her, and release, but the changes in my desire level, energy level, attitude towards her and appreciation of her have really evolved during this process (part of what we were thinking might happen). I am crawling up the walls in some regards, but it is a pretty amazing feeling. Somewhat like NRE almost, if that makes sense.

@ca25

A Chastity cage doesn’t involve humiliation unless you guys specifically want it to. It’s simply her being in control of your pleasure. In the denial games you are playing,you can still get hard,you can’t when in Chastity,so a step up to a more dominant level is all it really is. I personally like Chastity. It’s been great fun in our relationship. Just kicking around ideas. No reason why you can’t bang the everyday of your vacation. Whatever happens,sounds like a fun time. 

Posted by: @ca25

Coincidentally, she brought up the idea of orgasm/intercourse denial as something for me to experiment with prior to our trip. I was really taken by the fact that it was her idea and that she wanted to follow through with it. I am really excited by her initiative, so in that regard I had to agree to try; after we discussed it and her specific ideas about it, her wants, and needs, and outcome for us. It is intriguing, and something she told me she has been researching and wanted to try with me.

It sounds like she may be interested in moving toward a spiritual practice known as Karezza, something to look into anyway.

Good Vibes to You!

Posted by: @rumel

Posted by: @ca25

Coincidentally, she brought up the idea of orgasm/intercourse denial as something for me to experiment with prior to our trip. I was really taken by the fact that it was her idea and that she wanted to follow through with it. I am really excited by her initiative, so in that regard I had to agree to try; after we discussed it and her specific ideas about it, her wants, and needs, and outcome for us. It is intriguing, and something she told me she has been researching and wanted to try with me.

It sounds like she may be interested in moving toward a spiritual practice known as Karezza, something to look into anyway.

Good Vibes to You!

Thanks of that. Totally unfamiliar with it, so I will look it up.

Posted by: @rumel

Posted by: @ca25

Coincidentally, she brought up the idea of orgasm/intercourse denial as something for me to experiment with prior to our trip. I was really taken by the fact that it was her idea and that she wanted to follow through with it. I am really excited by her initiative, so in that regard I had to agree to try; after we discussed it and her specific ideas about it, her wants, and needs, and outcome for us. It is intriguing, and something she told me she has been researching and wanted to try with me.

It sounds like she may be interested in moving toward a spiritual practice known as Karezza, something to look into anyway.

Good Vibes to You!

I just took a quick read from the link you provided... OMG we are doing a lot of those things, like exactly. It is definitely what we are doing, and we are leading to and learning to do some of the other things listed. This is pretty amazing.

Reading about Karezza is fascinating. Totally in line with what we are finding out about us, our bodies, sex, our desires, how I appreciate her and what she and her body bring to sex for me, and us... all sorts of discoveries can be made when you step back from "typical sex" and slow down to reflect and analyze and pay more attention to different desires and exploration ideas that are allowed to come forward.

By abstaining from taking an orgasm myself, and not being able to make love to her in a typical PIV fashion, and comparing what sex is right now for us, compared to "typical intercourse sex", you find out how much intercourse is goal-oriented; to get to an orgasm for the male. By eliminating that possibility, I am more focused on the details and nuances of doing other things with her in bed.

Her orgasms now are just a part of a longer and different type of lovemaking session, and they occur naturally and periodically during our sex play. Her build-up and plateau repetitive process allows us to  continue over and over again as her highs and valleys are closer together to form a continuous experience. That is so different than when a man "finishes" with his ejaculation and basically "dies". Without releasing myself, it is amazing I can perform this long for her; basically as long as we want sex to last.

Posted by: @ca25

This is pretty amazing.
Reading about Karezza is fascinating.

I am pleased to hear you are expanding your boundaries when it comes to your sacred sexuality. I hope you find your relationship with your wife growing more intimate, more endearing and more loving going forward, have fun!

Good Vibes to You!

Posted by: @rumel

Posted by: @ca25

This is pretty amazing.
Reading about Karezza is fascinating.

I am pleased to hear you are expanding your boundaries when it comes to your sacred sexuality. I hope you find your relationship with your wife growing more intimate, more endearing and more loving going forward, have fun!

Good Vibes to You!

Thank you. It is really incredible to experience this. It is also great to have this guide, knowing we kind of stumbled onto something she had read about and now having even more knowledge and guidance from the article. We are doing the modified version described where the male abstains from orgasms (we have included me abstaining from intercourse with her also; something my wife felt was extremely important), but encouraging the female to continue enjoying them. The part about "removing the goals posts" is so true. It lets you be in the moment 100%, and she releases and comes in the normal course of our lovemaking; it is not an end, but just a wonderful, and repetitive, part of this new intimate bonding for us.

I feel like we have also released me from the position of being an alpha-male and having to perform to an orgasm during sex. It feels like there are aspects of female empowerment, or a female-led relationship, in this dynamic also. I don't mind using the term pussy worship to describe part of this either (and although not the exact definition of that, I have never enjoyed giving oral sex to a woman as much as I have enjoyed doing it with so much focus, and for so long, recently.)

@ca25

Posted by: @ca25

Thank you. It is really incredible to experience this. It is also great to have this guide, knowing we kind of stumbled onto something she had read about and now having even more knowledge and guidance from the article. We are doing the modified version described where the male abstains from orgasms (we have included me abstaining from intercourse with her also; something my wife felt was extremely important), but encouraging the female to continue enjoying them. The part about "removing the goals posts" is so true. It lets you be in the moment 100%, and she releases and comes in the normal course of our lovemaking; it is not an end, but just a wonderful, and repetitive, part of this new intimate bonding for us.

Once my wife joined in on my journey,we morphed into something ‘similarish’ to this. Granted,ours is a maybe more dom orientated,but it’s been great,opened new worlds of pleasure and fun. It’s completely spiced up our marriage and sex life to decades before.

Posted by: @ca25

I feel like we have also released me from the position of being an alpha-male and having to perform to an orgasm during sex. It feels like there are aspects of female empowerment, or a female-led relationship, in this dynamic also. I don't mind using the term pussy worship to describe part of this either (and although not the exact definition of that, I have never enjoyed giving oral sex to a woman as much as I have enjoyed doing it with so much focus, and for so long, recently.)

We have pretty much switched roles,control and power in the bedroom. She loves the alpha-female part,controlling my pleasure,penis,ejaculations,orgasms and even my erections. The fun starts and ends with her. It’s a breath of fresh air! It’s trained my focus hugely! 
Glad you are both enjoying yourselves,more power to you! 

Posted by: @ca25

I have never enjoyed giving oral sex to a woman as much as I have enjoyed doing it with so much focus, and for so long, recently.

You'll enjoy it even more while having your own prostate orgasms with an Aneros in situ whilst performing this sacred sex act.

Good Vibes to You!

@rumel

Everything is better while the prostate is in action!!! 😉

Posted by: @rumel

Posted by: @ca25

I have never enjoyed giving oral sex to a woman as much as I have enjoyed doing it with so much focus, and for so long, recently.

You'll enjoy it even more while having your own prostate orgasms with an Aneros in situ whilst performing this sacred sex act.

Good Vibes to You!

I was thinking something similar today actually. I was wondering if it would be a good idea to use the Progasm while making love to her orally.

Posted by: @helghast

@ca25

Posted by: @ca25

Thank you. It is really incredible to experience this. It is also great to have this guide, knowing we kind of stumbled onto something she had read about and now having even more knowledge and guidance from the article. We are doing the modified version described where the male abstains from orgasms (we have included me abstaining from intercourse with her also; something my wife felt was extremely important), but encouraging the female to continue enjoying them. The part about "removing the goals posts" is so true. It lets you be in the moment 100%, and she releases and comes in the normal course of our lovemaking; it is not an end, but just a wonderful, and repetitive, part of this new intimate bonding for us.

Once my wife joined in on my journey,we morphed into something ‘similarish’ to this. Granted,ours is a maybe more dom orientated,but it’s been great,opened new worlds of pleasure and fun. It’s completely spiced up our marriage and sex life to decades before.

Posted by: @ca25

I feel like we have also released me from the position of being an alpha-male and having to perform to an orgasm during sex. It feels like there are aspects of female empowerment, or a female-led relationship, in this dynamic also. I don't mind using the term pussy worship to describe part of this either (and although not the exact definition of that, I have never enjoyed giving oral sex to a woman as much as I have enjoyed doing it with so much focus, and for so long, recently.)

We have pretty much switched roles,control and power in the bedroom. She loves the alpha-female part,controlling my pleasure,penis,ejaculations,orgasms and even my erections. The fun starts and ends with her. It’s a breath of fresh air! It’s trained my focus hugely! 
Glad you are both enjoying yourselves,more power to you! 

 

I really feel there is the essence of a lot of what you mention in your last paragraph in what we are trying out here. It's an experiment, and she is enjoying pushing boundaries, and setting up the rules for me, and the benefits for her so far.

I was reading up on this some more and came across this quote from a woman:

"Intercourse denial wonderfully focuses a husband's mind on his wife, and if he's a real man, it makes him a better lover. That's been my experience, anyway."

That quote really resonated with me. When I said it to my wife she nodded her head and said "Yes."

I don't know how far down this path we will go, and to what extent our traditional roles in the bedroom will change, but I love the way I am feeling towards her. It is evolving each day.

The sexual energy has me on a high, a heightened sense of arousal, and an elevated kind of electricity or aura, but up around my head. I also have a lot of nervous energy mixed in; doing more chores around the house, being much more efficient, I am cooking for us more. Pretty incredible to experience.

Awesome thread. It’s nice to see positive change across several posts like this (and across so little time!!!).

With my partner we often partake in this sort of slow, sensual intimacy, and I deliberately don’t ejaculate more often than not in order to keep my sexual energy for the following days.  Because intimacy lasts so long (1-2 hours usually) and because I have learned to have all sorts of non-ejaculatory orgasms, I rarely feel the need to ejaculate at the end anyways.

Up to you to find out if a toy works during oral sex/sex/caressing, but it probably will be wonderful. I do it all the time and have huge orgasms with a mouth full of pussy, gripping on to her sumptuous ass for dear life as she comes with me.  Hubba hubba! It kinda gets rid of the need to fantasize/auto-arouse when you got your fantasy laid out in front of you.

You can also try saying loving things to each other (part of karezza), you with your toy in, her with her vibrator. We do it all the time, and often the words get caught in our throats as they bring us to orgasm.  It’s a wonderful form of mutual masturbation.

Karezza-related activities and other “harder” forms of intimacy (bdsm, rough sex) are in no way mutually exclusive; I happily partake in all sorts, but the more I practice slow sensual intimacy, the more intense ALL sexual activities become. 

Posted by: @ca25

I don't know how far down this path we will go, and to what extent our traditional roles in the bedroom will change, but I love the way I am feeling towards her. It is evolving each day.

Just follow it wherever it leads and enjoy each step.

Posted by: @helghast

Posted by: @ca25

I don't know how far down this path we will go, and to what extent our traditional roles in the bedroom will change, but I love the way I am feeling towards her. It is evolving each day.

Just follow it wherever it leads and enjoy each step.

 

We will. Thanks for all of the information, opinions, and support here.

I have never been an alpha-male in the bedroom, and I know my wife dated more of that type of man before me (basically she went off-type when she dated me.) I have difficulty starting off and leading in bed, not the greatest of stamina at times, and my size is slightly above average. My wife may have just decided that if I was not going to step up after all these years it was worth it for her to try taking the lead regarding our sexuality. We seem to both be comfortable and enjoying these new roles. In these last few weeks, basically with her leading, we have had more, better, and longer lovemaking sessions than we have in a very long time; albeit without intercourse or orgasms for me. 

@ca25

Posted by: @ca25

I have never been an alpha-male in the bedroom, and I know my wife dated more of that type of man before me (basically she went off-type when she dated me.)

That old chestnut. Maybe they looked the part,but didn’t act the part at game time. If they were so great and gods gift to women,how come she didn’t marry one of them.

Posted by: @ca25

I have difficulty starting off and leading in bed, not the greatest of stamina at times,

All the more reason to let go of the pressure and let her be boss,it’s already working from what you’ve said.

Posted by: @ca25

my size is slightly above average.

Lucky her.

Posted by: @ca25

My wife may have just decided that if I was not going to step up after all these years it was worth it for her to try taking the lead regarding our sexuality. We seem to both be comfortable and enjoying these new roles.

Or maybe she’s just enjoying a new and exciting way of doing things. Ppl do get a little bored with regular stereotypical sex. I did all the boss man sex shit years ago,yet my wife is a different woman now since we changed things up. You’re overthinking things.

Posted by: @ca25

In these last few weeks, basically with her leading, we have had more, better, and longer lovemaking sessions than we have in a very long time;

Only way is up!

Posted by: @ca25

albeit without intercourse or orgasms for me. 

A lot fun to be had for both of you by you having to earn that shit! 😉 Don’t think about it,just enjoy it.

Posted by: @helghast

@ca25

Posted by: @ca25

I have never been an alpha-male in the bedroom, and I know my wife dated more of that type of man before me (basically she went off-type when she dated me.)

That old chestnut. Maybe they looked the part,but didn’t act the part at game time. If they were so great and gods gift to women,how come she didn’t marry one of them.

Posted by: @ca25

I have difficulty starting off and leading in bed, not the greatest of stamina at times,

All the more reason to let go of the pressure and let her be boss,it’s already working from what you’ve said.

Posted by: @ca25

my size is slightly above average.

Lucky her.

Posted by: @ca25

My wife may have just decided that if I was not going to step up after all these years it was worth it for her to try taking the lead regarding our sexuality. We seem to both be comfortable and enjoying these new roles.

Or maybe she’s just enjoying a new and exciting way of doing things. Ppl do get a little bored with regular stereotypical sex. I did all the boss man sex shit years ago,yet my wife is a different woman now since we changed things up. You’re overthinking things.

Posted by: @ca25

In these last few weeks, basically with her leading, we have had more, better, and longer lovemaking sessions than we have in a very long time;

Only way is up!

Posted by: @ca25

albeit without intercourse or orgasms for me. 

A lot fun to be had for both of you by you having to earn that shit! 😉 Don’t think about it,just enjoy it.

 

 

Many good points, yes. Food for thought, for sure. It has been really nice not feeling the pressure to perform, and with her basically in charge/control. Different, yet exciting. She seems to really be enjoying it also. I also like how you said that I have to "earn" it, and that in some ways is exactly how it feels.

So we are leaving this weekend for our trip, and decided to both abstain from having sex this week to build up to it, so at least this week it does not seem as one-sided. We were making out in the shower this morning and that is about as far as we have been taking it this week.

Not sure that I mentioned it above, but near the beginning of this experiment, she asked me to shave off her landing strip while we were showering together. It was almost like a firm request at the time. And now, with some short growth back, she is getting a Brazilian wax on Friday in preparation for the trip. So she will be completely smooth. This morning in the shower she was looking down at my body and said she would still like me to shave off all of my pubic hair before we travel also. She mentioned this idea in the past, when I was shaving her, telling me she thought it might be fun to shave me bald also.

What is interesting about this is she knows my preference is for her to have a landing strip or trimmed triangle bush, and she has always in the past noted that men should have some pubic hair or they look like a teenage boy otherwise. So I assume this could be an interesting part of our role reversal, and who is taking charge for our vacation, maybe. In any case it is all so interesting, and fun. And sexy. And totally looking forward to the sex.

Posted by: @ca25

Not sure that I mentioned it above, but near the beginning of this experiment, she asked me to shave off her landing strip while we were showering together. It was almost like a firm request at the time. And now, with some short growth back, she is getting a Brazilian wax on Friday in preparation for the trip. So she will be completely smooth. This morning in the shower she was looking down at my body and said she would still like me to shave off all of my pubic hair before we travel also. She mentioned this idea in the past, when I was shaving her, telling me she thought it might be fun to shave me bald also.

What is interesting about this is she knows my preference is for her to have a landing strip or trimmed triangle bush, and she has always in the past noted that men should have some pubic hair or they look like a teenage boy otherwise. So I assume this could be an interesting part of our role reversal, and who is taking charge for our vacation, maybe. In any case it is all so interesting, and fun. And sexy. And totally looking forward to the sex.

Maybe the firm request was just a first step for her,and request for you to shave. Sounds great,hope you have fun and have great things to report when your back 😉

Have not posted in this thread in some time. As a brief update, we eventually found out that the way we were/are practicing the modified Karezza Sex is a practice also known as Devotional Sex. It is female-led and female-focused, and we have learned a lot about the nuances involved in this practice. It has been a wonderful learning experience, enlightening, and extremely pleasurable for both of us when we practice it on occasion. It really makes for a nice change of pace (in the bedroom and in our private life) and is exciting to look forward to and provides a very rewarding experience.