Pegging

I wanted to re-post some links I found in this thread from the tribe group that are non-operational. I took over the moderation of that group and renamed the group Pegging 101. There are a some good threads there. Although I must say - this group is far more active and lively than they have found the courage to be as yet.... 🙂

Tribes - Pegging 101

Tribes - Non-dominant pegging

Tribes - What's involved in an Anal Orgasm?

Ruby;

Thanks for the Tribes links -- some interesting stuff in there. Not only are those threads less active than the related ones here, the groups don't have much cohesion. Your website is better, having cohesion, focus, information and entertaining stories (excellent erotic writing, BTW).

Cheers,

Dave

Tool comparison photo:
http://www.aneros.com/forum/members/ten_s_nut/albums/vixen-vs-feedoe-vice/
Wet HFO by strap-on:
Sdms-837 part1 (straponed male orgasm) - XNXX.COM
Strap-on image gallery:
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Thank you, Dave! Glad to hear you enjoyed my erotic writing. It is my passion...along with pegging, of course.

Ruby;

Perhaps you could post a link to one of your pegging stories here? Some of them are free, right?

BTW, updating the pegging progress at our house; I finally had a hands-free wet-O. I'll admit there was some friction between me and the towel I was face down on, but I think it still counts.

Cheers,

Dave

Tool comparison photo:
http://www.aneros.com/forum/members/ten_s_nut/albums/vixen-vs-feedoe-vice/
Wet HFO by strap-on:
Sdms-837 part1 (straponed male orgasm) - XNXX.COM
Strap-on image gallery:
Strap-on Images

Ruby;

Perhaps you could post a link to one of your pegging stories here? Some of them are free, right?

BTW, updating the pegging progress at our house; I finally had a hands-free wet-O. I'll admit there was some friction between me and the towel I was face down on, but I think it still counts.

Cheers,

Dave

Tool comparison photo:
http://www.aneros.com/forum/members/ten_s_nut/albums/vixen-vs-feedoe-vice/
Wet HFO by strap-on:
Sdms-837 part1 (straponed male orgasm) - XNXX.COM
Strap-on image gallery:
Strap-on Images

I second the idea of posting some pegging stories!

Mark M

I'd be happy to! Thanks for the invitation. (and for the second, MarkM)

Here are a couple for you to (hopefully) enjoy:
A Chair with No Arms
Hard Times at the Hotel

BTW, updating the pegging progress at our house; I finally had a hands-free wet-O. I'll admit there was some friction between me and the towel I was face down on, but I think it still counts.

Cheers,

Dave

Oh hell yes, it counts! Great to hear of your progress. I am happy for you both and envious of your sexually adventuresome partnership. I'll find the right guy someday...

Best,
Ruby

Ruby;

Thanks for the story links. You're a very talented writer. Even though domination/submission is not my thing, I found those stories very arousing.

Best Regards,

Dave

Tool comparison photo:
http://www.aneros.com/forum/members/ten_s_nut/albums/vixen-vs-feedoe-vice/
Wet HFO by strap-on:
Sdms-837 part1 (straponed male orgasm) - XNXX.COM
Strap-on image gallery:
Strap-on Images

Ruby,

Terrific stories, your passion for pegging really shines through!

Nice!

BF Mayfield

Thanks, Dave and BF Mayfield,

I'm glad you enjoyed them. People's preferences are so varied that I probably cater to a small slice of erotica readers.
However I did notice that this definitely kicked up the traffic significantly coming from this website - according to my Google Analytics...and y'all spent some time there, too. Couple of new memberships as well! Thanks guys.
All the best,
Ruby

Ruby,

If you have any other samples you can hook us up with, feel free! 😉

BF Mayfield

You know, I rarely decline a polite invitation...Here are some shorts for you, BF Mayfield.

Two short stories...the same story...from both points of view:
Careful What You Ask
My Favorite Hobby

Two very short vignettes:
Just One Finger
Overheard and Unmistakable

You know, I rarely decline a polite invitation...Here are some shorts for you, BF Mayfield.

Two short stories...the same story...from both points of view:
Careful What You Ask
My Favorite Hobby

Two very short vignettes:
Just One Finger
Overheard and Unmistakable

WOW! Wonderful.

Thank you!

BF Mayfield

Thank you indeed Ruby.
I have listened to you reading your stories.
As you say my kinks are your kinks.
I have not been very active on forum or chat lately due to domestic problems.
I hope this will change at the end of the month and that I will have time to
resume my scribbles and Rectumland adventures.

@ Voyager - Isn't it fun when kinks match? Especially finding erotica that seems to talk to you. Thanks for letting me know of your enjoyment of my writing. I hope all smooths out in your life situation posthaste. "Rectumland adventures" - very nice!

@BF Mayfield - You are so welcome!

Thank you indeed Ruby.
I have listened to you reading your stories.

You listened to her reading her stories? Seems like I missed the boat!

Me thinks I'll have to take another look at that blog.

BF Mayfield

Click on "Free storys", Click on "Hard times at the hotel"

Click on "Download the mp3" and listen.
Happy listening.

Ruby, If that is truly you in those sexy pantihose, I am very impressed and would love to see more pictures. Keep up the good work.

Thanks SO much Ruby Ryder!! 😀 😀

Wonderful to have you on board here!! Elegant stories indeed!! You are such an accomplished eroticist!!!

all the best multi-perspectival eroticism and orgasmic energetics all

artform

@big jimbo - that is indeed me, and I dole out the pictures sparingly. Thanks for your kind words!
@artform - Thank you very much for the compliments. So glad you enjoyed my writing!

(I have recorded a couple of my stories as MP3s and you can click "podcast" in the tag cloud to access them. Eventually I will record all of them.)

Ruby;

Thank you so much for your links and helpful website.

I thought you, and some guys here might be interested in what I'd do differently if I were a would-be beginner at pegging, knowing what I know now, three months down the road.

First, doing what I did, buying a harness-free double dildo (FunFactory Share) and just springing it on your lady, "Here, let's try this!" is not a great idea (duh), even though she did play along. Harness-free designs like Share and Feeldoe are problematic for most women in terms of holding on with PC muscles alone. That sets up a failure mode, which requires buying a harness to fix a problem you don't need at the start. (Save the harness-free concept for when you're both already enjoying pegging.) Here's a better approach for beginning:

Ask her, if you don't know already, if she is comfortable with the idea of sex toys. If she's not, you'll have to get her to that point before proceeding.

Regarding her preference in sex toys, does she get off on clitoral stimulation by itself? Clitoral stim with a dildo inserted? Dildo by itself? Vibrating or not? The answers to those questions will guide the two of you in selecting her part of the pegging hardware.

If she doesn't already own the vibe and/or dildo for her side of the rig, buy that and let her play with it. Ideally, you should shop online, together.

Buy a high-quality harness that supports her preference on her side. For example, could be a harness that holds a clitoral butterfly vibe/bullet or a harness that holds her favorite type of dildo, or both. The Annie-O harness by Outlaw Leather can do any combo. The SpareParts Joque offers fewer options.

Buy a dildo for your side of the rig and practice solo with it. If it's at all uncomfortable, get another.

Warm up for an hour with your favorite Aneros (Vice, for me).

Put the rig together and try it out. I hope it's good for both of you.

Cheers,

Dave

Pegging Survey
http://www.aneros.com/forum/f6/pegging-16013/
Tool comparison photo:
http://www.aneros.com/forum/members/ten_s_nut/albums/vixen-vs-feedoe-vice/
Wet HFO by strap-on:
Sdms-837 part1 (straponed male orgasm) - XNXX.COM
Strap-on image gallery:
Strap-on Images

You know, Dave - I am so glad you mentioned this because this is an issue I run across often. Thanks for this.

When men are first getting interested in pegging many of them are quite concerned about wanting their partner to have pleasure as well and they think that the only way to do that is with one of the double-ended dildos like the feeldoe, realdoe, share, etc. They do indeed look really sexy - that's for certain. I try to warn people that they have their issues - exactly like you mentioned (vaginal muscles cannot compete with anal sphincters) but still many buy them. I firmly believe that it is an advanced toy, as you say, and from now on I intend to tell people that more strongly. I appreciate you sharing your story with us - it helps to be able to hear the feedback from having chosen that as a first toy. Again - some people love them - but those folks are in the minority.

Double-ended dildos such as those are not the only way for a woman to have pleasure! there are harnesses with clit vibes, dildos with vibes in the base and harnesses with the ability to have a single flared-base dildo in both of you. Depending on how the woman gets off - any of these can be a great choice....

I go into a fair amount of detail about harness and dildo choices here. Happy shopping!

I'm glad that you agree, Ruby.

It would be good if you emphasized this on the equipment page in your blog. I'll bet most people buy the wrong hardware when they start.

You might want to take a look at the Pegging poll (linked below) I started on this website. It indicates that there a lot of guys who would get into pegging if they had the opportunity.

Best Regards,

Dave

Pegging Survey
http://www.aneros.com/forum/f6/pegging-16013/
Tool comparison photo:
http://www.aneros.com/forum/members/ten_s_nut/albums/vixen-vs-feedoe-vice/
Wet HFO by strap-on:
Sdms-837 part1 (straponed male orgasm) - XNXX.COM
Strap-on image gallery:
Strap-on Images

So I finally broke down and decided I want to be pegged so I checked online for prostate massages in my area (not the USA anymore) and found a sensual massage therapist (more of a dominatrix-lite though) who specializes in prostate play with either a finger or strapon. It was also surprisingly cheap, about USD $110 for the hour.

So I get to my appointment and explain that I've never been fucked by either a strapon or dick before, but I would like to pegged for almost the entire hour and she seemed surprised that a relative newbie would want to do it for that long, but reluctantly agreed. She started off with a sensual massage for about 10 minutes, I was on my stomach and she was on top of caressing my whole rear, but not yet putting a finger in there. Let me say, this felt absolutely incredible and by the end I couldn't keep my arms still b/c even they were tingling so much.

Next, she tells me to lay on my back and I agreed to light restraint so she puts my hands on top of my head and ties them. She does a bit more sensual massaging for about 5 minutes including this thing where she put light pressure on my perineum and just kept kind of pumping it, kind of like someone might do on your chest when giving CPR, if that makes sense. Anyway, that felt incredible and I think I may have been able to bring myself to at least a mini-O had she kept doing it.

Next, she starts working a finger into my anus, I was a little let down b/c it obviously felt good, but after the buildup from the previous 15 minutes I thought it would send pangs of pleasure all over. She worked with one finger for a little while and kind of massaged around my frontside with her other hand. I instructed her not to stroke my cock until the very end so I could focus on prostate sensations, so she obliged, but would lightly touch my cock every now and then which was great.

So she finally gets to the pegging and she told me she picked her smallest dildo it was probably only a little girthier than the Progasm (which I normally use) and was flared a bit at the end towards the prostate. I'm not really sure though at which point she went from a finger to the strapon so maybe it wasn't that big. Anyway, she started pounding away slowly, gradually pick up the pace, and me slightly adjusting my hips so she hit the right spots and she followed my cues nicely. This went on for awhile until she really started pounding away and it felt like she was hitting my prostate and it felt pretty good, but unfortunately I couldn't really build up enough feeling around the prostate to approach any kind of prostate O. If I had to guess I would say it was partly the new-ness of the sensation of being fucked (which I'm not used to), partly b/c there's a bit of a time constraint b/c prostate orgasms can take some time to build up to, and partly b/c I had never done anything like this before and I was incredibly anxious and excited and maybe couldn't calm down enough.

Overall I would rate the session a 6 out of 10, parts of it were incredible and mind-blowing, but surprisingly they all pretty much occurred while I wasn't being penetrated by either a finger or strapon. I was a bit let down by the actual pegging, don't get me wrong it felt good, but I was hoping it could bring me to the verge of prostate O's or beyond, but I didn't really feel like I got very close. I think I will definitely do this again, probably in a week or 2, but I will have to change things up a bit. I think I will ask her to do the sensual massage type warmup for 15-20 minutes, then have her manually stimulate my prostate with a finger or two while keeping pressure on my perineum. I'm hoping this setup might be more conducive to a mini-O. Towards the end I will have her use a slightly larger dildo, possibly with a vibrator b/c I love my Vice too and the vibrations really send me over the edge.

Towards the end of the session she starts stroking me for the big finish, but oddly I had trouble getting an erection. Usually during my Aneros sessions I get rock hard erections that I can keep for awhile, but outside of the first 10 minutes with the sensual massage, and the last 2 minutes right before I ejaculated, I couldn't really get an erection, which was a bit disappointing and surprising. She kind of had to stop thrusting the strapon and focus more on getting me off, and when I finally did, it was a decent orgasm, but nothing mind blowing. I knew I was actually a bit over my hour time limit, so I couldn't really focus on the sensations of my prostate while cumming, which usually intensifies it greatly.

I hope this wasn't too long and I'd appreciate any comments and feedback. Mainly I'm wondering if this type of stuff is pretty normal for your first time being pegged (i.e. not being able to prostate O from it, not being able to stay hard, etc.) and I'm also wondering if anyone has any suggestions on what I should try to do next time to possibly heighten the pleasure. Maybe the hour long format with someone who you don't feel an emotional attachment to isn't conducive to bringing about an orgasm. Hopefully next time I'll be a bit more relaxed, a bit more used to the sensations involved, and I'll know what I like a bit more and maybe turn the session from a 6/10 to a 9//10.

Wow...what a story! Better luck on your next visit, but since it was a 6/10 I think you don't have far to go.

Was this in Canada since you said it wasn't in the US?

Great report, Rando!

Getting a prostate orgasm during pegging took me more than a few tries. Now, I get multiples. Like with the Vice+vibe, the key is to relax while being fucked. That was very difficult with the heavy vibes from the Vice and is even more difficult when banged by a dildo that's considerably larger.

Another thing that helped me get there was to ride on top, cowboy-style. That allows you to have precise control of depth, angle, rhythm and speed. I think being in control helps maintain an erection as well. While I agree that an erotic massage is a good warm-up, I find that 30 minutes with the Vice+vibe before pegging is essential.

Once you've got the hang of it, then let her have her way with you.

Best Regards,

Dave

Pegging Survey
http://www.aneros.com/forum/f6/pegging-16013/
Tool comparison photo:
http://www.aneros.com/forum/members/ten_s_nut/albums/vixen-vs-feedoe-vice/
Wet HFO by strap-on:
Sdms-837 part1 (straponed male orgasm) - XNXX.COM
Strap-on image gallery:
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ten_s, that makes a lot of sense about relaxing, I kinda figured that was a large part of it b/c I was so anxious and nervous about the whole ordeal I couldn't even really sleep the night before the appointment. Probably not really conducive to orgasmic results. Hopefully next time I'll be able to relax more. I can relate to what you said about the Vice+Vibe, that took me many tries as well, but now produces amazing results most sessions. With your last comment in paragraph 2 are you suggesting that it might be beneficial to have a mini session with the Vice+Vibe right before leaving for my session as a warm-up?

I'm not sure if I'm bold enough to try riding on top, or if she'd even allow it, maybe a couple more sessions down the road. Usually during my Aneros sessions I get the best results lying on my stomach, would it work very well if I did this while being pegged or is too hard to get a good angle on the prostate that way? Also, what do you think works best when she's having her way with you - long, slow thrusts, rapid thrusts, maybe holding the strap-on in deep and having her slowly rotate or grind her hips? Finally, do you think having a vibrating strapon vs. non-vibrating makes a huge difference? I'm thinking about asking if she has a vibrating strapon. Sorry if that's a lot of questions, but you're the master and I want to make the most of this next session.

Rando;

Thanks for asking, but I'm no "Master" at pegging. My wife and I have been at it only 4 months. We're still learning.

The second best position for me after cowboy is reverse missionary; me laying on my back, legs up, wife on top. That allows the wife easy access to my dick. In that position I like a few slow and deep followed by fast and shallow thrusts, repeat.

On the other hand, she prefers fucking me when I'm face-down, flat on the bed, legs together. She can get a good angle on my prostate but sometimes gets too energetic. The short high frequency jiggling thrusts work best in that position. It's similar to what you see in the video linked below in terms of speed and rhythm, but with more depth (our dildo is 3X bigger). The corkscrew rotation thing is kind of hit or miss. I think the depth has to be exactly spot-on for it to feel good.

All of our dildos are doubles, with vibes. The vibes help, especially since they remind me of the Vice.

Finally, yes, have a mini-session for 15 or 30 minutes with the Vice before going to your pegging appointment. It really warms everything up nicely.

I hope your next pegging goes well.

Best Regards,

Dave

Pegging Survey
http://www.aneros.com/forum/f6/pegging-16013/
Tool comparison photo:
http://www.aneros.com/forum/members/ten_s_nut/albums/vixen-vs-feedoe-vice/
Wet HFO by strap-on:
Sdms-837 part1 (straponed male orgasm) - XNXX.COM
Strap-on image gallery:
Strap-on Images

For all you pegging story fans, here's a couple of pretty good erotic reads.
Aaron Convinces Felicia to Try This - Fetish - Literotica.com & Valerie Finds Her Man - Fetish - Literotica.com

Hey Dave - I finally changed the section in my FAQs that talks about double-ended dildos:

A word about double-ended dildos like the Share and the Feeldoe...most couples find that these cannot be used without a harness, no matter how sexy that may be to envision. I would like to emphasize that they are on the advanced end of pegging toys for the majority of people. Some couples love them, but most use a harness as well and they are indeed in the minority. The difficulties arise from a) vaginal muscles being no match against the anal sphincter so they are difficult for most women to even keep in, b) the insertion point is the only point of balance as opposed to a nice snug two strap harness which will let you push up down and sideways and c) imagine dealing with all that when you are just learning how to fuck someone else! Not recommended for beginners.

Thanks for that much needed suggestion!

Rando - Thanks so much for the in-depth (pun intended) report! Having a prostate O the first time you are pegged is not the norm. There are no studies (yet!) but here is my guess from observation and information gathering. I think the percentage of men who orgasm easily from pegging in the beginning are about the same as the percentage of women who orgasm from G-spot stimulation easily - about 25 - 30%. There are threads that talk about orgasms from pegging on FetLife and you can find all different responses; men who have to have cock stimulation to orgasm, men who can have a prostate O sometimes and men who barely need to be entered to orgasm.

I have also encountered men who after being pegged for a long time get kind of overstimulated and can't get hard or orgasm until the anal stimulation reduces or stops. And as far as the erection reaction to pegging, there is no hard and fast rule. There are men who can't get erect at all, men whose erections come and go and men who stay hard the entire time. I do not know how this compares to erections while using the Aneros toys.

As an aside, I really wish there were prostate massage/dom lite practitioners openly available in the US, as I get asked for referrals all the time.

Thanks again for sharing - enjoy your next visit to her!