Pegging

Hello, all.

So, while my wife and I had a good holiday weekend of Aneros and non-Aneros sex, the most recent try at pegging was a failure. The cock ring rabbit died almost immediately. Even if it hadn't, the geometry of the Share plus cock ring was a mismatch to wife's anatomy. She has also rejected the Share's "bulb" as too hard, despite being the right size. That fact rules out the Feeldoe as a replacement, since it is an even harder silicone material.

With the goal of making pegging enjoyable for my wife, I'll further modify the Share by amputating the bulb, reshaping the giver side of the pubic abutment.and drilling or carving a hole for the same Doc Johnson mini-bullet vibe I use with the Vice. Those mods plus a Spare Parts Joque harness to hold the thing may be a winner. With any luck, the rig should be ready by Saturday.

Cheers,

Dave

Update:
I received the Joque harness yesterday and immediately modified the Share. A razor saw and wood-carving tools made it a 20-minute job. As usual, I went to bed at 10 PM with Aneros inserted. Had a great session and went to sleep. My wife surprised me at 1 AM wanting to have anal sex; me in her. So, I guess pegging will have to wait a day or two.

I have a hunch that pegging is an alternative method to milking the prostate in that both partners experience pleasure. Any of you have videos or personal experiences to shed light on this? The point being to keep arousal after sex but enjoy dry orgasms or lots of pleasure in the process.

Korkelz;

You're correct in that pegging milks the prostate, generates dry Os, and if ended before ejac leaves arousal intact. I've experienced that. Many guys who are into pegging also like their partner to "give them a hand" to finish with a big wet O, which is what my wife and I have done a few times.

As for the "giver" getting pleasure from pegging, my wife hasn't had any luck due to lack of clitoral stim. I'm hoping our current pegging hardware will fix that. We'll see.

Best Regards,

Dave

Ten_s_nut that is exactly my hang-up about pegging! I feel like I might spend $300 or some crazy amount before I find something the feels good for my wife. Yeah, I think my wife needs clitoral stim. Please share what you are doing, buying, etc.

Korkelz;

Please see my previous posts, above in this thread. I will update the thread when we have a solution that works for both of us, or not.

Cheers,

Dave

Hello, all.

Wife and I tried out the highly modified Share I described above last night. Before my wife got into bed, I'd warmed myself up for an hour using the Vice with Vice bullet and spent at least 15 minutes in Super-O land before falling asleep.

Wife woke me up around 4 AM, feeling frisky. After I licked her for a good long time, we pegged using a spooning position so my wife's hand was over my waist and holding my penis. The bullet vibe really got her going. She had a series of mini-Os while I had more dry-Os than I cared to count. I'm not sure how long we went at it -- probably around 30 minutes. She never had a big-O, but enjoyed the session. My last wet O and all the previous "dry" Os left a huge wet spot on the bed. I'll remember the towel next time.

Now, it's about 4 hours later and I'm still having P-wave after-effects.

It seems to me that the ideal pegging rig would be similar to what we have with the addition of "rabbit ears" inside the vaginal abutment for more direct clitoral stimulation and a very soft silicone mini-dildo that would go inside her.

Cheers,

Dave

I suggest trying the Realdoe - check it here . We bought this some time ago and it is perfect. A good method is having an Aneros session, and then use the Realdoe dildo... We enjoy this very much. 🙂

PS: You can accompany it with some harness (this one fits perfectly), or use it just bare

Peter & Jenny

Hello Ten_s_nut, 🙂

I wonder if your wife's impression of the Share on her end was not necessarily the size, but more the shape? If so, then a Feeldoe might work as the shape is really different on the pony end, or perhaps a *** double dildo with a bullet vibe placed in the pocket of the Spareparts Joque above the dildo.

Also another possibility is that exercising of weakened pelvic muscles can give a sore feeling, is this perhaps a possibility of what she was feeling?

Love_is

Love_is,

My wife's PC muscles are incredibly well-developed. She could juice a lemon in there if she felt like it.:)

The problems for her were three-fold: pony material too hard, pony too big, and not enough clitoral stimulation. I carved the pony down until she liked the size of it. Since there was nothing I could do about the pony's hardness, I cut it off. Solved the clitoral stim problem by carving a hole in the Share near her clit and placing a bullet vibe there.

At this point, we have a workable solution that she's comfortable with and gives her pleasure. I'll let her do the shopping for something she thinks might be better.

Best Regards,

Dave

Dave,

I guess you are aware that you a very lucky to have a wife who is willing to participate in your adventures. My wife seems to have lost all interest in any type of sexual activity. I am starting to shop for toys I can use for masturbation on myself, discretely of course.

Enjoy what you are doing, and keep us posted. It makes for very interesting reading.

Jimbo;

Thanks for your kind words. I'll update your thread as new pegging things unfold.

Sorry to hear your wife is "off." I know how lucky my wife and I are that we're still enjoying each other's sexual interests. It's been said many times before but worth repeating:

Relationships are like sharks; they have to keep moving to survive.

Best Regards,

Dave

Hello, all.

My wife of 22 years and I are starting to get this pegging thing to work really well. Last night, we successfully used the good old missionary position. What made it possible was stacking two lawn chair pads on the bed to get my butt high enough so she could kneel between my legs. Being the passive receiver on my back was a very new and thrilling experience. The dry-Os just kept on coming (pun intended, sorry 🙂 ), though as usual they weren't very dry and got my entire belly wet. About 5 minutes into it, my wife turned on, became very hot and started thrusting like mad. From that point on, it was difficult for me to maintain a relaxed state since my anus kept spasming, which felt great but caused more friction than I like despite tons of lube. We'll try putting a condom on the Share next time to see if that makes it more slippery.

Now that we're both getting pleasure from pegging, I think we can make it a regular part of our sex life. Yay!

Cheers,

Dave

Hello, all.

Rumel asked that I upload some pictures of our pegging rig. Here:

http://www.aneros.com/forum/members/ten_s_nut/albums/joque-share-pegging/

The components are a SpareParts Joque harness (small), a FunFactory Share double dildo with the "pony" end cut off, and a Doc Johnson mini-bullet vibe.

This is not an ideal setup, but works well enough for us both to have Os.

Cheers,

Dave

Thanks so much Dave for all your detailed experimenting!!

Love_is,

My wife's PC muscles are incredibly well-developed. She could juice a lemon in there if she felt like it.:)

The problems for her were three-fold: pony material too hard, pony too big, and not enough clitoral stimulation. I carved the pony down until she liked the size of it. Since there was nothing I could do about the pony's hardness, I cut it off. Solved the clitoral stim problem by carving a hole in the Share near her clit and placing a bullet vibe there.

At this point, we have a workable solution that she's comfortable with and gives her pleasure. I'll let her do the shopping for something she thinks might be better.

Best Regards,

Dave

And for your photos of the successful rig you have improvised to work well for both of you!! 😀 😀

I may try the reshaping of the pony too first and see if we are any different, for interest's sake, and will report when we get to this stage later.

all the very best shared linkages and mutual motions all

artform

Dave;

Have you looked at the Sysil Tango? It has a smaller pony, and an adjustable angle. I'm not sure if they're still being made, so you might want to hurry up and look into one while you still can.

Good luck and keep us posted.

]Dave,

Thanks for sharing and posting those photos, I think the pictures make it much more understandable for those of us who have difficulty translating the written word into visual images. I do hope your wife does not find the bullet vibrator too hard on her clitoris during forward thrusting motions.
Good Vibes to You !

Gutsy move cutting off the pony on your Share Dave! Not a cheap piece of equipment to take a box cutter to!

Just ordered a Share XL (gulp) :eek::eek:

Hopefully I'll be able to report back soon.

Tks Dave --fotos clarified the discussion. Definitely worth 10K words each ... rook

Badger;
I've read that the Sysil Tango is off the market due to patent infringement litigation (with Feeldoe, I think). My wife is looking around for something she might prefer. I'll post about whatever she picks when and if she ever buys anything.

Art;
You're welcome. Note that the only tools that seem to work on silicone rubber are razor blades, razor-edge chisels, and razor saws. You can resurface the worked surfaces with pure silicone sealant, like those from Dow or GE.

Rumel;
The bullet vibe is on top of the vaginal abutment of the Share so it never directly touches skin. Vibrations have to travel about an inch through the silicone to get to my wife's clitoris.

Sky_Walker;
Share XL? Wow, you are a brave man.

Best Regards, All,

Dave

Hello, all.

More than a few guys in chat have asked how I got my wife to even consider pegging and how did I raise the topic. Simple answer: I didn't.

Once I decided I wanted to try pegging, I bought the Share and presented it cold one evening in bed after making my wife very happy with a lot of oral sex.* Actually, the Share was literally cold since I hadn't thought to warm it up (oops). My wife expressed a little surprise, then, being the good sport she is, went along with the idea. You already know the rest of the story.

Cheers,

Dave

* The conversation went like this...

Sweetie, you know how you have your toys and I have mine?

Yes.

Well, I got a new one that we can both enjoy at the same time, called "Share." Look.

That's weird.

This end goes in you and then I'll get on top. OK?

Hmmmm... OK.

Hello Ten_s_nut, 🙂

Thanks for the pictures and all the posts. I'm glad you were able to get something to work for your wife and you. The pictures definitely help show what you are talking about.

Good luck with the Share XL Sky_Walker. Let us know here how it works out. Although I'm curious to know what went through your mind that that would be a workable model with all those ridges in it.

More than a few guys in chat have asked how I got my wife to even consider pegging and how did I raise the topic.

There is a very nice gal I know through fetlife.com that uses a screen name of Ruby_Ryder, who is a enthusiast and proponent of pegging. Outside of her commercial web site where she writes stories about this stuff, she also actually teaches in person group classes (no actual demonstrations or nudity, just informational) about pegging and discusses much about the psychology of finding or getting your partner to do this with you on fetlife in pegging/strap-on groups.

Some of her free educational and informational writings you can find in the blog section of her web site. (Links below) For others you will have to join up with fetlife.com (free) and do a search for her name to see the writings in her profile and what groups she is a member of.

Convincing Her to Try It
Ruby Ryder's Pegging Paradise

Classes/Education
Ruby Ryder's Pegging Paradise

Love_is

Thanks for the shout out - Love_is. On my website - all of my informational and blog posts are free and always will be. I have a new section called "New to Pegging" and am working on FAQ's. I address common misinformation (it will hurt) and misconceptions (he's gay) and try to inform couples that pegging is one more amazingly pleasurable activity to add to their sexual repertoire. One other link I would offer somewhat relevant to this discussion is an article talking about the reasons why I love pegging, in case your women are asking - so what am I going to get out of this? The article is called "Confessions of a Pegger".

Although I joined this forum some time ago - I've not had much of an opportunity to participate - my apologies (working on my book). And I hope by linking to my website I am not breaking any rules...

Dave - that is one of the coolest stories I have ever heard. Sometimes it really can be just that simple, if you have the right partner.

All the best,
Ruby

Good luck with the Share XL Sky_Walker. Let us know here how it works out. Although I'm curious to know what went through your mind that that would be a workable model with all those ridges in it.

Thanks for the good luck wishes Love_is. I don't know what came over me, The wife went shopping so I thought, bugger it, so am I! Saw the XL on spesh, about 30% off, which was enough to tempt me, thinking I'll deal with the bumps later. (online purchase)
Thing is, when the pegging is on, I feel the share moving in and out but only it pressing on my insides, it's very smooth. I thought a bit of a bumpy surface may get the feeling more on the anus. Well I'll see I suppose, I can always ask her to go easy:rolleyes:.
I'll hopefully be able to report back soon....that's if I can still sit down at the computer;).

Anybody else here got an XL?

You got me worried now.

Skywalker

Love_is;
You're welcome. I hope everybody reading this thread understands that the modified rig we use is specific to my wife and I. It may not work well for others.

Ruby;
Thanks for dropping by. I spent a fair amount of time on your excellent and helpful website before deciding to try pegging.

Skywalker;
I was surprised to read that you don't get enough sensation from the Share. It stimulates my prostate as much as any of the Aneros devices though I have yet to get a Super-O from pegging. And yes, you should be worried about the XL.:)

Cheers,

Dave

I have expressed a desire for this to her and she thinks this is not natural and that I should not desire this. She thinks it is related to homosexuality. It is hard to get her past this!!!I have expressed to her the things that I would like to try (ex: sex toys) and she is not even interested in that. We did try buying a strap-on one time and it did nothing for her at all. We really didn't know what we were doing at the time and she is not turned on by such, actually for her it is a turn OFF! As far as the aneros she would rather that I do solo sessions. I tried to get her to give me a massage while I had it inserted and we got into an argument about it because she really didn't want to assist me. I have REALLY told her about my sessions and the intense pleasure that it gives me but she is not interested. She just says "oh really, that's nice". She never gives any hint about joining me. I have asked many times and now I just don't say anything. I have been trying to get into the excitement mode for quite some time now and it is "the same ole routine", nothing different. I am an adventurous type person and she is not. I like to change things up and get kinda wild with our sex life because I get bored easy but that doesn't seem to matter to her any.

I have been gently guiding and expressing me desires for over a year and she is hard to talk to about sex. She doesn't even like to talk about sex at all, most of the time. It is like pulling teeth. She is very conservative and I don't mind that to a point but I would like some variety.

No, she absloutely doesn't like anal play at ALL!!!!! I have tried many times and she turns off like a light switch every time I try or even talk about it.

I would say that you are a unique woman and JIM should be very thankful to have a woman like you who is interested in pleasing him.

To me, what I take away from your post is, your wife is afraid you are going to leave her when you discover you're really a homosexual because you love anal play so much. She's possibly interpreting this as a direct attack on her future with you, while most likely being in complete denial of this.

She has great fear inside her when approaching anal sex in any fashion it sounds like. You should try to ask her next time she shuts down, "Hon, are you afraid or scared of something?". See if you can ask the right questions to get her to have an awareness of her fears.

Good luck.

Love_is;
You're welcome. I hope everybody reading this thread understands that the modified rig we use is specific to my wife and I. It may not work well for others.

Ruby;
Thanks for dropping by. I spent a fair amount of time on your excellent and helpful website before deciding to try pegging.

Skywalker;
I was surprised to read that you don't get enough sensation from the Share. It stimulates my prostate as much as any of the Aneros devices though I have yet to get a Super-O from pegging. And yes, you should be worried about the XL.:)

Cheers,

Dave

I don't think you get super-O's off pegging because the feedback loop is too easily distrubed to amplify arousal. So while you can now have mini-o's over and over via pegging, you'll probably not be able to maintain focus enough and relax enough to amplify the feelings of orgasm onto themselves like in a normal session.

Hello, jackfrost.

I know what you mean about how strap-on thrusting disturbs the feedback loop required for a Super-O. That is very similar to the problem I had with the Vice for the first month I had it. The Vice's vibrator made it close to impossible to fully relax and keep the buildup going. Nonetheless, I persisted and eventually learned how to integrate the vibrations into the feedback loop and can now Super-O reliably with Vice+vibe. We'll see if if I can figure out how to utilize the sensations of pegging to get to a Super-O. Might take a lot of practice. 🙂

Best Regards,

Dave

Hello, cyrez.

You said...

After some searching i did find a video with the feeldoe strapless in action (not pegging though)
http://watchcinema.ru/video/150223999/-16379660/

Sorry I missed it when you first posted. After watching those ladies I was inspired to purchase a Feeldoe Slim. I'm guessing it will still require the SpareParts Joque to compensate for the disparity between kegel and anal sphincter power.

See you in Chat, later.

Best Regards,

Dave

Hello, all.

My wife and I have been pegging as part of our sexual repertoire for about a month. Finally, after a number of sessions (8? not sure, haven't been counting) I got to a Super-O similar to those I get from Aneros Vice with the vibe in Mode 4 (pulse-pulse). For those of you following a similar path, here are some details.

- Before my wife got into bed, I warmed up with the Eupho -- had a bunch of Dry Os.
- Gave wife oral sex until she was a quivering heap.
- Wife put on the pegging gear without any vibe -- said she was too sensitive already.
- I lay on my back with butt on a firm cushion and removed Eupho.
- Lubed up dildo with Vaseline plus KY Sensitive Gel
- Wrapped legs around wife's back.
- She entered me and started thrusting. Went on at various depths and speeds.
- I was erect and leaking fluid continuously.
- At about 10 minutes in, I asked wife to stop thrusting and just "jiggle" fast, like in the "Japanese anal video you might like." ( http://video.xnxx.com/video393565/sdms_837_part1_straponed_male_orgasm_ )
- Almost immediately went to Super-O Land.
- After an unknown period of time, I heard my wife say, "Are you OK?" as she started stroking me.
- Soon after, I ejaculated. I don't remember ever having had that much semen and fluid all over me before.

Once I'd caught my breath, I asked my wife why she asked me about being OK. She said I was spasming, making incoherent sounds, and she was getting tired.

Now I know for sure what "fucking your brains out" means from the bottom's point of view.

Cheers,

Dave

Very nice Dave, Chief Pegging Coach here!! 😀 😀

Thanks for the detailed session report and your unambiguous summation!! All the best to you two!!

artform