I bought the Helix for my husband, any advice....

Buttercup, the strip club for us was just something we had talked about doing. If you've read my thread from beginning till now, then you know my "dirty little secret" about being bi-curious. The strip club was more to have the experience and to see what I thought and if it matched my imagination of what a strip club was like. He loved me just being there. When we were at the first strip club, there was a guy that told my husband that another guy and his wife were walking past and she was informing him that they were leaving in no uncertain terms... and that guy said to my husband that he was thrilled cuz his wife was up there with him! I will say that we didn't spend any money (other than to get into the club) or even go up to the stage. I was content with just being there and sitting back and watching the people, etc...

As for why a married man might go by himself. ????? Unhappiness in his marriage, just to look at the real thing and not paper or a t.v./computer screen, to have a drink and again... look at a pretty half/full naked woman. To add something to his wheel. (I remember hearing something once about that guys see stuff (got the visual going on) and they put it on a wheel that they spin and pull a "picture" from during the day to think about. If I see my hubby looking at another woman... I ask him if she's going on his wheel - he just laughs and tells me I'm on his wheel - lol)

I remember once in college that we had a psychology class and the instructor (who was a man) had us watch this progam that was called "The Six Hidden Keys to a Loving Relationship" and the few things I remember from the tapes was 1.) The difference of how a man and a woman interprets the same situation. What a woman might consider to be a boulder of a problem a man might consider it to be a pebble and vise/versa (visualize that!) and also that whenever you (a couple) are having a discussion, avoid saying "you" to the other person in a blaming way. i.e. "you are insensitive", "you are hurting my feelings", etc... instead put it in first person - I. I feel that my feelings aren't being understood. It sounds simple to say I and not say the blaming "you", but it is way harder than it seems! You (in the general sense 😀 really have to think before you speak.) So, where maybe you see a kindof big deal about the strip club (boulder), he may see just a pebble. Did that make sense? Yeah, I don't think that we as women could truly understand men or vise versa. Kinda like when my husbands grandfather died, I thought he would cry (he was pretty close to him), but as far as I know, he never did; while just the thought of my grandma dying sends me to tears. shrugging lol I guess for some things, we just need to agree to disagree, and yadda, yadda, yadda

I will say that going to the strip club did alleviate some of the tawdryness of it and the mystery.

CW, GOOD GOD!!! three grand?! That is a shitload of money, might even buy you one months worth of gas! ROFLMAO!!! sheeit! lace panties, check!; chocolate body paint, same as Hersheys?... I like Readywhip better! lol

I have to make a joke about the gas cuz it's just depressing otherwise. I've been taking bellydance lessons for the past 3 or so years and LOVE, LOVE, LOVE it but, because of gas it now costs me about $20-$25 per class. Just getting too expensive (not to mention the 80+ miles each time) *sigh*

Take care all, btw, Buttercup, I'll be waiting to see how the Peredise works out. Did you decide to buy it just for your hubby or are you going to check it out too? Oh, and how long did it take to get to ya?

Thanks, 😀 - C

p.s. For whoever has school-age kids and can afford it, enroll them in afterschool classes!!! I never thought about it all this past year but, we signed our two boys up for a 4-wk computer class after school on Wednesdays. WE HAD A DATE TODAY (and it was fun... 😉 ) and next week is the last week. Right before the kids got home today I told my hubby that we will be signing the kids up for classes on Mondays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays all next year! lol Wonderful fun 😈

ROFLMAO!!! a guy's naked ass doing the hula!!! Oh shit!, gotta wipe my eyes on that one!!! Sorry, men, but I don't care to ever see a naked man dancing (y'know like the Chippendales). I will say that one of my favorite pictures of all time was from a Playgirl magazine but, it was simply of a man with a bare chest, wearing Levi's that were unbuttoned (they were buttonfly) and open all the way down and that was it. No nothing showing other than that little trail of hair that leads down...(I can still see the picture in my head and the last time I saw it was in high school) I will say that I LOVE when my hubby does that too! Dead sexy (said with a Scottish accent, like on Austin Powers) (All right, we need some more different smiley's on here!!!! I need one that is drooling!!) Kinda like us women always hear that for you guys sometimes less showing is more... so sometimes we wear just a nice bra and panties (or something more naughty) and having the goodies under cover can be more fun anyway 😉

As for a threesome, I'm sure that's on his wheel too! lol... doesn't mean that one's gonna happen though. Like my brother always says... you think long, you think wrong. I will say that he says he is o.k. with me with another woman and just watching (no touchy, touchy.) 😉 As for the reality of that ever happening... ????? The thought does wonders, but I'm not about to risk my marriage over it either.

DAMN!, it's quarter to 1 and I have to be up at 6:15. Gotta go, have a good night/day all!

-C

I ordered on Saturday, they were in our mailbox yesterday (Wednesday), so they got here pretty quickly. I ordered the whole set since we're looking for medical benefits too. Both of us will use them, but I really want hubby to try them first since that was the whole point of looking at this website to begin with; I admit to being very curious about how they will work on me since I don't have a prostate. I've read the descriptions of how they work and it makes sense logically, but most of the reviews do mention feeling something in that body part I don't have, so until I experience it myself I can't even imagine what it will be like.

I told hubby we had been discussng why a man would want to go to a strip club alone here and he looked at me like I'd grown 2 heads; apparently what he meant was that he still wouldn't mind going, but with friends or with me, both of which make sense to me. So while I may never understand why a man in a good relationship would want to go alone, I don't need to. LOL at myself. 😳

I know men are more visual. When we watch movies hubby is stimulated by what he's seeing, while I don't get much out of it unless it sounds like the man is really enjoying himself; the women always moan & groan,so I ignore it.(I do watch to see if I can pick up any tips though.) We usually watch for awhile and then I start having my way with him and he either turns it off or mutes the sound; I don't know if he does it for my benefit or if he really isn't interested anymore, but it would be okay with me if he left it on.

C: Least you want to go with your man to a club! I'd be allowed to go...if I wear a blindfold! 🙁

Maybe I'm weird then....cos I don't see the point of going to see hot naked woman if I cant have my way with them?? That's like expensive window shopping! And then you never know how many guys they have slept with either....bleh no thanks, I'll stick with amateur porn from the internet and my fleshlights, oh and the two or three times a month hurried shag from the woman. 😥

The boulder and pebble analogy is very true...some things aren't big to you and are huge to her and visa versa....like at 4 in the morning, this morning she still awake, fuming and swearing cos the neighbours two buildings over were having a party and you could hear the music very faintly...but no its too loud and she couldn't sleep cos she couldn't ignore it?? I'm sorry but I feel rocks for her...if I can fall asleep then she can...and I'm the light sleeper!

What mystery C?? A strip joint?

Errr about that 3 grand....in your currency it would be about roughly $410? Not $3000! lol
Bellydancing is kewl! In what ways have the lessons benefited you C??

The Chippendales came to SA once....sold out lemme tell you!

Lol @ drooling smiley! Yeh sometimes less is better....ever seen any Met Art pics? Very well done and artful without showing anything but erotic at the same time....

Under cover is good too.....more things you can take off with your teeth! lol I bought her a see through red nightie thing once......wasn't on her longer than 5 minutes! hehe

Yeh I know what you mean C, threesomes and that aren't good unless you have that kind of understanding and relationship.....I personally wont be able to handle it, I can be very jealous at times.

Buttercup: Lol @ you 🙂

Your right about the visual...us men love the visual...but moaning is also a huge turn on for me(dunno about anyone else?)....just her moaning can almost make me go premature! lol

I don't like the moaning in most porn films...its fake and annoying...hence the amateur stuff...you KNOW its real when she orgasms!

Yeh making love while watching a porn film is very nice to do...long as its not ridiculous positions! Cos then you gotto try it and you might hurt yourself in the process *innocent look*

have no desire for strip clubs...waste of money...if ur single..maybe...we have more fun making our own porn...amateur?...with our camcorder...much rather watch them than anything on the web...very naughty to sit n watch with the wife as its us and can laugh and critique our "performance"....just my 2 cents..

EZ:Your a braver/kinkier man than I! lol @ critique!

I think I would get stage fright! hehe