Husband demands breast lift

It is my spouse's birthday on this July second. I asked him what he wanted for his birthday. ... his reply stunned me. He requested me to have a breast lift...I thought about the subject and realized that his demand is genuine. Am I a right candidate for this surgery?

IMHO, none of us on this forum are qualified to provide advice for such a significant surgery. It is your body and it is your decision about how it is to be altered. Plastic surgery is not an insignificant event especially if the effect desired is not achieved or the surgery is flawed. Please do not let your husband's desire become a "demand" in your mind, his desire should only be one factor in your decision making process. He is not the one who will experience the discomfort and pain of such a surgery. It is best that you discuss this in detail with your husband and your doctor, ultimately, the choice is yours and yours alone. Do what is likely to make YOU most happy, that decision is probably the correct one. Good Vibes to You !

Risk is also a huge factor to consider. We only have one life to live and it is most unfortunate when an illness or disease strikes but when it's self inflicted...

I am sorry to say this and hope not to upset you, but your husband has depressingly superficial, materialistic and selfish wishes. That he'd like you to take care of yourself and have a healthy appearance can have some healthiness in itself. But by cutting yourself to become half flesh half silicone ? Half woman half porn material ?

i know it is not uncommon. And that says a lot about this society were deviancy becomes such a norm it is even expected from people without such incline.

In other times I would have told you to make him see a psychiatrist. But today, fixing the situation, would probably would take curing the whole society, the psychiatrist himself included.

If I haven't lost you already. I'd advice you to make him understand his demand is nonsensical. That if he wishes to change something in his life it is his freedom to do it to himself. But changing your life in order to improve his, makes no sense at all, won't bring the expected result and his extremely disrespectful of your free will. If it is indeed your dream to do it, why not. But then, as a lover, he should be the one offering it to you. Just as you could offer him surgery on him if it was his wish. I don't advocate going against nature like this but, at least, it is anyone's dream and freedom of choice about his own life. Would you ask him to offer to tattoo himself with a design you chose and pay it with his own money ? Wouldn't it be something bizarrely twisted.

Maybe he'd be happy that you go to the gym, buy some new sexy underwear and make him feel desired. That wouldn't be a bad thing for you either. Some sexy time together doesn't mean you should have surgery. A happy, loving and aroused human being is always sexy. Even if it may sometimes be hidden, there is definetly sexiness in you, in both of you. You should both be able to wake your sexiness and open your eyes to your partner's.

To be honest, I was holding back before sending my previous post but @Canacan is absolutely right in his. Your better half makes you feel bad about losing your shape after bearing two children which is a gift all by itself. My better half and I could not have kids and if I remember my vows, the words and spirit of 'for better and for worst' were very much part of them.
I wonder if he has a perfect body to please you or do you have to bear the results of his aging??

I could not imagine even thinking of asking for such a gift from my wife; that would not be a gift but rather be an act of total selfishness and lack of respect on my part. From the moment I would suggest it, she would feel inadequate and that feeling would never never go away. And what if she ever had to have a mastectomy, do I run away?

Sorry for being so blunt @mashiza , I don't know you but I know you don't deserve that.

Sorry, @mashiza, but I totally agree to @Canacan's post and @GGringo's second post.

Furthermore that was a gross misconduct of your human dignity! 😮

😡 Buy him a rubber doll! 😡

Then shoot him to the moon. Tell him, if he truly understands what to apologize for, he may plead for coming back.

I would simply say your body, your decision! If you get it, get it because you want it...

Only get it if you truly want it. Many men, myself included, are very attracted to real breasts.