help me make it best for him

Hi and welcome to the forum!

Congratulations on deciding to do this for your man. I would presume your man is aware of your plans? Just asking, since he might get a fright if you whip out a Aneros device without prior notice.

If your man is not used to anal play I would suggest you arouse him first. This would go a long way to facilitate easier insertion. If he is used to anal play you can insert at the start and go from there.

Just remember to use lots of lube (non silicone based lube of you have the Syn version of the helix) and take it slow! Tease his hole first so that he can relax and then slowly insert, pausing if he says it is uncomfortable.

Your man will be forever gratefull, I promise!

It is not clear from your post if you are male or female. I think this will make a difference.

If I am going to incorporate the helix into our together sexual experience, do I insert it before arousal or after arousal but before getting all the way in to the activity whether its oral or intercourse?

Welcome, please check out my aneroscouple blog for some ideas. For me, personally, I like a 30 minute head start with the aneros before I start playing with my girlfriend.

Once you insert the Helix, tease him by touching everywhere except his penis. My gf brought on 3 super Os last night by doing this! Whatever touch stimulates you, he will respond also once rewired on the aneros.

This wont be productive, but it is still my two cents. The first couple of months, give him time for himself to relax, focus, meditate with it inside. Leave the house for a couple of hours. When he knows what it really is and means, join in 🙂

I'm so very tired of one track minded people saying the same thing over and over. I do not suggest you leave him to it for a few months. My suggestion is to travel this road with him. That is not to say that he shouldnt have solo sessions. Many people who have no spouse or significant other are quick to give suggestions to those who are in relationships. They do not have the correct perspective to even be doing so. This is why you never see me post in topics that I have no perspective on. With that being said...

Both of you should know what Aneros is about. Meaning that it is not something to be rushed into. It will take time. However I think having your encouragement will help him progress nicely if not faster. Both of you should have a good working knowledge of the main techniques used here. Personally you being there will most likely work better than any other tool he may use to get aroused (porn, photos, etc), also you can stimulate him without him having to take time focus on what he is doing. Stay away from his penis (yes I know its hard) so that he can focus on the many new sensations he will have. It would be best to insert after arousal, if you choose to use oral to get him there then so be it what ever works for you two. Just do what feels good, its all about experimentation anyway.

Good advice Deva! My girlfriend has been involved from the start and it has been a rewarding experience for both of us! She is not involved in insertion, but that is an area to progress to at some point. Mix it up and have fun!

The key for him will be to be aroused but relaxed at the same time. Don't rush things. Treat it like a very slow foreplay session.

It made my orgasm feel better the very first time I used it. There's no reason to let him use it on his own before incorporating it into your couples experience.