Can my wife help

She can help spike your arousal,she can stroke you,play with your nipples,you can play with hers, she could massage your testicles,lick them,lick your penis,all kinds of foreplay activities. Perhaps she could masturbate for you? Lots of things,you need to relax though and get lost in those moments and enjoy yourself. When you get experienced enough,pegging works very well! 

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Just let her get you in a frenzy. Helghast pretty much nailed it. A lot of times, in a solo session I focus on what the toy is doing as it's moving and let my mind go from there. Arousal is definitely key.

My first Dry O was from a blowjob from the wife with my helix inserted. Don't be afraid of some penile stimulation, especially to help you get over that first hurdle. Once it "clicks", you'll soon be able to get O's without any penie stimulation. In fact, push for that to be norm. 

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Bruh! 🙂

No one better than the wife to send arousal super sonic! 😉

yes, let your wife caress your body all over but not your cock (balls are fine!) and be with you while you use an Aneros inside of you. Light strokes across the length of my thighs, especially the undersides, sparks strong contractions and makes the toy auto-fuck me to no end. The sessions I have with my wife with me are sometimes like 200% more sensual and erotic than my solo sessions; the pleasure is also way above normal and ramped up like you wouldn't believe. She'll tickle my scrotum and touch all around my ass, under my knees, my torso, tweak my nipples, and pretend to touch my cock by getting close or mimicking stroking and grabbing motions just a half inch away from it, and it drives me bonkers! When she's with me I have Os nonstop, they just come and go, come and go, over and over sometimes for 30+ minutes before I need a break or need to change the toy to a new one.

I didn't have a for real, isolated, recognizable prostate hands-free orgasm until my wife was with me. And it was with a simple, barely flared g-spot dildo! I warmed up with the MGX and then went on to the dildo and she was using it on me but like it was teasing my prostate, she had it just at the edge of it and I needed the dildo to pass over and go past my prostate and I knew if she did push it past I would "cum." After a couple minutes of being on the edge and going mad I asked to take it from her and I knew what I needed to do and I moved it in and out of me just a few times and BAM WHAMMO my orgasm struck me like lightning!! Then I had a few more with the dildo and she used it on me and gave me some too. I can't remember if I used Aneros after that but I did a day or two later on my own and I had prostate Os instantly upon insertion and I've been orgasmic since. That was almost 8 years ago. I credit it all to my wife!

I think the problems and issues men have with trying to reach breakthroughs with their Aneros play while incorporating their wives or significant women partners is that most men and women have a one-way-only way of engaging sex during their sex play. Like "I give her head, she gives me head, I start on top, she gets on top, I get back on top, I cum, we're done." Or something like that. But prostate play is so different from normal sex. It involves totally different things, a toy in the man's ass for one thing, and not even an erection. BUT, if the woman is into her man's orgasms and enjoys watching, helping and assisting in him getting off, and even wants to help him cum harder than ever before, then she can be the missing puzzle piece he's been searching for.

Maybe treat your shared prostate session with your wife like a make out session that doesn't have to include sex. Heavy petting, kissing, caressing, sensual touching and talking, teasing, things like that, but with the Aneros in your ass. I've warmed up with a toy before she comes in the room and as soon as she touches me its off to the races. I've also inserted the toy with her there and then she is with me instantly. Sometimes she picks the toys I'll use and even when to put them in and take them out to change them to different ones. All that stuff builds eroticism, which to me is essential to becoming prostate-orgasmic. Not a need for all men, but the more I eroticized my ass the closer I got to prostate orgasm. Add my sexy, erotically charged wife to the mix and it gets me going fast! Also, try to imagine your prostate session with your wife like its a chance to kind of "be" a woman and get a kind of sex from your lover (in this case, also a woman) that women might want. For instance, my wife wrote a list of sex acts she wanted for Xmas a few weeks ago and a few of them were simply "I get a bubble bath and lots of caressing" or "I get a vulva massage from you" or even just "I get a massage and go to bed" and THAT was a sex request!! Cuddling and caressing get me very hot and my Aneros goes ballistic from almost nothing at all, so maybe imagine a session where its not anything like "having sex with my wife" and instead its "experiencing a sensuality similar to what my wife/a woman might want."

Just a couple cents here! Hope any of this helps 🙂