Straight to curious poll

I'm straight; and, the use of Aneros has led me in quite the opposite direction. My wife was curious from the start of my use; and, I soon realized she became very turned on by observing my interaction with Aneros. She is now at the point of being very comfortable helping to insert and remove my Aneros. This comfort level has led her to the point of actually stimulating my prostate and anal area digitally during our times of intamate sharing. I can honestly say that with my wife and Aneros present, I have no desire to wander elsewhere!

Interesting question Bradman.

Really enjoyed your reply STARR831. Mind if I ask your age?

My wife and I are 62, a monogamous 40 year straight marriage. I experimented in my youth, began solo prostate massaging in my mid-teens, and a couple of years later entered a sexual experimenting relationship with a male friend. We tried everything. We both married our girl friends soon after. Soon after that he realized that he was and is gay, and they separated and divorced.

In the Male Sexual Orientation Here Poll, as I explained my history, I voted straight-bi; a male who has enjoyed "back door pleasures" virtually from puberty onward and yet, after experimenting to "just figure it out" back in the 1960s, found himself on the straight side of the bisexual fulcrum point.

I am still friends with the gay co-adventurer of my youth, a platonic friendship, but one where we still discuss sexual matters in a very open way. I have encouraged him to try Aneros,BTW.

Having developed the mutual prostate practice with my dear wife, we are even closer and much more energized sexually together than earlier in our marriage!

Just as separating orgasmic response from the penis's ejaculation is the key to success with Aneros, so straight men and women separating the question of sexual orientation from the realm of anal/prostate play, and the full male sexual development around the prostate, is key to enlightened sexuality for humanity going forward.

They are biologically two separate things. I was/am thrilled that the Aneros prostate health tool has been able to open that door and contribute in astounding ways to making that issue much clearer for all.

all the best to all

artform

Well I must admit I thought I was getting a gay film awhile ago.
It was called something like
'Chicks WithDicks'
Very soft porn.
In fact it was more about a guy getting screwed by a nice girl
in Bankok or that part of the world.
In fact it was the same girl who screwed another guy.
A bit later another dude inserts a dildo in his hairy butt whilst having a tugg.
The guys looked feminine,
Butt they had no tits.
Very disappointed..This was a pay per view programme. ;(
Mick...

i'd do it with a sexy shemale, but guys do nothing for me...

In my childhood I was conditioned to homosexual relations due to sexual abuse by two older males. This continued into my teens but I was fantasizing about strait sex durring these encounters. After I developed confidence with women I never looked back and find gay sex repulsive; no offense, that's just how I feel.

Aneros use has not changed my outlook on this. I was drawn to aneros products from the claims of increased sexual performance and the potential for MMO.

Yeah, I like some shemale stuff, but the girl has to be really feminine. I quite enjoy the variety of possibilities it opens up - giving each other blowjobs, switching back and forth between fucking and getting fucked. I know in the latter case you could always be with a girl using a strapon, but it's just not the same thing to me.

Anyway, after I got comfortable with being penetrated myself, and had watched and enjoyed some TS-on-male scenes, I figured I should give regular gay porn a try. But I pretty quickly figured out it's not for me, watching two men does not turn me on. Even bi-sexual threesomes with two men don't do a whole lot for me, watching one suck the other.

So I guess I'm more or less straight, with the TS stuff being one small exception. Ultimately that's probably more of a fantasy than something I would pursue in real life.

I think we might be making too much about the growing popularity of shemale porn in general as some kind of watershed moment in sexuality; ultimately it just shows that the gender identity is a bigger turn-on than someone's mere biological sex. A curvy body with breasts and a beautiful face is often going to trump someone getting turned off by a penis down below (quite the opposite, in fact, it's the somewhat taboo/forbidden/"wrong" sensation one gets that makes it that much hotter).

I only watch girl-girl, girl-shemale, or girl solo porn. I have hard time looking at a guy's face in porn so shopping for porn had always be hard for me. After extensive use of aneros and other stuff, that didn't change at all. I don't believe anything you do to your own body would change sexual orientation.

My Aneros play is both solo and "coupled" within the context of married foreplay and intercourse. I continue as a str8 with a bi-curious bent. That "bi" aspect of my being will never be fulfilled due to my monogamous nature.


My interest in male-on-male sex springs from a desire to constructively socialize with gay men both in the Aneros Forum/Chat environment and on a personal basis. I find that most Gay men have a more comprehensive understanding of male sexuality than most str8's.


Two of my frequent golf-buds are gay (one is a single Dad) and this "socialization," via the Aneros community, has improved my view of their "wholeness" as persons. I have become more able to affiliate with gay man finding that, as brothers, we have more in common than I had ever anticipated.


Oh yes, I do check out Darwin's "Male Pussy" foto site on a regular basis. That probably makes me, "bi-envious" with no fulfillment in my future. I can live with that self-imposed restriction.

@rook that was a beautiful answer. As a gay male to each is own. Were all brothers here and as long as we get our orgasms and MMO's then everything is alright.

I originally found aneros because I was bored and looking for better ways to masturbate. It hasn't changed my sexual preferences one bit, I will only engage with women. What the aneros has done for me is open my mind and heighten the sexual potential of my body. I absolutely love what I have discovered about my body through the aneros and feel fortunate as compared to most other men who are either reluctant to delve into this aspect of themselves or simply ignorant to it's existence. I feel that it puts men on more or less even footing in comparison to females in terms of sexual pleasure, as penile stimulation alone is nice but has it's limits with the refractory period and physiological changes that lead to decreased arousal afterwards. Edging is also nice but again typically only practical solo and once you release the fun is over. It is one of my biggest fantasies to be pegged my a woman one day, to find someone open and interested in such things. The whole she-male thing is an interesting concept however it is my understanding that they all started out as male and that is an automatic turn-off. To me what someone was originally born into is what they will always be no matter what surgeries or hormones are administered, they will never *truly* be the other sex. It's actually disgustingly scary how many transgendered individuals are out there and choose to remain hidden, not informing others of their true nature before engaging with them on ANY level. Don't misunderstand me, I am ok with transgendered people and the freedom to change your body, but I think it is 100% wrong to deceive others. On the other hand a female who has undergone some "enhancement" surgery could be interesting haha.

@tairy - I totally agree with you...check out Sabrina Suzuki,Yasmine Lee, or Yeidi Collins...all quite feminine t-girls. I've used my dildo while watching them in action - prob'ly as close as i'll get to having sex with them. I've had a few gay(platonic) friends/acquaintances in my life and i do not judge them for their sexuality. Not to say i haven't wondered what gay sex might be like, i've never been sexually attracted to any man in my life, so i guess i'm just slightly curious. Suppose if i ever found sexual chemistry with a male, i'd be inclined to give it a shot (or take one, lol)

Me? I'm not gay, but I think this guy sucking my dick might be...wink wink

When they say Aneros is a journey they are correct, where it takes you depends. I have found after using several devices, I was drawn to a Pro-Dom to peg me. Now after some time and a forum:
http://www.bbglforum.com/ I became more interested to exploring other possibilities. Later I found gay porn (which use to offend me) very enticing. My how things have developed 😉

Men having sex with other men or with transexuals never did anything for me.

Aneros changed nothing to that. I still find it absolutely boring.

The only change is I now feel less attracted to porn in general. There is having sex with a girl I love, there is practicing tantra or taoist cultivation on my own (with or without aneros) or with said partner... The rest is a joke.

I've never been attracted by men, at all (I'm not even able to recognize a handsome next to a more common guy.)

BUT, I've always been attracted by gay sex and have been fantasizing about being fucked or sucking cocks. I usually get aroused by gay sex if I don't see the guys' faces or full bodies.

I'm a beginner, so I haven't experienced any real pleasure with the aneros but I'm afraid I would like to try more if it works for me 😉

Here we go again! Why do some use the Aneros as an Agent Provacateur? They had proclivities and desires for men prior to the Aneros. Mayhap blaming the Aneros lessens their guilt, and eases their minds somewhat. We interrupt your regularly scheduled program for breaking news....

JUST BECAUSE A MAN PLAYS IN HIS RECTUM, DOES NOT MEAN HE WANTS TO BE WITH MEN. NO TRULY STRAIGHT MAN WOULD EVER CONSIDER BEING WITH A MAN AND/OR FANTASIZE OF MEN.
SHE MALES ARE A SOMEWHAT SANITIZED VERSION OF MALE HOMOSEXUALITY. THE BOLT-ONS (TITTIES) PERCHANCE MAKE SOME MEN NOT NOTICE THE PENIS AND THE NUTS. SOME MUST LIKE PENISES WITH TITS.

We now return you to your regularly scheduled program...
To each his own or whatever! The Aneros is not going to sway a truly straight man to the other side. She male porn is gay porn, unless the dude with the tits is nailing a woman.

@pspotsquirter as In that other thread I see you are a bit of asshole in this thread as well

Here we go again! Why do some use the Aneros as an Agent Provacateur? They had proclivities and desires for men prior to the Aneros. Mayhap blaming the Aneros lessens their guilt, and eases their minds somewhat. We interrupt your regularly scheduled program for breaking news....

JUST BECAUSE A MAN PLAYS IN HIS RECTUM, DOES NOT MEAN HE WANTS TO BE WITH MEN. NO TRULY STRAIGHT MAN WOULD EVER CONSIDER BEING WITH A MAN AND/OR FANTASIZE OF MEN.

This mindset is defensive and unproductive. Pspot speaks loudly, but he only speaks for himself: I'm sure we're all relieved to learn he is a truly straight man.
The original poster asked a question, so everyone is welcome to answer their own way. Here is my answer, and I bet I'm not alone.

Lost in hours of trance and sometimes orgasm, I have found the aneros has locked some very deep doors within me, doors within my psyche I didn't know I had. I was not seduced by people, any vampires, or anything. I discovered it myself. Here is what I found:

At times - I have a feminine side.

At times - I find penises sexy. My own, and others. (that is a revelation to me - had no idea of this before last year!)

But never - do I find men attractive. I am actively turned off by gay porn, images of guys kissing, etc.

In short, I do think my aneros experiences have sparked some interest in fantasizing about same-sex sex, not watching it. But the interest in penises is surprisingly not that unusual among straight men: the image of a cock is a well-known sex trigger. Men like to see it and are curious about it, *especially* when it's attached to a female-looking thing. What little porn-research we have consistently shows that straight guys like T-girl porn, and gay men want little or nothing to do with it.

After saying all that, I still view myself as straight, since I only could fall in love with the female face and female form. But I'm sure as hell a lot less narrow than I used to be.

@gregor
A penis is a penis; even if bolt ons are involved. It is unnecessary for you to justify your attraction to men. It's odd that you will fantasize about man-man sex, but have an aversion to watching it. Are you saying that breasts on a man cause the penis to have more allure for you?

A cock (as you so eloquently put it) will not trigger a straight man. It will trigger a homosexual man and a bi-sexual man. How does one have a feminine side at times? My mindset is not defensive and unproductive. I'm only stating the obvious. IMO the OP is asking the question for recruitment purposes. More than likely I'm speaking for other men as well. If you want
to be with men, don't blame the Aneros. If you want to be with men, I need no explanation. The only one that would need an explanation would be your wife (provided you are married).

T-Girl porn is gay porn. The word Girl is a further attempt at trying to cloak the homosexuality in T-Girl porn. T-Girl and man = homosexual because two penises are involved. T-Girl and biological woman = heterosexual because of a penis and a vagina. You have contradicted yourself, because if you are turned on by She male, T-Girl, Tits and cock... YOU ARE TURNED ON BY GAY PORN. That's your business.

@pspotsquirter, your thinking here about sexuality is simplistic. Your manner to other members is unnecessarily offensive and provocative.

@euphemistic
I'm not trying to be offensive. It is what is, plain and simple. A duck does not crow, nor does a cow meow. Why do you find the post offensive? It's mild compared to the Bacchanalia that chat has become. But whatever! Sorry you took offense. But it was not addressed to you. Why does no one ever ask if the Aneros causes the homosexual users to try vagina?

honestly, the only thing having Aneros sessions for the past 2~3 years is helped me accept that i'm Bigender and accept that I am mentally half female, but I am still only attracted to women...

Nobody is 100% straight. Sorry, but this is just a fact.

Apparently we have some "macho men" here, trying to claim otherwise.

@Bartolo99
This has nothing to do with being a "Macho Man". Why is it acceptable for the straight members to constantly be harangued for conversion? Why is the Aneros unnecessarily blamed for one's existing proclivities (pre Aneros)? Does one win a dream vacation for converting straight men? Or is it a secret badge of honor for some? Why does this question constantly appear?

Basic biology: a She-male is man because it has a penis. This has nothing to do with being close minded. As I have said before, each his own, and more power to them. This post has nothing to do with judgement and/or castigation. If one cannot be 100% straight, is it possible for one to be 100% homosexual? How do you know that no-one is 100% straight?

IMO many unneededly take offense when a man says he is proud to be straight. Why is that? Is it incorrect for a man to openly embrace his heterosexuality? Is this unacceptable? Why? There is too
much predation about on the chat as well. The question of one's sexuality is always asked. Why?
In the end a truly straight man will never be converted. If the Aneros were a conversion tool, would not the homosexual members be plowing (or contemplating plowing) Sally Jan Rottencrotch.

"IMO many unneededly take offense when a man says he is proud to be straight."

We weren't offended by this, just because you basically tell people that they were actually gay before using aneros in a macho way and your experience is not everyone's experience. You just have to vote yes or no, simple as that, no need to be rude.

@gountar
Are you inferring the Aneros is a sexuality changer? Macho.!? Such a term of Feminism. Believe you me, I'm far from rude. It is not societally acceptable, nor is it acceptable here, for one to proclaim his heterosexuality and
love of women. There is nothing to get offended over. This is merely a discussion.

@Pspotsquirter,

You wrote: "A penis is a penis; even if bolt ons are involved."

Are you saying that if your girlfriend uses an Aneros on you, that means your gay? or a strap on?

@Longshanks
Emphatically no! The bolt-ons are in reference to the breast implants that She-males have. We must also include the ones that have hormone induced breasts as well. My good Longshanks, WHATEVER a woman does to a man is HETEROSEXUAL! Be it Aneros, pegging, etc. If your girlfriend is a loving and an active participant in your anal play, you are indeed a fortunate man.

I don't really believe a piece of plastic can change your sexual proclivity, possibly it could at say 10-14 years old, it wouldn't change it, but I think at that age boys are malleable. They say all women are bisexual but men are pretty much fixed after a certain age
And if Aneros has the potential to change your sexuality why stop at homosexuality?
One day after using the Aneros you might discover the urge to stick your penis somewhere VERY illegal, homosexuality is so old hat these days. Unless you live in Saudi Arabia saying Aneros turns you into a homosexual isn't riskee. How about Aneros changes you into a pedophile and makes you wanna jerkoff babies?

My pet peeve is men who say they are straight who have to put a label on everyone else's sexuality, see gay recruitment everywhere, see straight men as a harassed minority, think their thinking about sexuality is so important and obviously the correct one, and have to share their opinion frequently. Always makes me wonder if they have some hidden questions about their sexuality or some sexual abuse in their past. I'm talking in general here, not about anyone in particular.

The original poll qiestion was about men's experience with aneros opening up other possibilities with their sexuality, not about recruitment, not about pigeon holing anyone. That's just hijacking the topic IMO. I let each man define their own identity, much cleaner that way.