Pegging

big jimbo,

You might start here: http://tribes.tribe.net/m/peggingisforeveryone

Outside of that, I know that there are yahoo users groups, and of course you can google to find other forums & sites.

BF Mayfield

uh oh! a whole new delicious world to explore.

whether my wife will actually want to participate is another question. but, just reading about this is great.... the link b mayfield provided leads to lots of other groups, etc.

for example, here is a quote from the Girls Pegging Boys thread that has me creaming:

well, finally got his ass to accept the feeldoe, and it was awesome. It hits me in the right spot from the start and i was cuming soon after i started fucking his ass. It gave me more control and bette feeling than a regular strapon. We both felt closer and it really was great. ladies, go and get the feeldoe, it is a little pricey but so worth it, especially when u hit the vibe, that was responsible for the 2nd O i had while fucking my man's ass.

darwin

Big jimbo,
Commercial videos such as the strapattack series of videos do not depict people in what I call a "loving " relationship. And viewing them could bring a tear to you eye when you see the punishment these girls meter out to their victims. I am yet to see any commercial movies I could recommend. Babes balling guys is pretty lame except for maybe one or two scenes. The Bend over boyfriend videos of which I've only seen the first one was OK, It's an instructional video. Most videos are of the femdom vain and are not my cup of tea. But hey, whatever turns you on.
Homemade videos from kinkyhotcouple on yuvutu.com are worth a look. I hope I'm not stepping out of line inserting link here:
http://www.yuvutu.com/modules.php?name=Video&op=view&video_id=101590
Moderators please let me know if this not OK.

It took considerable effort and time to convince my wife that pegging could be fun, we've had 4 sessions and one in particular will stay with me forever as a fond memory of my wife really going off in a big way 😀 , lots of fun! I wish I could have filmed it as it would have shown up any of those amateur clips I've seen on various sites. Believe it or not, you tend to have a special bond develop between you after enjoying such things, maybe it's just knowing you share something that not that many couples are into, I don't know,maybe everyones doing it and keeping quiet 😳

I can't imagine doing it on a waterbed.

but to pegging i say yes. definitely check out the link above - lots of good info there.

uh oh! a whole new delicious world to explore.

whether my wife will actually want to participate is another question.

Even if the wife doesn't want to participate, it makes fantastic fodder for fantasies...

Just had a look on this site.
http://www.feeldoe.com/
Interesting reading.
Thinking. Thinking.
How to get the wife interested ?
Cant see it happening somehow.
Ah well fantasy fodder.

Voyager,

The Feeldoe is great for double penetration too. That bulb end feels wonderful on the prostate, you insert it and you'll be ready to double her fun! lol Be aware that the bulb end is 1.5" at the widest part though.

It can be used in 4 ways: for her to masturbate, for you to masturbate, for her to peg you and for you to double penetrate her!

Happy trails,

BF Mayfield

if you want something in the feeldoe style, i'd suggest the share.

the feeldoe is very hard, and can be rough on sensitive bits.

The share is designed a bit better and stays in place more comfortably.

http://www.holisticwisdom.com/fun-factory-share.htm

NunyaGA,

No question this device appears to have some distinct improvements on the female to female strapless strap-on design concept. It looks like it would be more stable. The larger sized short end would afford a tighter vaginal fit and that raised portion in the middle should provide better stability. A better mouse trap? Maybe. And I do like the matte finish. No ribs at the base? 🙁

But with respect to a device for pegging it's a bit on the large size (by Aneros standards). The short end is 1.75 inches in diameter and the pony end is 1 7/8 inches ! This makes it a bit of a stretch for most guys out there. Although I'm sure there will be those into larger insertions that can accommodate this, I think it will have a limited appeal. By contrast the Feeldoe comes standard in 1.5" in diameter and a 1.25" size is also available (making it more consistent with a Progasm). Fun Factory is a German company that produces high quality products, I stopped by their booth at the Venus show a couple years ago and was impressed with what I saw. Perhaps they'll consider something that is scaled for the pegging newbie at some point in the future.

BF Mayfield

hah. funny. i decided against the share because the business end is too small. I was excited about it from a comfort and sensory perspective when i first learned about it, but then when i saw the actual toy, i was hmmm.. underwhelmed. They do have an XL, but that thing looks like an auger. I guess it depends on what you are looking for in a strap-on. I'm looking for respectably bigger than most, without going into insane and unnatural territory. Which is why i settled on the vac-u-lock line.

NunyaGA,

The specs on your link say that the Share is 9 inches insertable length and is nearly 2 inches in width. Does your partner have a great deal of experience in anal play? Those dimensions would make for a pretty formidable anal toy by our standards here.

Vac-u-lock is the classic in stap-on gear...lots to choose from there.

BF Mayfield

it's not 9 inches insertable length. it's prolly more like 9 from tip to tail. 5.5 insertable at most.

Looking at the specs, i think they have there numbers reversed too. The female end is thicker than the business end. I'm pretty surethe business end is under 2" in diameter - I'm thinking more like 1.5 at the tip flaring to 1.75 at the base.

It's really not that big, especially compared to most of the standard dildoes out there.

I would love to try this but my wife is not EVEN interested!!!!! She thinks that it is strange and NOT normal for a man to want his prostate massaged in this fashion. She is okay with the aneros but has absolutely no interest in pegging me, even though I would love for her to try it.

I guess I am like most of the men here, WISH!! 😆

I would love to try this but my wife is not EVEN interested!!!!! She thinks that it is strange and NOT normal for a man to want his prostate massaged in this fashion. She is okay with the aneros but has absolutely no interest in pegging me, even though I would love for her to try it.

I guess I am like most of the men here, WISH!! 😆

One way to approach the Mrs. about this. Let her know that this is something you want to experience together....to bring you closer. A prostate massage had been known more to women as more of a Medical procedure, rather than something that is intimate for a man...and a woman to experience. She may guarded on this because she is lacking information on it. Let her know that you'd rather experience this through her...not some cold doctors office. Let her feel as though it is doing this with HER and her alone that is your interest. Have her assist you with the Aneros...introduce her to the process and let her see the pleasure it gives you. It might inspire her to maybe take another baby step forward to somthing more exciting for the both of you. Remember though...don't push her. Gently guide her into your interests. She may feel the desire in time. If its not too personal...does she enjoy anal play herself?

Enjoy!

One way to approach the Mrs. about this. Let her know that this is something you want to experience together....to bring you closer. A prostate massage had been known more to women as more of a Medical procedure, rather than something that is intimate for a man...and a woman to experience. She may guarded on this because she is lacking information on it. Let her know that you'd rather experience this through her...not some cold doctors office. Let her feel as though it is doing this with HER and her alone that is your interest. Have her assist you with the Aneros...introduce her to the process and let her see the pleasure it gives you. It might inspire her to maybe take another baby step forward to somthing more exciting for the both of you. Remember though...don't push her. Gently guide her into your interests. She may feel the desire in time. If its not too personal...does she enjoy anal play herself?

I have expressed a desire for this to her and she thinks this is not natural and that I should not desire this. She thinks it is related to homosexuality. It is hard to get her past this!!!I have expressed to her the things that I would like to try (ex: sex toys) and she is not even interested in that. We did try buying a strap-on one time and it did nothing for her at all. We really didn't know what we were doing at the time and she is not turned on by such, actually for her it is a turn OFF! As far as the aneros she would rather that I do solo sessions. I tried to get her to give me a massage while I had it inserted and we got into an argument about it because she really didn't want to assist me. I have REALLY told her about my sessions and the intense pleasure that it gives me but she is not interested. She just says "oh really, that's nice". She never gives any hint about joining me. I have asked many times and now I just don't say anything. I have been trying to get into the excitement mode for quite some time now and it is "the same ole routine", nothing different. I am an adventurous type person and she is not. I like to change things up and get kinda wild with our sex life because I get bored easy but that doesn't seem to matter to her any.

I have been gently guiding and expressing me desires for over a year and she is hard to talk to about sex. She doesn't even like to talk about sex at all, most of the time. It is like pulling teeth. She is very conservative and I don't mind that to a point but I would like some variety.

No, she absloutely doesn't like anal play at ALL!!!!! I have tried many times and she turns off like a light switch every time I try or even talk about it.

I would say that you are a unique woman and JIM should be very thankful to have a woman like you who is interested in pleasing him.

Amen!!!!!!!

Lynn, I have very much enjoyed reading your posts and hope you continue to keep us posted, even after your SO returns. However, I doubt he will leave you alone long enough for you to get to the computer.

Enjoy your advertures and keep us updated with details.

One way to approach the Mrs. about this. Let her know that this is something you want to experience together....to bring you closer. A prostate massage had been known more to women as more of a Medical procedure, rather than something that is intimate for a man...and a woman to experience. She may guarded on this because she is lacking information on it. Let her know that you'd rather experience this through her...not some cold doctors office. Let her feel as though it is doing this with HER and her alone that is your interest. Have her assist you with the Aneros...introduce her to the process and let her see the pleasure it gives you. It might inspire her to maybe take another baby step forward to somthing more exciting for the both of you. Remember though...don't push her. Gently guide her into your interests. She may feel the desire in time. If its not too personal...does she enjoy anal play herself?

I have expressed a desire for this to her and she thinks this is not natural and that I should not desire this. She thinks it is related to homosexuality. It is hard to get her past this!!!I have expressed to her the things that I would like to try (ex: sex toys) and she is not even interested in that. We did try buying a strap-on one time and it did nothing for her at all. We really didn't know what we were doing at the time and she is not turned on by such, actually for her it is a turn OFF! As far as the aneros she would rather that I do solo sessions. I tried to get her to give me a massage while I had it inserted and we got into an argument about it because she really didn't want to assist me. I have REALLY told her about my sessions and the intense pleasure that it gives me but she is not interested. She just says "oh really, that's nice". She never gives any hint about joining me. I have asked many times and now I just don't say anything. I have been trying to get into the excitement mode for quite some time now and it is "the same ole routine", nothing different. I am an adventurous type person and she is not. I like to change things up and get kinda wild with our sex life because I get bored easy but that doesn't seem to matter to her any.

I have been gently guiding and expressing me desires for over a year and she is hard to talk to about sex. She doesn't even like to talk about sex at all, most of the time. It is like pulling teeth. She is very conservative and I don't mind that to a point but I would like some variety.

No, she absloutely doesn't like anal play at ALL!!!!! I have tried many times and she turns off like a light switch every time I try or even talk about it.

I would say that you are a unique woman and JIM should be very thankful to have a woman like you who is interested in pleasing him.

If you don't mind me asking...how old are the two of you? As you can see, I'm very playful and I love to be creative and bring a lot of excitement to the bedroom. I think knowing your age ranges would help me if I were to give any advice on how to approach her about this. The Major and I are both 32. When I was younger, I wasn't interested in anal play. I just thought it would hurt too much. Honestly, when it comes to her thinking of anal play as more homosexual activity...I'm not sure how to break her of that stereotype. I've always viewed it as...it's me, a woman, giving the pleasure...how is that homosexual? It's admirable that you haven't strayed, but I'm sure it's very hard to stay interested when you feel a little left in the cold. I hope we can keep chatting and that I might be able to help in some way.

Amen!!!!!!!

Lynn, I have very much enjoyed reading your posts and hope you continue to keep us posted, even after your SO returns. However, I doubt he will leave you alone long enough for you to get to the computer.

Enjoy your advertures and keep us updated with details.

Thank you very much, that makes me feel more accepted around here (in the mens locker room, lol). I'm sure I'll break his grip from time to time to keep you all posted. He won't even be home till October. 😉

Welcome to the Guy's locker room Lynn.
We discuss all sorts of things here.
Try to put the world to right's etc.
It is interesting to have a woman's viewpoint.
It looked as if this thread had died but it has come back to life.
We will see what happens.
Keep writing.

One way to approach the Mrs. about this. Let her know that this is something you want to experience together....to bring you closer. A prostate massage had been known more to women as more of a Medical procedure, rather than something that is intimate for a man...and a woman to experience. She may guarded on this because she is lacking information on it. Let her know that you'd rather experience this through her...not some cold doctors office. Let her feel as though it is doing this with HER and her alone that is your interest. Have her assist you with the Aneros...introduce her to the process and let her see the pleasure it gives you. It might inspire her to maybe take another baby step forward to somthing more exciting for the both of you. Remember though...don't push her. Gently guide her into your interests. She may feel the desire in time. If its not too personal...does she enjoy anal play herself?

I have expressed a desire for this to her and she thinks this is not natural and that I should not desire this. She thinks it is related to homosexuality. It is hard to get her past this!!!I have expressed to her the things that I would like to try (ex: sex toys) and she is not even interested in that. We did try buying a strap-on one time and it did nothing for her at all. We really didn't know what we were doing at the time and she is not turned on by such, actually for her it is a turn OFF! As far as the aneros she would rather that I do solo sessions. I tried to get her to give me a massage while I had it inserted and we got into an argument about it because she really didn't want to assist me. I have REALLY told her about my sessions and the intense pleasure that it gives me but she is not interested. She just says "oh really, that's nice". She never gives any hint about joining me. I have asked many times and now I just don't say anything. I have been trying to get into the excitement mode for quite some time now and it is "the same ole routine", nothing different. I am an adventurous type person and she is not. I like to change things up and get kinda wild with our sex life because I get bored easy but that doesn't seem to matter to her any.

I have been gently guiding and expressing me desires for over a year and she is hard to talk to about sex. She doesn't even like to talk about sex at all, most of the time. It is like pulling teeth. She is very conservative and I don't mind that to a point but I would like some variety.

No, she absloutely doesn't like anal play at ALL!!!!! I have tried many times and she turns off like a light switch every time I try or even talk about it.

I would say that you are a unique woman and JIM should be very thankful to have a woman like you who is interested in pleasing him.

sounds to me like she is threatened by your interests in anal. The tie to homosexuality is a tough mindset to break, but I think homosexuality itself is threatening to her. I went thru an initial feeling like that. Not to the point where i wasn't willing to give it a go, since I've had my own fantasies, but it took a lot of willingness to talk things through with both of us, and his ability to answer all my questions as truthfully as possible. That process brought us closer together, but if your wife isn't open there's not much you can do, short of leaving her.

If you don't mind me asking...how old are the two of you? As you can see, I'm very playful and I love to be creative and bring a lot of excitement to the bedroom. I think knowing your age ranges would help me if I were to give any advice on how to approach her about this. The Major and I are both 32. When I was younger, I wasn't interested in anal play. I just thought it would hurt too much. Honestly, when it comes to her thinking of anal play as more homosexual activity...I'm not sure how to break her of that stereotype. I've always viewed it as...it's me, a woman, giving the pleasure...how is that homosexual? It's admirable that you haven't strayed, but I'm sure it's very hard to stay interested when you feel a little left in the cold. I hope we can keep chatting and that I might be able to help in some way.

Thanks lynn2694 for writing and your responses!!! 😀 My wife is 43 fixing to turn 44 this month. I am 45 fixing to turn 46. To be honest with you, my wife is boring in the bedroom most of the time. Many years ago when we first got married (15 years ago) she was open to playful things (sex toys), then all of sudden she decided she didn't like it anymore. I asked why and she always just tells me "I just don't like it and I can't give no other reason". I just think that she is of the opinion that it is not natural for a man to want such activity. She views anything related to this as wrong according to the Bible. We are both Christian people but I can't get her past the concept that just because I like anal play does not mean that I am homosexual. Her mind is closed to this idea. Many years ago we bought a strap-on for her to use on me and it got used one time and one time only. She didn't like it and at the time we didn't really know what we were doing (cleaning out the rectum before this type activity) and so the results were unfavorable if you know what I mean. But now that I have learned more about this I would like to revisit this issue. I find it hard enough just to talk about sex with her much less a topic like this. It seems that she gets on defense when I want to talk about anything related to sex. She has told me that she feels like she is "not good enough" when I want these things. I don't get it really. I just wanted to expand our horizons and create passion and desire, anticipation for each other. I am a person that likes excitement and need excitement. That is why I am a firefighter. I like excitement and variety. Hope that helps. Lynn, you can PM me if you like and want to carry on this discussion.

Don't PM, keep it public, it makes interesting reading.

It seems that she gets on defense when I want to talk about anything related to sex. She has told me that she feels like she is "not good enough" when I want these things. I don't get it really. I just wanted to expand our horizons and create passion and desire, anticipation for each other. I am a person that likes excitement and need excitement. That is why I am a firefighter. I like excitement and variety. Hope that helps. Lynn, you can PM me if you like and want to carry on this discussion.

she's threatened and she feels insecure - like how come you can't be satisfied with her vagina. and maybe you are more interested in cock. if she's shut down, i'm not sure how you are going to get her to open up again, but y'all do have to talk this stuff through.

To be honest with you, my wife is boring in the bedroom most of the time.

My wife and I had mechanical sex during our forties. I decided at 50, "enough of this shit!" and starting chasing her like a young buck -- not just in the bedroom, but dates, flowers, gifts, love notes -- anything to make her feel like a queen. She responded greater than I expected.

We're ELCA Lutheran, which can still be pretty prudish when it comes to bedroom activities. But God created us. So why would he give us such great capacity for physical and emotional enjoyment and then expect us not to use it? If you're in a committed, loving relationship, then you can enjoy each other the way God intended -- full out!!

You're both at the perfect age to begin realizing your physical relationship isn't going to last forever. I explained to my wife that when we are too old to enjoy each other, I don't want to regret missing out on exploring all the potential our bodies have for experiencing pleasure. If I have to feel remorse, I'd rather it be for something I did, not something I didn't get to do.

Good communication, ffd71, (and a little luck) should help you through. Since this is digressing from the original pegging issue (and, yes, I just about cream my jeans, too, every time I dream about my wife penetrating me), send me a PM if I can be of further help.

slipperybugger

To be honest with you, my wife is boring in the bedroom most of the time.

My wife and I had mechanical sex during our forties. I decided at 50, "enough of this shit!" and starting chasing her like a young buck -- not just in the bedroom, but dates, flowers, gifts, love notes -- anything to make her feel like a queen. She responded greater than I expected.

We're ELCA Lutheran, which can still be pretty prudish when it comes to bedroom activities. But God created us. So why would he give us such great capacity for physical and emotional enjoyment and then expect us not to use it? If you're in a committed, loving relationship, then you can enjoy each other the way God intended -- full out!!

You're both at the perfect age to begin realizing your physical relationship isn't going to last forever. I explained to my wife that when we are too old to enjoy each other, I don't want to regret missing out on exploring all the potential our bodies have for experiencing pleasure. If I have to feel remorse, I'd rather it be for something I did, not something I didn't get to do.

Good communication, ffd71, (and a little luck) should help you through. Since this is digressing from the original pegging issue (and, yes, I just about cream my jeans, too, every time I dream about my wife penetrating me), send me a PM if I can be of further help.

slipperybugger

Great post!!! That is great advice. We do tend to respond to romance from time to time. 😉

She has told me that she feels like she is "not good enough" when I want these things.

Tell her that not being able to talk about sex is "not good enough" for you!

If you cannot communicate honestly with each other it's time to consider some professional counseling for either her and/or both of you together. The issues she has are too complicated to be solved by anyone other than a Professional Counselor or Psychologist.

While we can give you a place to 'vent' I don't know that any of us is really qualified to help her in this situation.

From another woman's perspective, we tend to reason WHY you want something new. It stems from a measure of low self esteem. Guessing from your wife's age, she may be facing the realization that she isn't a spring chick anymore. And perhaps you don't find her desirable like you once did. Not that any of this is true, but our society is bombarded by teen's and 20 yr old models with huge hooties and flawless figures. The more you pressure her about it the more likely she is to turn a deaf ear. For me, education about the benefits of prostate massage was a key factor in why I want this for my husband.

I am on the opposite end of the spectrum. I have to convince the hubby I am not queer for his rear, but rather want to experience another plateau of lovemaking. I have ordered the Aneros as a gift without telling him, so I pray it goes well when I introduce it to him. 😉

I hope that you eventually win her over. Patience and love go a long way to making someone want to try new things.

I got a Feeldoe for my wife a while back and she loves it.
The night I gave it to her she asked if I wanted her to use it on me.
Things were not clear at that time if you know what I mean. But maybe that will happen who knows?
I will say this though... it is a helluva turn on to see a woman with the bulb end inside her and see her eyes as she strokes "her cock". That was worth the price. She loves it.
it's not cheap as far as dildos go but it seems to be very well made/

Very cool Carolinaguy!
Thanks for posting your experience of the feeldoe with your wife.

Love_is