Are there lucky guys having sexual intercourse with their partners?

Hey folks, thanks for your vivid participation. Good luck everybody!

Posted by: @sowithoutaneros

The topic "Has the aneros replaced sex with wife???" and reading about other guy's "almost nonexistent sex life" made me curious about how many fellow sufferers might share my fate of a nonsexual relationship without any sexual intercourse for years. Thanks for your answers in advance. Good vibes!

Now ain't that just a pitiful thing? And by all appearances is becoming truer and truer for me as well.  @sonoaneros is brave to share that terrible fate .. 3 years ago now .. And I do kinda wonder how you've fared since then. Have you revived your relationship? Are you fucking your wife? Divorced? Found a lover? Found a new life? Or do you continue in a sexless marriage and depend on your hand and Aneros for companionship, and exercise your prostate for pleasure?

Myself, it's been awhile. I'd say that masturbation went from supplementing sex to replacing sex a few years ago, and only recently did I add aneros to my skillset. I did get łaid a year ago, and a blowjob a year before that, though I'm still not certain what inspired her towards either event. Divorce is a frequent discussion point, but making that step remains hard. There's a girlfriend from my youth I'd reup with in a heartbeat if only we both were free, but that's unlikely. And meanwhile, I masturbate a lot--as much at 60 as I ever did as a youth--and now I'm learning what lovely shakes and rattles and rolls I get from the aneros up my arse.

And no, she doesn't know quite how much I jerk off and doesn't know about the aneros. She'd be appalled.

At least life is interesting.  

I've been totally open about Aneros use with my partner. She has her toys too. We also enjoy exploring each other.

Posted by: @canonprf (My answers.)

Now ain't that just a pitiful thing? Yes.

Have you revived your relationship? Yes.

Are you fucking your wife? Divorced? Found a lover? Found a new life? No.

Or do you continue in a sexless marriage and depend on your hand and Aneros for companionship, and exercise your prostate for pleasure? Yes.

Marriage is a frequent discussion point, but making that step remains hard. After all it‘s the only way to save our heritage for the surviving dependant and from the relatives and the taxman.

Meanwhile, I masturbate more at nearly 60 than I did in my late 40s, when my sexual desire seemed to die out. After having learned what wonderful shakes and rattles and rolls I get from the Aneros and Aless, the urge for sexual intercourse has stepped back behind the lustful experiences of hours long bliss I can have on my own. Be sure, at the same time wild fantasies about feral fucking still are all present and even fuel my sessions. Also really doing it is still on my wish list. But even my little escapades with men aren‘t at top of this list anymore.

And no, she also doesn't know quite how much I jerk off and doesn't know about the aneros.

She'd be appalled. I‘d believe too but still don‘t really know, perhaps she is only glad that I‘m not „sidestepping“?

At least life is interesting. Not only that, we love each other, we love to live together and to comfort each other and to fight the struggles of life togther as we did for more than three decades. And although missing sex with my wife a lot, Aneros and Aless put the cherry on the cake.

Hi guys, thank you both for reviving my poll, although all votes have gone lost with migration of this forum. Let‘s hope, they can repair it in the next future.

Thank you for all your questions, @canonprf, it helped me a lot to reconsider my journey and the results. I wish you all the luck to heal your relationship. Perhaps @twiltin‘s openness shall give us an example. 

@twiltin, some guys really find all the luck, you lucky guy, be thankful for that wonderful gift!

Good vibes to you! The best is yet to come*. Life is wonderful!

(*When you already believe it can‘t become better anymore, a guy here tells about nipple brushing using the line between your palm and your wrist. And boom! A new earth-shaking experience happens.)

Mart

I decided early on that hiding things was going to be storing up trouble for the future, so brought things into the open at the start of the relationship.

Marriage is a frequent discussion point, but making that step remains hard. After all it‘s the only way to save our heritage for the surviving dependant and from the relatives and the taxman.

Meanwhile, I masturbate more at nearly 60 than I did in my late 40s, when my sexual desire seemed to die out. After having learned what wonderful shakes and rattles and rolls I get from the Aneros and Aless, the urge for sexual intercourse has stepped back behind the lustful experiences of hours long bliss I can have on my own. Be sure, at the same time wild fantasies about feral fucking still are all present and even fuel my sessions. Also really doing it is still on my wish list. But even my little escapades with men aren‘t at top of this list anymore.

And no, she also doesn't know quite how much I jerk off and doesn't know about the aneros.

She'd be appalled. I‘d believe too but still don‘t really know, perhaps she is only glad that I‘m not „sidestepping“?

At least life is interesting. Not only that, we love each other, we love to live together and to comfort each other and to fight the struggles of life togther as we did for more than three decades. And although missing sex with my wife a lot, Aneros and Aless put the cherry on the cake.

@sowithoutaneros you described my situation to a 't' and I wouldn't change a thing ;  Married for 43 years, started with regular marital sex, then a slowdown over time and finally sex at the rate of about once every two months.   Again, I'm fully happy with my situation as the voids have been replaced with endless prostate pleasuring events but all in total oblivion to my better half.  Also, throughout this long relationship, I've not shied away from ample masturbating sessions not counting edging, another newly discovered pleasure gold mine.

Life is so wonderful!

Posted by: @twlltin

I decided early on that hiding things was going to be storing up trouble for the future, so brought things into the open at the start of the relationship.

Ain’t that so. If I’d been wiser 30 years ago, I’d’ve decided on that. Or been wiser to marry a woman I could hold to that with. I believe I know the difference now.

@sonoaneros writes: “At least life is interesting. Not only that, we love each other, we love to live together and to comfort each other and to fight the struggles of life togther as we did for more than three decades.”  

And that makes all the difference. Best luck to you and her both. 

Posted by: @canonprf

Posted by: @twlltin

I decided early on that hiding things was going to be storing up trouble for the future, so brought things into the open at the start of the relationship.

Ain’t that so. If I’d been wiser 30 years ago, I’d’ve decided on that. Or been wiser to marry a woman I could hold to that with. I believe I know the difference now.

@sonoaneros writes: “At least life is interesting. Not only that, we love each other, we love to live together and to comfort each other and to fight the struggles of life togther as we did for more than three decades.”  

And that makes all the difference. Best luck to you and her both. 

 

The lesson is clear:

If you've already gained enough self-knowledge and can and dare to bring things into the open, you will get the best start of any relationship.

If not, nevertheless embrace your sexuality without any guilt.

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
[C. G. Jung]

Cheers, Mart

Yes. We stil have sex reguraly.

Absolutely we have sex all the time as much as time allows is. 

@canonprf be up front with her show her your toys and how happy you are using it. I bet she will start wanting to join you.  My wife and I are up front with everything. Wife and tried out the vice2 for the first time the other day. She watched me slid in in my ass and all she wanted to do is feel my cock vibrating inside her pussy.   You have nothing to loose. Tell her up front good luck.