Will this work?

My wife of two dozen years loves to "send me" and participate in the sessions. I thas expanded our horizons and bought a new dimension to our relationship. Just be patient and don't force it or you're in for a disappointment!

Actually she has a big problem with it. She thinks that she doesn't compare and why would I want such a thing. Pretty much what she keeps saying is why isn't she good enough. But that totally isn't it. Any suggestions on what I should say to her.

Btw she said she was ok with but now she has changed her mind.

You know my wife was a little weird about it at first. Overtime we've both come to enjoy it... let me explain. First, the aneros is primarily for you and it will take practice (AKA alone time to get it figured out). You will have to get her on board if you want to do this, because you will need the alone time to learn how to really use it for the super "O". This will probably mean a couple of hours a week. The big thing my wife notices is that after I've had a session and we get together for some of our own play, it's a whole new ball game. First, I no longer feel the need to rush, actually the longer I take the better for both of us. We used to do the 15 minutes to half hour thing but now we usually go over an hour. Giving her a back rub or message is awesome because it just cranks you up that much more.With the aneros I have great control and the final orgasm is HUGE and VERY INTENSE and that can make her feel great as well. I guess what I'm saying is with the aneros you control the orgasm not the reverse. The pitch is... "This will make me a better lover for you." I hope this helps.
Cheers
Ward

Originally Posted By: Ward
You know my wife was a little weird about it at first. Overtime we've both come to enjoy it... let me explain. First, the aneros is primarily for you and it will take practice (AKA alone time to get it figured out). You will have to get her on board if you want to do this, because you will need the alone time to learn how to really use it for the super "O". This will probably mean a couple of hours a week. The big thing my wife notices is that after I've had a session and we get together for some of our own play, it's a whole new ball game. First, I no longer feel the need to rush, actually the longer I take the better for both of us. We used to do the 15 minutes to half hour thing but now we usually go over an hour. Giving her a back rub or message is awesome because it just cranks you up that much more.With the aneros I have great control and the final orgasm is HUGE and VERY INTENSE and that can make her feel great as well. I guess what I'm saying is with the aneros you control the orgasm not the reverse. The pitch is... "This will make me a better lover for you." I hope this helps.
Cheers
Ward

Thank you, I will definately try that one. I am still almost impatiently waiting the arrival.

Take your time. For most the super O can be elusive for some time. I've been at it for about 8 months and am finally getting close. Don't get me wrong, it always feels good and for the most part each time it gets better and better. It just takes time and practice but it is worth the effort. Also I would read just about everything B Mayfield logs on this site... this guy knows his stuff. I like to say he is a 5th degree black belt in aneros-fu.
Later

Originally Posted By: Ward
Take your time. For most the super O can be elusive for some time. I've been at it for about 8 months and am finally getting close. Don't get me wrong, it always feels good and for the most part each time it gets better and better. It just takes time and practice but it is worth the effort. Also I would read just about everything B Mayfield logs on this site... this guy knows his stuff. I like to say he is a 5th degree black belt in aneros-fu.
Later

Yea... I have been reading this website religiously. Plus it's kind of a turn on to just have the thought that my body could get to that point.

PS- I like the comment on B Mayfield and his aneros-fu quality... haha...

OK so it has arrived this afternoon.... Just a little disapointed... I have read through these instruction SOOOO many times and I believe I have tried everything. I started at about 5:15 and used it until 8:40. I even fell asleep for a little while with it in me. I took it out once because it wasn't feeling too comfortable. I added lube and inserted it again. It felt better than it had the first time. After a while I got tired of just sitting there so I decided to put on just some soft porn. Well I watched quite a bit and then decided to take care of business myself. So I did and it didn't take me long but when I came I believe it shot like four feet. If anyone has any suggestions help me out please.

Hi Shaun,

I believe that was a perfect first session. As a matter of fact, it sounds pretty familiar from when I started. There is quite a bit of rewiring that needs to happen and sometimes it can happen slowly. Once it starts to happen, believe me, you will know. Your body will start to almost crave the attention. Until then, I think that you are on the right track. It sounds as though you ended your session with quite the bang. Unless you always shoot 4 feet, I think that something was happening! The only help that I can provide at this early stage of things is a little encouragement. Keep going, my man, you will not regret it!

Good luck,

Buster

Good stuff. You will find out so much about yourself & your untapped potential through aneros practice. Just honour every good feeling (no matter how subtle!) whether it's physical or emotional and enjoy the rush of freedom that breaking silly old taboos can bring.

We're using the word rewiring a lot on this forum at present and of course this is a good concept when we're talking about the hard wiring of neurons in the brain as in any learning experience but I don't think for a moment that the nerves of your prostate are rewired, they are of fixed design and so I propose we should also consider the word awakening!

Cheers, Phil

Welcome to the begining of the "journey". Like I said earlier... it takes a bit of practice. Don't get frustrated. I would venture to guess that most of us are not fortunate enough to hit the super "O" right away.
Ward