Wife found my SGX - she thinks it is awesome! Anybody have strap-on suggestions?

Explorer1,

Lots of experience here [blushing]. "Mrs. ChopTank" has been using a strapon on/in me for about 8 years now. What bliss it creates. She too knows of my bisexual (we just refer to it as 'sexuality') experiences and interests. I am going to present this from my own pervasive (or perversion) perspective.

Strapon is a 'normal' part of our sexuality, though it does not 'fit' the 'normal' porn definition of 'pegging'. Getting her 'geared up' is part of our foreplay. We/she does not do it as a form of dominance and submissiveness, though when she does a thorough fucking of my ass I Do tend to be submissive in thought(s)! I tend to get to orgasm when she bends over enough to run her breasts/nipples on my back or chest - though our best 'fit' is for me to be 'doggie'. Missionary requires my legs up and that pretty much blocks my chest from hers. We can overCUM that to some extent if I edge my ass over to the edge of the bed, but that is not necessarily the most comfortable for her - though it Does permit the deepest penetration. All these trade-off.

As for the actual apparatus - there are a variety of factors. Bare with me here as I do my best to recall them without making this a dissertation. Not in a specific order, but as they come to mind.

We probably have at least a half dozen (not all shown in the attachment) 'sets'. Elastic and leather - staps and harnesses.

You need to take into consideration your wife's body. That is to say that she has to wear this device, so think about her 'folds', if she has then. Think of how she is going to be 'doing' you. Missionary will entail her bending and moving as a 'man' - so think about where the straps are going to be on her. Buckles can be painful for both of you - they poke and can pinch. Doggie position, for my wife, is the most comfortable, BUTT, I Love to look her directly in the eyes and passionately kiss - so there is a trade off of sorts.

Maybe the single most important aspect will be keeping it in place. What you really don't want is for her to have to use one hand to keep it close to her body during her thrusts. Her 'cock' needs to become a part of her body else it will not move as her hips move without being held in place. If you are like me, you will want her to have use of both hands for stroking and nipple play and whatever . . . .

Whatever you end up with, I suggest you get a 'plug' or 'ring' type attachment. We like the ring type best as it allows almost any dildo with a suction cup or balls to attach. A note on the 'balls' - they can get in the way of how tightly the straps fit to her. Remember that she is going to be emulating your thrust and grind motions, though 'unfortunately', women do not have the same muscles or training that we have, so having her fuck you will rarely have the same 'fluid' motion as a man would provide (I do not have, yet, the man experience on the receiving end so I am projecting this assumption).

I expect you are seeking to make this as mutually enjoyable as possible, so again, think about how the dildo is going to connect - and we tend to use a different dildo each time - and I prefer her to use one that we have just used on her - so her juices are already in place! To enhance her pleasure we purchased a Feeldoe. The knob end fits into her vagina and is in a perfect position to expand her internal clitoris a the the external 'joint' rubs her external clitoris. When we got ours we did not know, or they had not introduced, about the vibrating version. Also, our first Feeldoe was of the short variety, but we discarded We also bought one of the 'realistic' versions with the veins and ridges and such, but unlike an actual penis, these veins and ridges do not move and are fairly rigid and therefore not all that comfortable - actually can be downright painful, so we do not use that version either. So we have settled on the largest (longest and thickest) smooth version available.

We probably would have gotten the vibrating version as she enjoys the sensations that cum from me when we use the Rocks Off Big-Boy during intercourse. (As an aside, I get a few "extra" benefits from when we use the Big-Boy as my ejaculate is much greater and I tend to truly Love a creampie dessert. Creampie tends to cause me to re-erect, if I have lost the first one, fairly quickly and at this point the Big-Boy has been expelled upon my orgasm - butt I still have the sensation of being filled) during Round II. Our next 'replacement' will be one with the vibe.

In the beginning we were concerned about size. Girth and length. I too an a 'small' stature man at 5'9" and 145 pounds. I would not be concerned about small and thin. Actually, I now Prefer thick and long. Small and thin makes me much too sore. Thick and long, for some reason, is much more pleasurable.
She likes to pull all the way out and then push back in (which is something I also like doing to her) as she frequently will chuckle or gasp at the gape she has created and I get a thrill out her reaction(s)! It also is a perfect time for more lube, if necessary!

What is (most) important to me is that the head be bigger than the shaft. Tampering from thin to thick causes me an unpleasant burning sensation that shortens our adventure and keeps me sore for days - whereas the thick and long, for whatever reason - does not. It is more of a 'struggle' to do the initial insertion, butt again, IMHO, it is well worth it. The bigger the head the better the chance is that she is going to stroke and massage my prostate.

While I am medically or anatomically technical to exactly explain it, I have three internal erogenous zones. The first is the sphincter. The second, not counting my prostate, is the second sphincter that is just beyond the prostate, The third, is a several inches, in me, past the second sphincter. It is initially, sort of painful - but a good painful. I believe this might be the 'entrance' to the colon - I dunno?

If you promise not to tell anyone I will recant an experience we had recently 🙂

A couple of week ago she was using one of our 'standard' dildo's when I
asked her for something larger. I don't know why. Just call it a hunger and I have had a sincere and deep yearning recently to experience the real thing - a man connected to that prod. She pulled the Kris
Lord dildo from our toy drawer and said - 'how about his one'. It made
me nervous. I attached it to the steel ring and gave her my best 'give
it your best shot' expression. Her pussy was literally dripping
her juices. I did spend some time licking her pussy and sucking her clitoris and after she has
one of her 'temblors' we moved back to the matter at hand and she
placed me in the standard doggie position. We were finally able to get
the Kris Lord dildo head inside of me - or I was finally able to take it -
not sure how to state that. [Labeled "E" - the third from the right
bottom in the attached image.]

The head was a journey unto itself. Quite large. Took lots of
lube. Lots of relaxation. Lots of time. The Largest thing to ever
penetrate me. That was the 'hardest' part! Once she got the head in,
she rotated it and gently pulled and pushed it to allow me to
accustom. Then she could slowly pull it all the way out and gently push
it back in. The 'squishy' pop sound (or did I merely think I could
hear it?) that it caused was another sensation unto itself. It got
easier and less painful - though the pain was so akin to pleasure that I
hesitate using the term pain.

When that head 'bumped' into me P-Spot, I had a minor involuntary orgasm. Butt when she finally got past the second inner sphincter 'ring', which
seems to be located directly beyond my prostate, I thought I'd
'died and went gone heaven'.

I started to drip 'milk' immediately. Not my normal precum, but a milky
substance that we both noted! It just sort of gurgled out of my
piss-slit. Not thick. Not pre-cum clear thin. Different. Like a
watered down milk.

Then she was able to begin the process of a gentle and thorough
fucking. I can call it nothing short of bliss. Each few strokes brought a little more length and depth. I felt like a total
slut. She continually asked me if it was 'ok'. I think that all I
could do was grunt and When
she pegs me she knows that the 'trigger' is when she rubs her tits and
nipples on my back. It did not take long before I began an involuntary
orgasm that seemed to go on for minutes, though I suspect it was only a
few second. Never before have I produced such a quantity of cum before
and mixed with the puddle of precum and milk, it was quite a mess. She
actually giggles like a school-girl. Maybe the sense of accomplishment?

This was also the first time that I ever ate my own creampie off the
sheets. (Again, I almost always eat it from her [yummy] and sometimes snowball
with her as well.) As is always the case, when I consume our 'fluids
combined', I immediately erect again, and we then commenced to make a
passionate love that I will long remember. Though empty, my ass felt as
though it were still full. In my fertile mind/imagination, each
outward thrust from her inside her was as though there was a man holding and
directing my hips back to fully impale me on his hard cock.

After it was 'all over', I took this picture for memorialization of the
event. Sorry to have 'headlined' it, but as I said, it turned me into a
real slut!

I now have an appreciation for what all my lovers have gone through over
the years and a deep, deep yearning to experience a real cock attached
to a real man, using me as a source for his pleasure - knowing inside
that it will be me that is reaping the 'real' pleasure!

NO, I did not take the entire length - Butt, I can dream!

@explorer1, there is alot of info about pegging here https://community.aneros.com/forum/discussion/10516/pegging/p1 .

Explorer1,

Lots of experience here [blushing]. "Mrs. ChopTank" has been using a strapon on/in me for about 8 years now. What bliss it creates. She too knows of my bisexual (we just refer to it as 'sexuality') experiences and interests. I am going to present this from my own pervasive (or perversion) perspective.

Strapon is a 'normal' part of our sexuality, though it does not 'fit' the 'normal' porn definition of 'pegging'. Getting her 'geared up' is part of our foreplay. We/she does not do it as a form of dominance and submissiveness, though when she does a thorough fucking of my ass I Do tend to be submissive in thought(s)! I tend to get to orgasm when she bends over enough to run her breasts/nipples on my back or chest - though our best 'fit' is for me to be 'doggie'. Missionary requires my legs up and that pretty much blocks my chest from hers. We can overCUM that to some extent if I edge my ass over to the edge of the bed, but that is not necessarily the most comfortable for her - though it Does permit the deepest penetration. All these trade-off.

As for the actual apparatus - there are a variety of factors. Bare with me here as I do my best to recall them without making this a dissertation. Not in a specific order, but as they come to mind.

We probably have at least a half dozen (not all shown in the attachment) 'sets'. Elastic and leather - staps and harnesses.

You need to take into consideration your wife's body. That is to say that she has to wear this device, so think about her 'folds', if she has then. Think of how she is going to be 'doing' you. Missionary will entail her bending and moving as a 'man' - so think about where the straps are going to be on her. Buckles can be painful for both of you - they poke and can pinch. Doggie position, for my wife, is the most comfortable, BUTT, I Love to look her directly in the eyes and passionately kiss - so there is a trade off of sorts.

Maybe the single most important aspect will be keeping it in place. What you really don't want is for her to have to use one hand to keep it close to her body during her thrusts. Her 'cock' needs to become a part of her body else it will not move as her hips move without being held in place. If you are like me, you will want her to have use of both hands for stroking and nipple play and whatever . . . .

Whatever you end up with, I suggest you get a 'plug' or 'ring' type attachment. We like the ring type best as it allows almost any dildo with a suction cup or balls to attach. A note on the 'balls' - they can get in the way of how tightly the straps fit to her. Remember that she is going to be emulating your thrust and grind motions, though 'unfortunately', women do not have the same muscles or training that we have, so having her fuck you will rarely have the same 'fluid' motion as a man would provide (I do not have, yet, the man experience on the receiving end so I am projecting this assumption).

I expect you are seeking to make this as mutually enjoyable as possible, so again, think about how the dildo is going to connect - and we tend to use a different dildo each time - and I prefer her to use one that we have just used on her - so her juices are already in place! To enhance her pleasure we purchased a Feeldoe. The knob end fits into her vagina and is in a perfect position to expand her internal clitoris a the the external 'joint' rubs her external clitoris. When we got ours we did not know, or they had not introduced, about the vibrating version. Also, our first Feeldoe was of the short variety, but we discarded We also bought one of the 'realistic' versions with the veins and ridges and such, but unlike an actual penis, these veins and ridges do not move and are fairly rigid and therefore not all that comfortable - actually can be downright painful, so we do not use that version either. So we have settled on the largest (longest and thickest) smooth version available.

We probably would have gotten the vibrating version as she enjoys the sensations that cum from me when we use the Rocks Off Big-Boy during intercourse. (As an aside, I get a few "extra" benefits from when we use the Big-Boy as my ejaculate is much greater and I tend to truly Love a creampie dessert. Creampie tends to cause me to re-erect, if I have lost the first one, fairly quickly and at this point the Big-Boy has been expelled upon my orgasm - butt I still have the sensation of being filled) during Round II. Our next 'replacement' will be one with the vibe.

In the beginning we were concerned about size. Girth and length. I too an a 'small' stature man at 5'9" and 145 pounds. I would not be concerned about small and thin. Actually, I now Prefer thick and long. Small and thin makes me much too sore. Thick and long, for some reason, is much more pleasurable.
She likes to pull all the way out and then push back in (which is something I also like doing to her) as she frequently will chuckle or gasp at the gape she has created and I get a thrill out her reaction(s)! It also is a perfect time for more lube, if necessary!

What is (most) important to me is that the head be bigger than the shaft. Tampering from thin to thick causes me an unpleasant burning sensation that shortens our adventure and keeps me sore for days - whereas the thick and long, for whatever reason - does not. It is more of a 'struggle' to do the initial insertion, butt again, IMHO, it is well worth it. The bigger the head the better the chance is that she is going to stroke and massage my prostate.

While I am medically or anatomically technical to exactly explain it, I have three internal erogenous zones. The first is the sphincter. The second, not counting my prostate, is the second sphincter that is just beyond the prostate, The third, is a several inches, in me, past the second sphincter. It is initially, sort of painful - but a good painful. I believe this might be the 'entrance' to the colon - I dunno?

If you promise not to tell anyone I will recant an experience we had recently 🙂

A couple of week ago she was using one of our 'standard' dildo's when I
asked her for something larger. I don't know why. Just call it a hunger and I have had a sincere and deep yearning recently to experience the real thing - a man connected to that prod. She pulled the Kris
Lord dildo from our toy drawer and said - 'how about his one'. It made
me nervous. I attached it to the steel ring and gave her my best 'give
it your best shot' expression. Her pussy was literally dripping
her juices. I did spend some time licking her pussy and sucking her clitoris and after she has
one of her 'temblors' we moved back to the matter at hand and she
placed me in the standard doggie position. We were finally able to get
the Kris Lord dildo head inside of me - or I was finally able to take it -
not sure how to state that. [Labeled "E" - the third from the right
bottom in the attached image.]

The head was a journey unto itself. Quite large. Took lots of
lube. Lots of relaxation. Lots of time. The Largest thing to ever
penetrate me. That was the 'hardest' part! Once she got the head in,
she rotated it and gently pulled and pushed it to allow me to
accustom. Then she could slowly pull it all the way out and gently push
it back in. The 'squishy' pop sound (or did I merely think I could
hear it?) that it caused was another sensation unto itself. It got
easier and less painful - though the pain was so akin to pleasure that I
hesitate using the term pain.

When that head 'bumped' into me P-Spot, I had a minor involuntary orgasm. Butt when she finally got past the second inner sphincter 'ring', which
seems to be located directly beyond my prostate, I thought I'd
'died and went gone heaven'.

I started to drip 'milk' immediately. Not my normal precum, but a milky
substance that we both noted! It just sort of gurgled out of my
piss-slit. Not thick. Not pre-cum clear thin. Different. Like a
watered down milk.

Then she was able to begin the process of a gentle and thorough
fucking. I can call it nothing short of bliss. Each few strokes brought a little more length and depth. I felt like a total
slut. She continually asked me if it was 'ok'. I think that all I
could do was grunt and When
she pegs me she knows that the 'trigger' is when she rubs her tits and
nipples on my back. It did not take long before I began an involuntary
orgasm that seemed to go on for minutes, though I suspect it was only a
few second. Never before have I produced such a quantity of cum before
and mixed with the puddle of precum and milk, it was quite a mess. She
actually giggles like a school-girl. Maybe the sense of accomplishment?

This was also the first time that I ever ate my own creampie off the
sheets. (Again, I almost always eat it from her [yummy] and sometimes snowball
with her as well.) As is always the case, when I consume our 'fluids
combined', I immediately erect again, and we then commenced to make a
passionate love that I will long remember. Though empty, my ass felt as
though it were still full. In my fertile mind/imagination, each
outward thrust from her inside her was as though there was a man holding and
directing my hips back to fully impale me on his hard cock.

After it was 'all over', I took this picture for memorialization of the
event. Sorry to have 'headlined' it, but as I said, it turned me into a
real slut!

I now have an appreciation for what all my lovers have gone through over
the years and a deep, deep yearning to experience a real cock attached
to a real man, using me as a source for his pleasure - knowing inside
that it will be me that is reaping the 'real' pleasure!

NO, I did not take the entire length - Butt, I can dream!

Wow! very detailed and helpful! I still think that a 6-7 incher is best with about 3-4 inch thickness. Bigger than that would be hard as i have had a 9 inch long 5 inch thick REAL cock inside me before and it was not easy to get in and it did hurt when he went in past about 6 inches. He was unable to stretch me enough to not have his cock squeezed so hard that it was difficult to maintain an erection for him. Best to have options though i guess. I will update you all on my progress. Thanks again.