Why haven't I Super-O'd after 9 years?

Because you have been trying too hard. You need to relax and clear your mind. Porn won't help. It my get you in the mood but then you need to switch it off and let your brain stray where-ever it wants to take you.

Agreed. I found that I had much more success right away after I stopped including porn in my sessions.

Add to that a hot shower first, perhaps some breathing and stretching and even some basic yoga.

Binaural beats or similar relaxing sounds is great too. Total relaxation is the key.

Try some / all of those techniques out. I truly hope that it works for you.

Once it happens, things are different....

Sorry, I guess I should explain a little more. My bitter sense of sarcasm can be lost over text. Porn is why I'm unable to Super-O. I've finally come to terms with being a porn addict and have taken steps to end this awful addiction. It was actually thanks to the Aneros Wiki that I found the help I needed to quit (the Your Brain On Porn video has changed my life). Porn has severely limited my pleasure potential and hijacks nearly every sexual experience I've had, including those with Aneros. I can't wait to start riding my Aneros' again, but I need some time to reboot my brain, end my addiction, and heal my sexuality after two decades of abuse.

@exopsytosis you are taking a good move in a right direction for your life! I never watch anything while having a prostate session. It's not that it's distracting, it just doesn't intensify any of my prostate sensations; porn doesn't make anything "feel" more intense or more good in my ass at all. I just lay on my back, breathe, pay attention to my breathing, remain focused but at the same time disassociated from the toy in my ass (I do this "now I'm paying attention on purpose, now I'm not" game back and forth, I learned it when I started to incorporate my Mindfulness practice into my sessions), and if my mind wanders to anything other than me alone, on the floor, with a toy in me, breathing, then I use my mind to make that thought dissolve. When you start to lose the attachment between porn and your own physical pleasure you will start to feel the Aneros in new and profound ways.

Like you, it took me about 10 years to finally have something I'd call a "hands free prostate orgasm" regardless of it being a Super O or what. I lost all of my attachments to masturbation (porn, toys, cock fixation, etc.) that were my hang up to appreciating and accepting the Aneros toys for what they actually are. Yes, I do use them as masturbation aids for major orgasm/ejaculations (like having a Super T, I usually end every session with one, but long after my prostate just can't handle orgasms anymore!), but I've disassociated "masturbation" and everything related to it from my "prostate sessions" and use of Aneros. I also quit caring if what I was feeling was an orgasm or not, I didn't know how to recognize what my body was doing and what it was going through while I had Aneros sessions.

I guess the best way to put my journey to a prostate orgasm is like Vegeta on his quest to become a Super Saiyan. He trained and trained and fought and worked so hard, but he just couldn't get past the fact that his adversary Goku was advancing faster and further than him. It was his major roadblock to achieving the ultimate level of power. As soon as he stopped and realized that he was behind and he'd been working so hard, he quit and got extremely angry and frustrated, and it was that simple stop to release emotion (anger) that made him become a Super Saiyan. I was trying and trying and trying so goddamn hard to have a prostate orgasm for years and years that I couldn't stop trying, and I'd try harder and harder. Bigger toys, more forcefully fucking my ass with dildos, edging my cock for hours and then stopping to hope the Aneros took over and made me cum, etc. It was an endless cycle. The longer it took, the harder I tried. Until I finally quit trying and just gave up and let whatever was going to happen happen. I had felt things for 10 years, I thought, can there be surprises?? YES!! Jesus-H-Christ are there surprises!

I stopped trying and dropped all connection to any and all things "traditional masturbation" and that's when I finally felt it happen. You will do just fine! You will need time but if you begin slowly and let the Aneros bring back feelings of wonder and excitement into your sexual response you will be moving leaps and bounds into a wonderful, happier time! Good luck and please come back to the forum to tell us any and all things you feel comfortable with 🙂

@techpump Wow, what a lovely story of your journey, thank you for sharing. I'm glad I waited this long to check the forums because this is exactly what I needed to hear right now. I am currently basking in the after glow of an amazing Aneros session, and something whispered in my mind "go check the forum".

Your story brings me a great deal of hope. There were times during the last couple weeks that I had thought I had permanently damaged my sexuality and myself from my past addictions. I'm currently 16 days in my porn reboot and have already seen improvement. Originally, when I gave up porn, I gave up all forms of sex as well, masturbation, toys, and even the Aneros. But something told me this weekend I would be safe to try one of my Aneros. I was really worried it would trigger my need to use porn to heighten the session. That literally happened during every previous Aneros session. I would insert the massager, things would build and feel good. But I always wanted more and always reached for porn to add to the session. And I was always left frustrated in the end.

But these past two sessions have been amazing. I actually don't think this one is finished lol, I may take a break and try one of my other models in a bit. I'm realizing now that surrendering isn't a switch you just flip in your brain and go mentally limp. It's a skill that needs to be developed over time. I've found the HypnAerosession recording, as well as a couple other erotic hypnosis tracks, to be incredibly valuable in teaching me this precious skill.

Thank you again techpump, what you shared was really inspiring, especially since I feel like we have tried many of the "wrong" paths only to find this one. I too tried harder and faster with dildos, I even bought some that were so large no human in there right mind should ever try inserting in themselves. I even bought a fucking machine and was convinced it would be "the one." A little word of warning to anyone going down the same road I went down: more, bigger, faster, harder does not equal more pleasure! I'm glad I stopped using my old methods and am only focusing on the Aneros for now.