Hi,
I'm new. Please see my "No penis pleasure..." thread, as that's more important than this, but since I'm here, I thought I'd ask.
1) How did you hear about the male g spot, P-orgasms, Aneros, etc? What was your reaction? How did you get over the connotations, perceptions, fear, etc? What was your partner's reaction, and how did you help them get used to it?
2) When do you all get time to do this? I have a full time job, live with my mum, and see my gf all weekend, so I don't get any alone time, except if I wake up early and creep around. Doesn't being sneaky and being ready to hide it on someone coming in your door make it full of pressure and unrelaxing?
1) At first my partner was jealous of the time spent but then she got somewhat used to it. One problem is that the penis is an evil bastard: if you're enjoying sex it tends to not last all that long. Even under the best of circumstances you're unlikely to spend as much time having sex as you may need with the Aneros. So it's important to incorporate things into the sessions for her (or do the Aneros by yourself at first).
2) I think you should get a lock on your door for one. I'm somewhat uptight myself and that kind of attitude makes it REALLY hard to enjoy this product. You're going to have to get those kind of issues straight before getting anywhere with the Aneros because success is very much mental rather than physical. I think it could help you but all the other stuff (worried about people bursting in) is going to have to be dealt with or you're doomed before you even start.
Thanks. Im gonna buy a lock today. I have no DIYing, lock-installing skills, but I will give it a shot.