trans girl ama

I've heard transitioning people say things get more emotionally intense in general. Has your emotional experience of anerosing changed?
Personally I've never been able to experience much of anything emotional with the aneros, aside from the fear of losing control when something big is coming on... or the intensely helpless feeling when something big has taken hold.

What about nipple sensitivity?

Ok, I think I have a million questions and basically want to know everything about how aneros sessions changed... what was the biggest difference you noticed?

Hm. It definitely has. A big part of how this fits in with sessions has been learning to feel at home in my body. My experience of dysphoria permeated many aspects of life. I tended to be mildly to severely dissociated at all times, so trying to connect with myself to experience a session would feel like fingernails on chalkboard (if I could've even admitted to myself how bad it was ... with denial amazing things are possible) -- and be painful, deeply frustrating, hopeless, wrong, impossible but somehow still necessary. So it's a double whammy of having objectively more emotional sensitivity/depth/response, coupled with the rush of having that be The Right Thing. In session, I dunno, I feel the power of continuing to reject my internalized self-hatred/shame, and Becoming in spite of all the odds. Having emotional flow, instead of frustrating blockages I didn't understand the source of, has hugely improved my experience and body responses to aneros.

Nipple sensitivity is ... stellar. They feel connected to other sexual responses much more directly and intimately. Like, I can actually feel the energy lighting up like a highway, vs a thread before.

Biggest difference is that I truly have fun -- let go, and be my pleasure filled outsider self. Also I don't have to feel bad that 'giving in to' penis play is going to prematurely end a good session 🙂

Good questions, feel free to ask more! You're right there's a lot to say, but I'd rather be conversational than writing essays 🙂