Time spent practicing

Probably not the answer you want, but maybe, maybe not. It really depends on what amount of free time  you have and the importance you give to this hobby. I think that reading about the Aneros for two hours and working on relaxation is not worse than playing video games or watching TV or reading a book.

Learning new stuff will help you as long as you don't start obsessing over it or comparing your results to other people's. And there's a limit about what you can learn and really integrate until you experience it for yourself. Some of what you read will apply to you, some will not until you reach a certain level, and some will never apply because we are all different. 

I believe that if you are making progress, you should stick with what you are doing and re evaluate as you go. Use some of that time to keep a journal with some notes, it will be invaluable to track what works and what doesn't. Who knows where you will be next year or 5 years from now ? 

You're right, I shouldn't compare my results to others. I do sometimes get ideas from reading though, and I think that experimentation is a good idea.

As far as free time goes, I do have a lot of it and I do reflect frequently on the value of relaxing/meditating on this vs playing a video game or doing other things. Lately I've decided that a lot of the time that yes, I would like to spend my free time on this, and later on I might decide to spend less time on it of course. It would be nice to get back to that point where I'm feeling sweet sensations even as I'm chilling playing video games. Last couple of nights I've been feeling warmth and arousal at night when I'm trying to sleep, so that's some step forward lol.

Part of this is being patient, but at least when you've felt these feelings before it's reassuring that you may get there again in time. I remember the first time I had a pleasurable sensation from my butt, I questioned if I really felt that because it was so faint. My friends were over and we were watching a movie, but while my eyes were on the screen I wasn't watching the movie. I was concentrating super hard on my rear and managed to get the sensation again a time or two, however slight. That was an achievement, and helped cement my faith that this can work, but boy was I in the wrong mindset by trying too hard to make things happen.

I think there's also value in relaxing and breathing as I often default to stupid little nervous habits, like when  kind of hold my breath a bit and my breath is shallow. I tend to have these little nervous habits when I'm not paying attention, but when purposely relaxing I can stop these habits more easily.

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As long you as you understand that after a certain point, more time working on it will not necessarily give you better or quicker results, I'm sure you'll be fine with what you're doing. If (or when) you start to plateau, I think it's at that point that you must take a break and consider that less is more. Until then, going at it with enthusiasm and a desire to learn and improve can't hurt as long as you listen to your body and don't try to force things. Keep it fun !

I see it like weight training, at the start almost anything you do will give you positive results and you get quick progress.  You get what they call "beginner gains", which does not mean that you can spend 2 hours at the gym every day and continue to get those results forever without burning out... you need to train hard AND smart and see things long term. 

You have a point there. There will be diminishing returns after a point, and burning out may take away from sessions is some way. It's probably better to let the nice feelings be spontaneous outside of sessions and wait until a session to peak one's arousal.

A few minutes of meditation every now and then would have more of effect than spending a couple of hours spent concentrating on feeling things. Spending an hour would make more sense if the feeling were already there and we're enough to have an aless session.

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You have a point there. 

To be honest I wasn't sure I had one *embarrassed emoji*. There is also something to be said about not letting a bunch of guys on the Internet dictate how you should approach every tiny element. No one except YOU will really get to know what works in your particular circumstances. 

If you second guess yourself all the time, you'll have a harder time making progress, that's one the few things in life I'm certain in true. So if you get results meditating and reading about techniques two hours a day, and you're not getting tired of it, don't stop just because I said something about burning out. This might not even apply to you and by taking my well meaning advice, you could shoot yourself in the foot. Get where I'm going ? The last thing I would want is to slow your progression... 

At this point I think the primary driver of progress is to keep having aneros sessions, be patient, and be mindful. Maybe I'll figure out what works for me, or maybe it's just spontaneous and works when it wants to. Things haven't really been completely stagnant, but it hasn't been nearly constant sensations like it was for a few days a while ago. That isn't to say things aren't evolving.

For one thing the muscle spasms in my PC muscles are happening again, but it's less of a jerking motion and seems to be more gentle and kind of rythmic, sometimes feeling like just a vibration.