Things I have learned on my journey so far (or the " I am full of crap" post)

The times a when you shouted at the screen, what sort of things set you off? Did you verbally shout at the screen? Rude words?

It's far too rude to say...

As frustrated as I have got, I have never shouted profanities at posts on these forums. I have however been hurt by the comments, so you could say you and I have had the same pain at the hands of those that post such comments.

I want to be happy for them. Really. But it stays with you, that pain, it's like the greatest sense of loss, puzzlement, Frustration and absolute rage in one emotion.

We are dealing with here is something that starts off so subtle and delicate when you first get things going that you can't have any strong negative emotions. It's like listening out for a whisper at a death metal concert. Impossible. You need calm and silence.

One guy on here is so attuned to his body, or so he claims, that he can feel the blood flowing in and out of his ear lobes. I think that's where the meditation/mindfulness stuff might be useful.

Maybe taking a break to put some distance between yourself and the toy might give you a chance to come back at it with a fresh perspective.

@theplaything nice summary. I do everything you mention but the douche. I do make sure to "evacuate" completely before starting. I don't swear at my computer either I'm just jealous of some guys' experiences. I've had a few of my own too of course. That being said I'm beginning to lose expectation of experiencing a super O. I know that's supposed to be a good thing but it makes me sad for some reason. Nevertheless I still ride and have my calm seas orgasms sometimes if I spend long enough and the moon is full LOL.

@euphemistic I used to be a very angry person. I still am to some degree but I've calmed down a lot.

Every single sex agony column I've read about sexual performance anxiety and failure to orgasm have advised to stop being so goal orientated and just to enjoy giving and receiving pleasure. I also have a friend who says she likes full body orgasms because they're the ones that creep up on you straight out of left field.

I spent months, maybe longer, on the mornings before sessions saying to myself "today will be the day I have the superO" really psyching myself up and each time I did that I didn't feel a thing, not even the slightest tingle. You can't force these things at all.

I keep harping on about the meditation/mindfulness thing but you really do have to be present in the moment and fully aware of how your body feels to even notice the slightest whiff of a p-wave. All part of the "rewiring process"?

Maybe I am full of crap coz I sound like someone from a stupid hippy sex cult.

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I keep harping on about the meditation/mindfulness thing but you really do have to be present in the moment and fully aware of how your body feels to even notice the slightest whiff of a p-wave. All part of the "rewiring process"?

I fully agree that mindfulness is the key to achieving great orgasms with the Aneros. During a session I try to empty my mind of everything except the sensations - even the slightest ones - which I am feeling. Focussing on the first tingle and willing it to amplify and spread can lead to an overwhelming experience. Never underestimate the power of the mind in both enhancing, and sometimes blocking, your pleasure.