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08/05/2021 11:30 pm
Hi guys, I posted this on reddit, but I thought I'd share this here as well, maybe someone will find some insight. I know it's like a son teaching his father to fuck - most of you guys are so much more advanced than me. Anyway, here it goes.
Hi there, so first of all, this is not one of those posts which tells you of a certain technique. My advice is general. I believe it is more effective and would work for majority of struggling users here. It is a simple one, but not easy.
Let me preface by describing my journey. I've been using aneros for 2 years and few month now. But only very recently I managed to git my first super O's. And they have been worthy. Only very recently I've realized what has been hindering me.
So first of all, let's think about what an aneros session is? The way I see it, it is an intimate session with yourself, with your mind. The toy is just a tool to bring awareness. The more awareness you have, the better.
What has been the biggest distractor for me and my progress? It's porn. Watching porn (or even listening to it) during the session completely destroys any awareness or concentration, so it will never be able to help (unless you are already super rewired, maybe).
But the problem is porn itself. Even if you watch it before the session to get aroused, it takes your brain into an overdrive, which stays during the session. That means your own brain will probably be unable to create "free flow" of fantasies and mental images that actually lead to the super O. At least for me, when the brain starts streaming images of arousing things, my body and my mind seem to align in the same frequency, which starts the super O's. I also think that porn makes you over-aroused which basically means you block yourself from non-penile orgasms. It's like peeing with a boner. Very difficult. If you want to feel the flow, you need to be in a natural state.
Now the hardest part. If you are a hardcore/moderate porn user, your initial aneros sessions without any porn will feel like a drag. When I initially started dropping porn, I didn't even feel the urge to have a session until a week or so. And it was quite bland. But in time it became so much more enjoyable. My body also became much more receptive. For example, during the session I started getting instincts to touch or caress myself in various places. So it's sort of easier to listen to ques your body's sending you.
And now some positive news. I still give in to porn sometimes, just less of it. Even the reduction of it may be enough to help you trigger super O's or move closer to them. At least try not using it during aneros sessions. Although my plan is to stop it completely now.
I also think that semen retention might be quite beneficial with this method, but honestly, I've never been able to go longer than a week. So that is something to consider.
08/06/2021 8:40 am
Glad to hear things are rolling for you pal.
But the problem is porn itself. Even if you watch it before the session to get aroused, it takes your brain into an overdrive, which stays during the session. That means your own brain will probably be unable to create "free flow" of fantasies and mental images that actually lead to the super O. At least for me, when the brain starts streaming images of arousing things, my body and my mind seem to align in the same frequency, which starts the super O's. I also think that porn makes you over-aroused which basically means you block yourself from non-penile orgasms. It's like peeing with a boner. Very difficult. If you want to feel the flow, you need to be in a natural state.
Good little passage this. Hope it helps others like you who’ve been stuck for months or years.
Now the hardest part. If you are a hardcore/moderate porn user, your initial aneros sessions without any porn will feel like a drag. When I initially started dropping porn, I didn't even feel the urge to have a session until a week or so. And it was quite bland. But in time it became so much more enjoyable. My body also became much more receptive.
The brain isn’t slow,a week or so and it’ll start to realign itself! I think what you say about being receptive is where a lot get stuck. If you can receive the pleasure,you ain’t gonna get it.
Although my plan is to stop it completely now.
Bin it off mate,you don’t need it. It’s only ever messed up your journey.
08/06/2021 9:05 am
The brain isn’t slow, a week or so and it’ll start to realign itself!
Don't want to turn this thread into "the other porn thread", but if you check some info about quitting pornography, some hardcore users report several weeks or even months of totally absent libido after they stop. They call it flatlining and for a lot of men, they get so scared that they go back to porn to "fix it". One more reason to never get to the point of being a hardcore user, and quitting early if you feel you're getting there...
08/06/2021 9:53 am
Yes I’ve read that too. That’s why I said will ‘start’ not that it would be completed. And I’m sure changes,however small,begin on day 1 and build from there. Just like smoking,the body starts kicking out chemicals within 20 mins.
It’d be interesting to hear @pirontras’s timeline of where he started to notice changes in his journey progress. Reading his post,it stood out to me that he’d been treading water for over two years until only very recently. So it doesn’t sound like it takes too long for changes to begin.
08/06/2021 10:29 am
That’s why I said will ‘start’ not that it would be completed. And I’m sure changes,however small,begin on day 1 and build from there. Just like smoking,the body starts kicking out chemicals within 20 mins.
We're in complete agreement here. Just wanted to point out that in some cases, changes begins by shutting down the whole libido circuits, and positive change starts to happen a while later. I'm wondering if this shutdown is some kind of safety switch that would allow the body to slowly go back to some baseline, this could be a sort of re-wring in itself. I'm not the first one to think about this, as some articles talk about going from exaggerated arousal, to no arousal, and then back to normal, healthier arousal patterns.
08/06/2021 10:42 am
Rewiring,which is something everyone around here understands is exactly what happens! Wiring back to our natural sexual state,I think as time passes more and more transmitters come back online. How long it takes is probably incumbent on a lot of factors that vary from individual to individual. Pirontras alludes to this when he talks of noticing how his head and body feel more aligned and he feel more receptive to pleasure.
Anyways,I’m glad its working for him hope he can keep going.
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08/06/2021 10:45 am
It’d be interesting to hear @pirontras’s timeline of where he started to notice changes in his journey progress. Reading his post,it stood out to me that he’d been treading water for over two years until only very recently. So it doesn’t sound like it takes too long for changes to begin.
I think I started noticing some different things in the middle of July, when I just basically started chilling. No expectations, no porn, just nice lying down, closing your eyes with some nature sounds and seeing where it takes me. And of course, as little porn as possible.
The biggest breakthrough was made by scoring some MJ. It immediately took me to a super O realms. I am also trying to limit my sessions, listening to my body when it actually wants to do something prostate related.
Come to think of it, it all started happening around time when I decided I would "stop being unhappy". But that is a different and a very long story.
08/08/2021 9:14 pm
Come to think of it, it all started happening around time when I decided I would "stop being unhappy". But that is a different and a very long story.
But probably a very relevant story!
08/08/2021 10:12 pm
Come to think of it, it all started happening around time when I decided I would "stop being unhappy". But that is a different and a very long story.
I believe our general mental states play a huge role in our sessions. @pirontras seems to have taken a very different attitude towards life, am I right @pirontras? I am currently writing about my latest session and there is factors outside of the sessions that had a major impact, or so I believe. It is a question I wanted to ask of the members.
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08/08/2021 10:39 pm
Come to think of it, it all started happening around time when I decided I would "stop being unhappy". But that is a different and a very long story.
I believe our general mental states play a huge role in our sessions. @pirontras seems to have taken a very different attitude towards life, am I right @pirontras? I am currently writing about my latest session and there is factors outside of the sessions that had a major impact, or so I believe. It is a question I wanted to ask of the members.
Well.. it is a long and complicated story. I am on the road to somewhere. Perhaps once I reach the destination, or at least a rest area, I will be able to describe it. I love introspection, but it is very difficult for me to explain what is happening to me right now. But at least this part of journey is not bad.
p.s. when I think of it, I think aneros might have been a catalyst for it all. I think it's definitely more than I was barging for.
This post was modified 3 years ago by pirontras
08/09/2021 1:30 am
p.s. when I think of it, I think aneros might have been a catalyst for it all. I think it's definitely more than I was barging for.
Yes, I get, this is so familiar.
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