Telling your wife that your need your prostate messaged

I am very curious about using objects to enhance our sexual experience, but unsure of telling my wife about anal/prostate stimulation.

I initially told my wife about this by saying my Helix was therapeutic to help reduce prostate size, and help me urinate less frequently at night and that is was working. At the same time I told her it felt a bit erotic as well and some men were able to experience multiple orgasms like women.

She cautiously accepted that and told me she would like me to be able to have multiple orgasms like she does. Each time the subject comes up, I emphasize a little bit more how my sessions are more arousing. She is becoming more accustomed to the idea that I use anal toys and that it is sexually stimulating for me. Now, after my sessions, she usually initiates sex and is more enthused about sex. Our sex life has really gotten better since I told her about all this. (I'm 64 and she is 68)
Soon, I will tell her I am having orgasms during my sessions and that I want to us make love with it in me so that we can multiple orgasms together.
We'll see how that goes.

When you're dealing with someone who is open to anal play
an open discussion is possible and preferable. For those who aren't, a more finessed approach is the
method of choice. While some users insist that a complete and thorough disclosure is the way to go, I'm on record as having endorsed the kind of approach TomS99's is talking about. There are several advantages to this. To begin with, adding the therapeutic aspect underpins the concept of prostate massage with an element of importance and legitimacy. Most spouses are accepting of a practice that promotes their partner's well-being, even if it involves something unusual. Second, some learning is best absorbed gradually, in smaller doses. This is particularly the case when it comes to something that involves long held taboos. Lastly, when the spouse is able to see the fruits of this pursuit for themselves (harder erections, stronger orgasms, better sex), the element of "strangeness" fades.

BF Mayfield

My wife is the one who actually got me started. She had been reading in one of her alternative medical newsletters about the benafits of prostate massage. The newsletter recommended a product that we ordered and turns out it was a aneros product. This was over eight years ago. I was not impressed initially and actually threw the device away. I then became familiar with the Aneros website and products and re ordered a couple of years later. Same results, no time to play, expecting to much, operator error. I threw that one away too.(regretting that now). Very recently I have decided to try again because I did have some pleasure in the past. Happy to say now that I have a open mind and the time to relax, I think I am on my way to good things. Looking forward to my next session.

I read in Men's Health that you can feel out your wife about a new sexual practice sometimes by telling her you had a dream about it to see how she reacts. She might think its something she'd like to try and if not you haven't lost anything really...just a suggestion

I just put it in and had a nice romp with her. Placed her hand on my shaft and she felt the PTab. She was curious and I told her about it. Wife has noticed how I'm constantly fuller, firmer and the throbbing. Now she can tell when I'm using one or not due to the difference in firmness.

I've alluded to wanting anal but she once jokingly said "if you can take your size in you then I'll look into it." Mission accomplished on my end. I don't think it will ever happen but I don't care as much. I mean damn look at what I can to!

Try it out. Let her know what you're doing. Put it in before you have sexy time. If she notices it then discuss it. If not then enjoy it.

I am 75 in good shape and healthy and always like to have some type of sexual play. My wife and I have not had sex for sometime due to a health issue she has so, sex for me is gone at the moment. I tried a prostate massager a couple of years ago did not do very well and threw it away. I would really like to get back into the Aneros being I have been doing a lot of reading on the Aneros site and understand more about the journey. I am 5'6" tall 165 lbs with a small butt and ready to try the Aneros. Any advice as to what I should start with as to an Aneros prostate massager. Thanks

If I'm not mistaken the sgx is for men of 5'7 and under so that could be a good start. Secondarily I have found peridise models very useful too and very good for beginners

@stormy, you are a year younger than me, welcome. SGX is a good start regardless of height. I also think the Helix SYN is possibly better as it is silicone and a bit softer. Lubricant is very important. For these models you don't need much, Water based lube has problems, so if in doubt use good quality castor oil or sweet almond oil as a starter. There are a lot of threads on lubes.
Dont expect too much. Enjoy the feeling, also allow the health benefits of prostate massage which are significant as one gets older.
Allow lots of time (sessions) for the prostate to notice the presence of the aneros.
Thinking again- I would definitely get BOTH these models. Their profiles are different so one my just be better than the other. Then you may find that is reversed. So the journey is on two feet so as to speak.

Welcome Stormy,

I agree with the other respondents, the SGX would be a good place to start. The Helix would be a good back up, as isvara said it has a substantially different profile that would give you some variety if purchased at the same time as the SGX. If it had to be one to start, the SGX would be my suggestion. When you have time be sure to check out the Helpful Links for New Members

Cheers,

BF Mayfield