Technique Tidbits

(@zentai) Good thread idea!

Here is one; Not all sessions are equal, accept what is offered. Some days I am simply not going to have the mind numbing, time warping session I had the day before or week before. A less intense session does not mean I have lost it (a fear I used to have often), it means nothing more than a less intense session.

The more one can control your first bullet, I’ll call “doubt”, the better he is in all but your penultimate point.  Actually, doubt too that one recognizes one of his “sweet spots” would obscure that route to orgasm too.

At first I’d say they’re universal, but until more respond, this universe is a dyad: a binary star, perhaps?  Regardless, nice job, @zentai, articulating some finer sensations.  Now I have some words to hang onto them the next time I feel them, and I can try to treat them in the ways that you do.

I'll attempt to name universals too.  But I have the natural blindspot of "of course they're natural (to me!)".

1. Familiarize yourself with your own anatomy.  Allow room for surprise and discovery in your tensing and un-tensing of various large and tiny, deep internal, hip, leg, abdominal, pelvic, gluteal, rectal, and anal muscles.  Some of these are well known and have names like “Kegels” and “reverse Kegels”.  There may be more controllable zones than you first realize, and like someone’s first steps, controlling them can get easier with experience.  Some of these may aid in your progress up the hill of arousal and pleasure.
2. Begin with, ask yourself “if there will be new sensations during the session” (@morexp).   Especially when new, let pleasure catch you off-guard, to whisper into your thoughts as you amble along not too determinedly towards what you may think is the endpoint.  Also allow for your understanding of what an “endpoint” is to evolve, especially when you’re new and thus it’s hard to recognize what you’re looking for when you may not have felt something like it before.
3. Some dry-Os may be found at lower levels of arousal and may be of less intensity.  Aless for instance at first may be at a lower intensity.  Be receptive to what you find; some can blow your mind.

Agreed @RickR , our posts crossed in the sending.  Looks like we're talking the same in my #3.  I will never forget a couple of sessions with Aneros ("Nikki") where breakthrough intense pleasure came with a component of emotion.  But I'll remain in all sessions laissez faire: (your)

Posted by: @rickr

it means nothing more than a less intense session

.  And I will laissez le bon temps rouler!  ["Let the good times roll"].  After 3 months off of Aneros, I did not lose my knack for Aneros pleasure, but Aless seems to have been taken down some.  I won't let that bother me either.  It is all in the realm of future possibility.

Arousal and anticipation. For me if arousal is not present, doesn’t have to be sexual (though when it’s there it turns into sexual), or if I’m unable to build arousal, it’s highly likely I’ll have an underwhelming session, if not an all out dud. However, without arousal, if I have a high level of anticipation that can also set conditions for a good session. 

Posted by: @zentai

Alessly is more in the mental realm than physical, and more about focus than anything else. 

It is yes,but…ha ha always a but. Without a toys,there is more space,so a little more anchored tension and contraction can be required! 

Nice easy to understand post as always!

@helghast

Hehe, that's true in general and worth keeping in mind, you can and should go harder without a device if you're using an active approach,  but (!!! )  in the specific scenario where you are trying to stimulate a specific spot, I often wonder if our muscles are able to physically do this without the toy, or if the feelings are mostly imagination and focus on the specific part. Not that it matters all that much, but can we do *everything* without a device that we do with one, I'm not 100% certain. 

@zentai

Thats one way of looking at it. I believe with enough mind muscle connection,tiny and small targeted muscles movements are completely possible. That’s how I did it anyways. Yes the brain is the the overall boss,but it’s acting on the feedback from elsewhere.