Starting Over (Second attempt at this post)

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Anyways,you’ve already been there and one can become ‘detrained’ after a long law off. The memories of what you had before and a little impatience are likely causing some chasing as expectation. Just chill and get your head in the game. You know what’s what and you can get back there.

Posted by: @helghast

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Thanks ...that was my problem. I'll keep it in mind. 

I lost all my anerobilities right after I achieved the super-o, and for a similar reason.  Lots of stress, difficult life situations, and I believe that once it happened, I did experience serious expectations that superO would happen easily now that I knew what to do, but my sessions quickly declined to feeling like trying to ride a bike for the first time. My breathing, pleasure waves, everything.  Gone. And that after the high of having the most amazing physical/ sensual/ even spiritual experience of my life. 

I got some of it back, but three years later, never like the first time. It does happen more "automatically" for me and I acquire great physical pleasure and experience orgasms, but I never redeveloped my breathing and contraction patterns and the imagination I had the first time (which for me was 12 years into my journey!)

I would recommend starting back by making sure you are getting plenty of mind clearing physical exercise, and get a womanizer premium for nipple play. Just start there and not worry about using the Aneros yet. Seems like that lights a fire in the pelvic area for me.

Give that some time (however much it takes, weeks, a month) with no pressure on the goal of prostate orgasms. I believe you will start to crave the Aneros again, and then maybe be in a better mental state to achieve more pleasure. 

My experience right now is that you can expect things to take a while to fall back into place, no matter how you go at it. What seems to be working for me, at least a bit, it going back to the basics.

What I mean by this is that at the beginning, I did light enemas, breathing and relaxation exercise, pre-lubing and I had some sort of ritual with having a light meal before the session, having short sessions on specific days, and longer ones on weekend, etc.  As I got better, these things started to matter less and less, as previous success fueled arousal and I really knew what I was doing. Then I could just insert and go and not think about prep work and technique, and I knew it would just work.  

After a long break, that sort of confidence needs to built back. Knowing how I did it a the beginning, I can only hope that the same path will deliver the same results. But of course it's a little bit harder because the adventure and discovery are not the same, and now it's more about trying to get back into the game, and specific expectations are harder to meet than the more vague ones I had at the start. 

All this to say, up to the point where you can sustain involuntary contractions, it's going to be about mostly "physical rehab", then afterwards I guess it's going to be more of a mental game. At least that's today's theory. 

Posted by: @karvec1959

I'm now finally ready to get back at it for real and any advice or encouragement you good folks can give me would be greatly appreciated.

I think @Zentai 's advice to go back to the basics is wise. Relaxation, no expectations, patience and a loving wife's support are all you need. Your subconscious already knows the way, you just have to let your body lead you back into the path. Remember this is a journey not a goal with a destination, enjoy the ride for what you DO receive.

Good Vibes to You!

Thanks for the advice guys. Another thing I have to work around is that my emotional state is not what it was the first time around. A LOT has happened in my life since I was at my aneros peak and there have been problems with anxiety etc. I've been doing some meditations and other things to help me keep on track. I'm hoping that getting back into my aneros sessions will also help. I always found that they were, in many ways, a form of meditation as well. By adding this back into my life and the pleasures that will come with it in time as my body remembers, it will help my recovery. Yes, I agree with all of you it will take time, and I have to remember to enjoy what my aneros gives me instead of 'expecting' anything else. That's how I got there the first time and I'll get there again.