Special abilities

Hi everyone. I’m mainly a lurker here, but I have contributed a bit before to the forum (I posted an erotic story involving Aneros a while ago, so I’m hoping this gives me some good will to start posting for a bit), and some topics have been building up in my head that I feel the need to express now that I have some time for some lengthy posts (sorry if you prefer shorter posts). 

As a bit of background, I’m a mid-40s male, married, who started using Aneros products about 4 years ago and started experiencing prostate orgasms a little over 2 years ago. It’s been great! My wife has been on board, and at different points in these 4 years I’ve had the opportunity to work on my arousal/orgasms alone and with her. At this point I have what I tend to think of as “special abilities”. Again, these experiences/abilities are the best! I’m very happy with my “progression”, and wouldn’t do much of anything differently, but I don’t hear these talked about or shown too much on here or other sites, so I’ve been wanting to post/ask about them to try to normalize them a bit and see if people can relate or see if I’m just really unique (hopefully not to make anyone jealous, I’ll try to detail how I “worked” to achieve these results). 

First: a quick rundown of my progression to super-o territory:

a. I’ve been diagnosed with ulcerative colitis for a while. I know some have posted about how this may affect sessions, I haven’t worried about it, as I worked to get my UC under control very well, and it normalized the fact that I shouldn’t be ashamed about doing stuff with my “back door” since when I was sick I had to use medicinal enemas and still have to get regular colonoscopies (my first colonoscopy since becoming multi-orgasmic is coming up, and I have a slight fear about that, but I’m sure I won’t have any issues). 

b. I went from using an Aneros to having Super-Os in about 2 years by using many of the suggestions from this forum (meditate with the device in, play with erogenous zones that aren’t the penis, etc.) One thing that I don’t see mention a whole lot is that I started stroking/playing with my scrotum a lot, and found that if I pushed on either side of the base of my scrotum with my thumbs, after a while I could have an ejaculatory orgasm without touching my penis. For a bit I was afraid that this would impede my rewiring, but it felt so good I kept going with it, until…

c. I started having non-ejaculatory prostate orgasms. One night it clicked, and I could tell it was because the orgasms were so powerful that I couldn’t play with my scrotum during them, it was just too much. I would just have to put my head back and enjoy! My second session with Super-Os, to convince myself that I was really there, I would time myself, and found that I was putting myself in a loop where I would have an approximately 1 minute orgasm followed by a 2 minute break that would quickly cycle through refractory, arousal, plateau, leading to the next orgasm. 

Pretty much all my steps so far, while they were achieved through using an Aneros device, could be replicated very quickly aless.

After that, I could (and still can) reliably get to a Super-O/multi-orgasmic state…with one (somewhat big?) catch…I have to be somewhat/fairly high off of liquid THC. I’m sure this has to do with being relaxed, how it hits you, etc., but I can’t get there with another method (I’ve tried smoking, and it’s just not the same). Sober/smoking I can sometimes take some time and have prostate orgasms, but they are nowhere near what I can do off of liquid. I haven’t tried edibles or other methods. 

I cycled through some other stages of being multi-orgasmic (for a while, if I was high off of liquid, I would get orgasms no matter what, even if I was reading the news, they could be long or short, and the in-between times could be long or short, and also I would continue to have “aftershocks” for about the next 16 hours or so, even when I was sober the next day. Sigh, I kind of miss those days, even though I know some complain about them. It was during COVID lockdowns, so I could often enjoy. I don’t really get those anymore). But now, incorporating my wife more in my “new state” (before, we would just have our usual sex routine on a regular basis), I had to make some adjustments again, leading me (finally, again, sorry for the long post) to what I think of as my current “special abilities”:

1. Having my prostate orgasms be apparent to my wife: my wife usually starts with playing with my scrotum (which I’ve already stated that I’ve basically trained as a major erogenous zone). I could say “playing with my balls”, but scrotum seems more accurate. She plays lightly and slowly, then ramps up the speed but stays light. Usually this leads to an uncontrollable quick prostate orgasm. At first, it was hard to explain to my wife that I actually felt like I was having an orgasm, since there was no ejaculation and sometimes no outward signs besides me just laying back and not being able to move, but she sometimes mistook that as a sign that I was bored or at the least it wasn’t very exciting for her if I was just catatonic. So I did a couple of things: i. I learned to be vocal. We usually tell each other during sex when we’re close, when we’re going to orgasm, when we are orgasming. So I did that here (this seems like minor skill to me, but when we watch those videos of people using an Aneros and at most having subtitles about what they’re feeling, I wonder why they don’t try to say things in the moment. I know you’re in intense pleasure but I feel like you could try to say “something” besides grunting. Anyway…). ii. My body at some point got the message and started to “adjust”. Now I don’t have to tell her when I’m having my first prostate orgasm. When she goes fast over my scrotum and I approach orgasm, the feelings become too much. I have to stop her hand and push it hard on my scrotum, and we can both feel my prostate pumping, much like it would during a typical ejaculatory orgasm. After 2 or 3 more orgasms this way, I feel “activated”, which leads me to my second “special ability”…

2. Choosing a “trigger” for my prostate orgasms: I find that I can choose a specific action, visual cue, or probably audio cue (I haven’t tried this yet, but would like to) to start my prostate orgasm. Some cues I’ve used: her playing with her nipples, her playing with MY nipples, us kissing, her stroking my hair (useful when we decide on me performing oral sex). We just need to decide at some point, which usually occurs somewhat naturally if one of us has a strong opinion or if the specific action dictates. If the action changes I can often change triggers as necessary. To train for this, I would watch porn (I know there’s been some debate as to whether porn is useful or not, YMMV, but I’ve used porn most of the time when by myself) and train myself to orgasm when an action happened or something was said. Maybe my ramp-up to orgasm is a bit quicker as a result, but there can certainly still be a ramp-up if a certain set of actions are repeated or if you’re watching a video where you know what’s about to happen.

3. Having the prostate orgasm shut off my ejaculation: key when having penetrative sex. I know there’s been talk here and elsewhere about missionary being one of the worst positions for multiple orgasms/prostate orgasms, but it’s our most common position for a couple of reasons (some mobility issues, comfort issues, etc). I used to do a lot of edging in this position before becoming multi-orgasmic, and now instead of edging, when I get close, I can trigger my prostate orgasm and shut down my ejaculation. I definitely had to train some for this (all fun training). I would be stroking my penis and feel myself getting close (again, I know some recommend laying off the penis even after rewiring, but now that I’m rewired enough to my liking and want to incorporate this part of my sexuality with my wife during sex, I felt it necessary), and I would imagine a threesome where another woman would tell me not to ejaculate and trigger my prostate orgasm instead (if I had an Aneros device in, I would imagine her giving a prostate massage). During these days I would revel in this “fight” between my ejaculatory orgasm and prostate orgasm (often at the end, my ejaculation would win, but I’m finding I can control that better these days and many times will decide to end without ejaculation. Again, I kind of miss these training days, but there’s always more to do!). But, what was really key for my wife was my next ability…

4. Putting my body on autopilot during a prostate orgasm: after step 3., there were several sessions with my wife where, during each prostate orgasm, my body would shut down from the pleasure. This would lead to a loop of: thrusting a certain speed during penetrative sex, a ramp-up to prostate orgasm, and then a thrust into prostate orgasm where I’d just have to hug her close and quiver with pleasure. At this point I expect I was having two minute orgasms with not so much time in between. Great for me! Not so great for my wife, who takes a fair bit of time to get to her orgasm and needs a fair bit of clitoral stimulation, which she can’t do if I’m so close on top of her. Again, if not doing missionary this might work, and our other go to position where we’re on our sides, I can still do this to some extent. But for our go-to position of missionary, once again, (fun) training. Using some deep, slow breathing with constant stroking (while watching porn on my own) I was able to get into a state where I could pick a certain speed, have my body (or hand if on my own, or mouth if performing oral sex) go that speed automatically while my eyes rolled back in my head and I felt an intense prostate orgasm with fear of that speed making me ejaculate during sex. Outside of orgasm I have to be a bit more careful in my speed in order to not ejaculate, but that means if my wife is getting somewhere to her orgasm or would just like me to speed up without having to stop at the edge, she should trigger (or let me know that I should trigger) my prostate orgasm (which she does, sometimes a little too much. I let her know sometimes that too many back-to-back orgasms with little rest will wear my body out too fast). Then, once she’s had her fill (either she’s had an orgasm or just can’t get there and wants to end things) we can decide together if I want to ejaculate at the end (she usually doesn’t care since it’s the end at this point, but sometimes she’s just done and wants to end, which is often good since I can practice ending a session without ejaculation). This special ability has possibly shortened the duration of my prostate orgasms (last I timed myself on my own, I was 1 minute on, 1 minute off, where before I could try to play around with an orgasm lasting close to 10 minutes) but the trade-off of having sex during these orgasms is worth it, it feels amazing.

So that’s it! I often feel great the next day, regardless if I’ve ejaculated or not (regardless, I usually ejaculate 2-3 times a week, but I’m still trying to cut down to build more arousal). But I’ve also felt a bit weird, in that I don’t hear/see this situation in porn/stories/podcasts, which I’d like to get into in a separate post for another day. Also, this is a best case scenario, I’ve certainly had times when I couldn’t get there or the time when I had too many orgasms and they became too much. But usually, it’s on the side of fantastic! So feel free to post your own special abilities, or comment on mine! I have a short “wish-list” for my future abilities, some of which might be difficult (I haven’t “mastered” her preforming oral on me, but I can’t imagine that would be too difficult. On the difficulty side: hfwo with no touching anywhere, but I’d like to try). 

Sorry again for the long post. Hope it was worth it!