Semen retention

Hi, could you define what you consider to be "nofap" and "semen retention"?

@pirontras semen retention usually involves practices that still involve genital stimulation of the penis though without ejeculation. 

No fap is literally no ejeculation and no stimulation. Complete abstinence.

Posted by: @lee92

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• It is my understanding that if done correctly you should not feel incredibly frustrated at all. As opposed to how you'd feel in the no fap space.

I don't know the context of this quote, but it's possible he might have been talking about the kind of semen retention where people don't sexually stimulate themselves? There is /r/Semenretention on Reddit, but I got the impression they're hands-off. Maybe this isn't a clearly agreed upon term.
Or the person who said that, is having non-ejaculatory sessions that are especially fulfilling. Which I have encountered a small handful of times, and not something I'm able to repeat at will.

Posted by: @lee92

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Does anyone have any advice or any links for what could help to achieve a more sustainable practice with less frustration?

Hmm, not really now that I think of it. My approach is more to make peace with the frustration, and think myself out of considering it a big deal. That maybe the sensations I'm feeling are part of what I signed up for. I become curious about them, and want to see where they lead next.

The other major factor for me is having some reason to do it. I've done "No Nut November" a few times, and having it as a personal challenge and self-control game with a definite end-date, can be just enough motivation to get me through. Similarly Mindgasm's 30 day challenge turned abstinence into a project, and gave me some higher-order goal. Which is very useful when I'm thinking "You know it'd be easier to get to sleep if I just ejaculated".

Mostly I find the frustration wears off and becomes background noise. Sometimes after a week, sometimes after two.

If I could pick some ideal method, it would be to repeat the dry ejaculation I had during the Mindgasm 30 day challenge. It involved every muscle spasm, every physical and pleasure sensation that a full ejaculation would have, but nothing came out. It came with a feeling of total relief afterwards too, as if I had just ejaculated. It was the only time I've ever experienced that. Now if I could do that at will, I think semen retention would get a whole lot easier.
I plan on re-visiting that challenge some time, but the exercises can get a bit grueling after doing them nearly every day for 3 weeks.