Partnered sex and the aneros

@GForce
I can't believe I havn't tried this! Thanks for such a great idea. I am very exicited about putting this into practice ASAP!
ASAP is also the doctor's prescription. LOL

@acquiescence
Be careful not to be too self centered. And be careful not to become too prostate centric.

The benefit of anerosing is not to awaken your prostate, but to awaken your general awareness and to open you to savoring subtle pleasures.

Ejaculation is not your enemy, a healthy amount is necessary to your balance. You might loose the constant prostate buzz... But that is a good thing, not a bad. Constant is nothing good. Life works in cycles... Constants mean death.

@Canacan, thanks for the advise, your input is always welcome.

"be careful not to be too self centered". Good advice, by definition the aneros experience begins with trying to discover the self and body, centering on self pleasure. It would be easy to get in that mode and not grow from it. I sorta realized this recently and shifted gears to involve wife in some of the pleasure, hoping some of my pleasurable feelings rub off on her.

I was seeking and working on tantric energy prior to finding aneros about 9 weeks ago. Read MOM, spent a lot of time on tantra.com, etc. Doing Kegels, deep breathing and more with the goal of learning how to orgasm without ejaculation and to have multiple orgasms and create sexual energy that will eventually be converted to tantic experiences.

Per what I have read it is common and desirable to significantly reduce ejaculations as is practiced in Asian cultures. The tantric belief is that ejaculations eliminate much of the energy needed to benifet from tantric practices. The tantric teachings recommend reduced ejaculations depending on your age, for the very young maybe every two weeks, for middle aged once a month, and for those over 60 once every 2-3 months or never. I am 68. Theory is that the young can regenerate the energy much faster than those of us older. I've found this to be true even before beginning my tantric journey.

This buzz so far has been very positive for me, if that changes will perhaps see if I can cut it back a bit. This buzz seems to ground me and has been a balancing influence. Since I've developed this milestone have cut back considerably on aneros sessions, and sessions I have are much shorter, sometimes only 10-15 minutes. Normal sex is much better now and that is good (and I think that is balancing)

@acquiescence
I think you are right that normal sex is balancing.

Regarding ejaculation, it seems clear to me the general teachings about reduced ejaculation is either wrong or incomplete. For one, it works very differently on every male (not only depending on their age) and also works differently based on what produced the ejaculation, it's quality etc.

Remember, traditional Tantra is a bit extreme and thus not to be followed without a guide. To reach higher levels, they progressively break the harmony of the machine and need to recreate a new one.

I prefer what I call "bedroom Tantra" or "household Tantra". It is much more simple, quiet and peaceful. It does certainly not preach ejaculation denial or penis denial. Harmonizing all the chakras is much more important. Don't get stuck on ejaculation, stuck on buzz, stuck in penis, stuck in prostate, stuck in anal, stuck in chest, stuck in head... Or anywhere. Make sure the whole body (and soul) get their share, either in turn or at the same time. After a month as passed you should have made at least one complete circle. Otherwise you'll feel imbalance effects.

Our wifes and girlfriends have (or have had) menstrual cycles. We often don't realise it, but our bodies work in cycles too. As you gain more awareness (with your "rewiring") you should start realising it and accepting it as you accept the highs and the lows. It is healthy.

No book can give you the recipe for harmony and balance. How much ejaculation is good for you ? Nobody knows... Except your own body.

The only things books can point you to, are sure signs of imbalance. Constant pain is sign of imbalance, constant buzz is sign of imbalance, constant horniness is sign of imbalance, total absence of libido is sign of imbalance, difficulty to sleep is sign of imbalance, lost appetite is sign of imbalance, constant hunger is sign of imbalance... Couldn't list them all. LOL

I'd say, in general, you can trust the books and passed knowledge on the imbalance signs... But whenever numbers are imposed on you, you better ignore them as too general and potentially entirely wrong for you... Listen to what your senses and intuition tell you at each time, they know much better.

Too much is too much, we all know that, we don't need to be told (only sometimes reminded). But how much is too much ? Only your body will tell.

@Canacan, your two previous posts are brilliant and should be banners on the Aneros Forum. They truly free the individual to be themselves, explore themselves and find harmony and balance that will push them on to the highest experiences - a 'super' life!

@isvara
Yes, you nailed it. Super Life is the thing.

@ten_s_nut pegging changed my wife too. She knew of my aneros use and didn't care, was supportive. She saw that it changed me. Later, there was a pegging thread on this forum after a while I got curious and so one night I told her what it was and asked her if she wanted to try it, to my surprise she sad sure. The next day I ordered the tools. The first time was kind of awkward, but it felt great. To make a long story short, she now asks for it. She has never asked for anything even though I encourage her to.

I can tell when she gets an itch she starts calling me Peggie and gets all lovey dovey. On the night it is planned ahe will say, go take a shower peggie and she gets all giggly.

After that, I started wearing the Peridise during regular sex and she will ask me if I have it in and sometimes she will play with it during oral.

However, I can't get near her ass. She even said, I fuck your ass, you don't fuck mine. But I will keep trying! 😉

Hope this isn't off the path.

@Canacan: Thank you, thank you. 'Nuff said!

@Armon-neat

Oh, you tried the "do nothing" big hug ?