ok im about ready to give up

What model do you have?

If you give up I might be interested in buying it from you.

Pro-

How long have you been using it? It takes months of consistent use for many people to see results.

Don't worry so much about trying to get results. That's a trap. The whole point is to enjoy yourself. So relax and think horny thoughts. The more aroused you are, the better.

Tune in to ANY new sensations. Don't expect all of it to immediately blow you away in an orgasmic overload. It takes time for these pleasurable sensations to build. Like The_Bishop said, it takes a while for most people; often months, sometimes years. The payoff is worth the investment. I haven't even had a dry orgasm yet and it's better than any traditional orgasm ever was. I can't imagine what some of these people are describing, but I know it's going to be one hell of a ride when it finally does happen. Have patience.

If you're anything like me, at first I didn't feel much of anything in my perineum area, which is the stretch of skin between your anus and the bottom of your scrotum. I started experimenting with pressing on it in various places and slowly rubbing. Make it erotic. Imagine the hot girl from your dream is doing it. The sensations can get quite intense after awhile, but they're very subtle at first. Just take your time and enjoy it.

You mentioned that you "wasted" time "trying to make it work." This isn't a race, it's a journey of exploration. Stop and savor the feelings. When you start trying to make it happen, the feelings will go away. Instead of making them happen, allow yourself to feel them.

This has all been said in ways I wish I was more eloquently able to describe. There are several posters on this forum that have given some really awesome advice. Look in the sticky threads and read any other thread topics that seem to cover what problems you're having if you haven't already done so.

I've had a taste of what's waiting out there and I hate to see someone quit. Hang in there.