NOT relaxing is what works for me!

Hi everyone, as with many testimonials here, this will also be somewhat of an introduction and plenty of backstory, the purpose of which is two-fold: 1. to be just one more post among many that might help someone somewhere with similar experiences and temperament achieve results, and 2. to lead up to a few questions of my own (which will probably end up in a different thread).

In the beginning, my earliest masturbation memories are from hanging on the poles in my basement as a toddler, reaching my knees as high as I could, moving them in and out. I would orgasm again and again there. Hard to say whether they were dry-Os or not since I didn't have any sperm at that age, but given the frequency I was able to achieve them, they probably were. Over time as I grew and it became harder to hold myself up for long periods, I gave up the practice. That's about the same time I started jerking off, I suppose. Didn't give it much thought for another twenty years or so. I have always experienced the occasional "chairgasm" throughout my entire life; I just didn't know what it actually was.

Eventually, at some point after college, I fingered myself while jerking off, and enjoyed the better-than-usual orgasm. It didn't become a regular practice, just something I'd do now and then. I didn't get any pleasure out of it except at the very moment of orgasm and ejaculation. And despite having witnessed an online conversation wherein a gay fella explained how the prostate was sexually pleasurable, it didn't occur to me to try prostate massage.

Around the same time, I also started doing kegels all the time for the sake of my sex life. Not that I needed to -- it was so easy to stay hard back then, after all -- but I could withhold my ejaculate by squeezing hard enough. In retrospect I don't see that it improved my sex life on its own at all. At the time, the information I had was that by not ejaculating, one could have multiple orgasms -- but given I could have several orgasms (ejaculations) regardless of whether I held it in, I didn't see the point. Obviously I didn't have all the information. Too bad.

Twenty years later, and I became increasingly envious of my female partners and what I perceived to be their relatively much higher sexual ecstasy when we were together. Feeling them orgasm countless times -- and for so long -- to my one or two or three brief climaxes, just felt unfair.

One night two months ago my girlfriend asked me what my ultimate sexual fantasy was, and I told her it was to come as long and hard and frequency as she does. That's when I had the idea to renew my research on male multiple orgasms, and I immediately purchased both an Aneros Helix Syn and a Lelo Loki Wave. I knew right away I would progress faster if I tried a variety of tools and approaches.

I tried once a week for about a month with barely a glimmer of pleasure, with both toys. The Helix, I would relax, lube up, insert, and do a kegels of various strength and duration. The Loki, I would find a setting and let it go. In both cases I would just try to relax and imagine what was happening up in there. But, alas, nothing. I was also doing the strongest, longest kegels in my life constantly, as my girlfriend told me that's what she did every day for a year before she started having so many orgasms so quickly.

Then one night last month, I was very determined, and let the Loki continue until its battery ran out, at which point I was removing it and -- WHOA -- something felt good. My anus. So I started fucking myself with it and finally experienced the bliss, climbing higher and higher into multiple Super-Os. I eventually put it away and used the Helix, instead, which obviously felt different, but was also very effective. I imagine nothing else I had ever put past my anus ever hinted at this effect because everything else was always of uniform width. The variable width of both devices is what awoke me to it.

Long story short, the whole "relax and let it happen" doesn't do it for me, which strikes me as a bit, well, opposite the vast majority of wisdom here. That, however, gave me all the more reason to share it. Granted, it took some re-wiring, but I now start to orgasm just seconds after insertion, as long as I'm moving it in and out to stimulate my anus. I definitely didn't feel that pleasure as I inserted and removed the toys beforehand.

Now, I expect my journey is not yet "over", in that I don't yet appear to orgasm solely from prostate stimulation, though I do come harder and longer when I pound myself up there. I wonder, though, whether there's something else in there that's sensitive that I haven't read about, because I'm pretty sure it's deeper than my prostate.

So, yes, I may appear to be one of the lucky ones who achieved fast results, but that's why I included the whole story; upon reflection I had been working up to it my entire life without knowing it. I still don't feel anything if I just reach inside and rub my prostate, so to anyone who thinks their prostate isn't sensitive enough and can't achieve results: don't measure your progress by what you can't feel, measure it by what you CAN feel.