New user, some questions

Hey all. First off thanks for all the information on here and the wiki, it's an incredibly useful resource.

So I'm a fairly new Aneros user, I have a Helix classic, and maybe 8-9 aneros sessions, though i have some prior experience in anal/prostate play.

I've been making pretty good progress (for my own needs that is) , prostate is definitely waking up and I'm excited to experience more rewiring. In my last few sessions I started experiencing strong involuntary contractions, usually starting in just the sphincter then spreading to PC muscle and even pelvic area humping/shaking and whole body shaking/moving. P-waves too and pleasurable, as long as it's not too long into the session to the point where pleasure/patience/arousal is diminishing. Often though I seem very much on the edge of orgasm (I've haven't had a dry o yet by the way) but never seem to get there. I'm trying to quiet the mind to be in tune with the body, and not expect an orgasm in the way we're traditionally used to and just take in the pleasure and I hope that it's mostly a getting my mind in the right place problem. If it is, I think I'll be able to sort it out eventually.

​But I wasn't sure if the involuntaries which can be very intense, might have put me on the wrong path. Many of the user descriptions I have read seem to describe them coming on more gradually but mine come on fairly quickly and become intense fairly quickly. I tried making it slow down and build slower which felt nice but I wasn't sure if maybe too many involuntaries is a bad thing, as in getting in the way of letting the feelings come? I would think not, but thought it worth asking.

If it is just an issue of getting the mind in the right place/getting over the edge, any other tips for that? I've seen many people mention getting into a somewhat 'trance-like' state is helpful and I'm working on that. But I was thinking if MMOs are supposed to closer to female orgasms, why don't women need to be in a 'trance' to orgasm? Or is it more that the trance would help get you there if you're new to it and once you're familiar with the process it's not as important to be in trance?

One more question: for those 'fully' rewired is it possible to orgasm from fingering the anal sphincter? I usually do that to get in the mood before inserting and I've felt on the verge of orgasm once. I've read that after rewiring you can orgasm all sorts of place but wasn't sure exactly how people go about it.