Need tips for progress and for new trident

@Tarzanhenkie Your sessions sound a lot like mine lately (and I'm 66!) I will not try to give you any formal advice here but will offer some suggestions.

Your anal "flush" may be counterproductive as it may rev-up your digestive system too much. I find that my best sessions are unplanned and can occur right after a nice bowel movement! Try it next time!

I too sometimes listen to erotic music or binaural beats before a session but NOT during! That 'quiet time' you can use for meditation, fantasy or session reaction. IMHO, the do-nothing technique works best when the body (and mind) are relaxing.

If you are watching porn and ejaculating after each session, you may be "short-circuiting" your prostate's arousal. Try to put some distance between your sessions and your ejaculations. When I first started with Aneros, I "had" to ejaculate too but I waited until about an hour or two following a session. My body (erect penis) told me that it wanted a release and so I obliged.

As "hard" as you are during a session, just ignore your penis. Find a comfortable position (maybe on your side) where you will not be putting too much pressure and stimulation on it. This may help you to focus more on your Aneros and prostate.

Good luck to you and continue to post your progress!

Thanks for the info goldenboy. I will give your suggestions a try the following times.
Also, I do agree that unplanned sessions are often better.

@goldenboy knows his stuff, take his advice! I also use a bulb enema before sessions. I find that the water makes my water-based lube even more slippery, so I guess I'm kind of "pre-lubing" my rectum and anus with the enema water (it's just body temperature water, by the way). However, this enema can get your bowels moving quite a bit. But I use such a small amount of water, and the plastic nozzle is too short to get past the sphincter that keeps your rectum and colon separate, so that water usually never gets into my colon. If I wanted it to, I could lay on the floor longer or find an enema that will get that far in me.

So, maybe just use a little bit of water, an ounce or two, just for a little flush. That's what I do and I never have accidents or discomfort during any sessions.

Do you get hard immediately upon insertion of the Aneros, or are you hard before you even begin? If you are flaccid when you start your session but get hard while the toy is in you, what does it feel like when your penis gets hard? What is the toy doing, how is it moving? What does the sensation and stimulation in your rectum and anus feel like? How are the P-waves? Are there any involuntary contractions? And, do you get hard and stay hard the whole time, or is it like a "dance" where you get hard and soft over and over at different levels of erection quality?

These questions are important because unlike you, I don't get fully hard during any sessions, and I have prostate orgasms over and over during almost every session. For unknown reasons, I just start to get hard but not fully hard. And that's usually when I start to have really strong prostate Os. But when I have the biggest prostate Os is when my penis goes from almost hard back down to very flaccid. It's during that deflation that I have a monster prostate O or a Super O.

Do you touch your body while you have Aneros in? Like your legs, chest, stomach? Or do you touch your balls and the areas around your penis but not your penis? Do you touch/pinch/play with your nipples? I touch myself all over except for my penis and it is very arousing. Sometimes just a slight brush of a finger across my scrotum will trigger an orgasm. Or a certain way I pinch and pull my nipples will trigger an O. Try to touch yourself and "get sexy" with your body during a session. There's nothing in the "rule book" for Aneros that says you CAN'T touch your BODY. There is just the feeling that touching your penis will ruin the session. Well we have a LOT of body to touch and explore then!

Do you only use one toy during a session or do you switch between toys? I find that I use no less than 3 toys in any session, and can use up to 10 toys sometimes (that's different Aneros/prostate massager toys, dildos, etc.). I don't know when I'll change a toy, I just get that "feeling" like I want to feel something different. Maybe you could stick with only one toy the whole session if you do change toys. Maybe that will work better for you. Or, maybe you need to change toys during a session. Just keep trying different things.

It took me about 10 years before I finally knew what a prostate, hands-free orgasm felt like. I realized I had had them before my awakening, but once I "knew" what they felt like and how I can make them happen, I started having lots and lots more. So just keep trying new things. Since you watch porn I'll share an anecdote that I know everyone reading will appreciate.

We are men and we have a cock. At this point in our lives, we know what it takes to make it get hard. Might be a blonde, might be high heels. It might be the thought of getting a blowjob, or a video of seeing someone get one that gets you hard. But sometimes we fall in a slump; sometimes all the porn we watch looks the same and it isn't arousing anymore. It isn't new. We like excitement. Our brains are wired to get off. Like when you finally get to try cheesecake with strawberries on it when you've only had plain cheesecake your whole life. Your brain goes "Wow, holy crap that's freaking great!!!" It's like cumming, right? Or when you go up in weight at the gym and do 2 more reps than you imagined you could do for the very first time. You say "YES!!!" And it feels like "cumming." But when you see something in porn that you've never imagined, and you for unknown reasons find it to be the most erotic thing you've ever imagined, you get hard hard hard fast fast fast, right?!?! (I know it happens to me!!) And when your jerking off to that brand new stimulus you can't wait to cum. You know just how awesome its gonna feel. And when you do cum really big you know you came from that new thing.

So when you're feeling like anal/prostate stimulation is "the same" and you don't know why all the methods and "rules" don't work for you, change it up!! Find something new to do. Change your routine. I have a routine to my sessions, I'll admit. But only the enema cleanse, everything else is totally on the table. Sometimes porn is on in the background. Sometimes my legs are up, other times bent or flat/straight. Sometimes I'll stick with one toy for 15 minutes, other times I'll switch every 5 minutes. Sometimes I touch just my legs, other times my nipples only. Whenever I try to do something new or make myself believe that I can make something different, I wind up having a much more fun time and have many more orgasms as a result.

Next time leave the porn on during your session, see what happens then. Or, watch porn and edge yourself for 5, 10, 30 minutes before you start your session. Or take your shower and then watch porn and play with your cock and then lay down for your Aneros play. Or, if you really want to push the boundaries, leave the toy in you, turn the porn on, and make yourself have a traditional orgasm with the toy still in you. Make yourself feel what your orgasmic ejaculation feels like with a toy massaging your prostate as you cum. It will let you know more about what the feeling is like when involuntary contractions are happening (when you are having a traditional orgasm with a toy in you, you WILL experience involuntary contractions, there's no question about it!).

Just keep trying new things. You might be one slight tweak away from a monumental, life changing prostate orgasm!

@techpump
first of all I want to thank you for your extensive feedback!

I also do use this bulb enema. The issue is that I have some issues with my bowel which Requires to use quite a bit of water to fully clean it. I do squirt however a littlebit of water each time. I could try to reduce this even more.

Im almost always hard during my sessions, even before inserting the toy. Just thinking about it makes me mostly already hard. I don't think i've ever been flaccid during my sessions.

I find the feelings that aneros gives me hard to describe. Because it is not similar to anything else i have experienced. When I insert the toy I can mostly feel it on my prostate. After relaxing an deep breating the p-waves will often come for a short amount of time. During this time I do not think that the toy is really moving. Sometimes when te waves are a bit more intense i think i can feel the pulsation of my blood pressure on the toy. I do however have no involuntary contractions during this time. Often when the wave deminishes I get 1-2 involuntary contractions, which kinda signals me that the p-waves are over for now.

I do touch myself somtimes, I've. mainly realized that nipple stimulation can do wonders. It can be hard however to fully relax but also move your hands to stimulate.

I mostly use different toys, but always start with the helix or eupho syn. When I have the feeling that the p-waves are gone and won't come back i switch to another toy (progasm or progasm junior). These do however not give me p-waves anymore. I also have a lelo hugo (or bruno, not sure). Although this toy is also nice it does not deliver me p-waves.

I do agree that it might be a good idea to change things up and explore different methods.

the traditional orgasm with aneros inside is something which i almost do every time at the end of my sessions. I do receive the contractions that you mentioned and this is somewhat similar to the contractions I mentioned that I receive when my p-waves diminish.

So next time ill try to switch things up. I'm also thinking to buy the mgx trident, as this one seemed to be preferred by quite some people and as i already own the normal helix and eupho syn.

thanks again 🙂