Need advice/suggestions for discreet use.

I have the peradise and tempo. I think the tempo is much better for discreet use. It is more comfortable and because of it's weight it does hang a bit in the anal cavity and the sphincter muscles get more of a workout pulling it back in. The peradise is great, but the tempo is a better choice in my opinion for your needs.

I wear my Peridise under my clothing. I can sit in a chair watching TV of an evening. The only give away that I am enjoying myself is my body trembles. Likewise sometimes I lay next to my wife with one inserted, its surprising how often P waves occur when you don't want them.

You could start a conversation about prostate health and how the prostate filters out toxins and massaging it is like changing an oil filter.You should introduce her to the Highisland web site which is the parent company,started to promote prostate health.Aneros is a result of men reporting the amazing pleasure they were experiencing using the HIH massagers.Your sessions will only get better when your wife is shopping knowing what your doing and you know she knows!!! Such a shame the med. community hasn't latched on to this.These massagers should be in the health isle at Walmart.

@Nu2AS-O I have the High Island Health Model 950, It rests very discreetly in the anal canal and IMHO gives me a good prostate massage. It is designed differently than most other massagers; give a look at their website. My wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms; that makes for some good, private sessions!

[...] tempo the best, or would something else be better?

Hi @Nu2AS-O, welcome to the forum! No exculpation necessary, these questions are what this forum was created for.

I'd, too, prefer the Tempo for your purposes. It's tiny and doesn't poke out. It's easy to insert and easy to clean, even if you haven't made all the efforts for the best and proper cleaning of your rectum before use.

If you want to try something else, I must ask you, whether you ever tried some Aless (Aneros-less) fun? Maybe, you already don't need any tool any longer? Some of us think of Aneros tools as starting handles. Perhaps if your "battery power" or orgasmic energy is low sometime you might need them again. Or perhaps to help you over a hurdle or up to another level. But in the meantime you could try to start over without your starting handle! If it not yet happened, perhaps edging can help you to start your first Aless.

I just found an awesome (surely NSFW!!!) video for edging and I once more did nothing but watching and fully empathizing with the actors (of both genders) and starting into a blissful hour and a quarter of Aless with some wonderful dryOs and a lot of precum wetting my underwear.

On the other hand, if it really

(isn’t the end of the world, if need be)

to come clean with your wife, that might be the beginning of an awesome new sex life you never thought possible. Especially vocalization of my orgasms was a breakthrough for me, sharing it with a partner I believe would be the ultimate experience - although myself still ducking out.

Best vibes and good luck to you and, whatever way you'll choose, keep us posted!

I just found an awesome (surely NSFW!!!) video for edging and I once more did nothing but watching and fully empathizing with the actors (of both genders) and starting into a blissful hour and a quarter of Aless with some wonderful dryOs and a lot of precum wetting my underwear.

Amazing video @SOwithoutAneros ! Sensual to the max! Great find!

For discreet use, I would also recommend Peridise as it weighs zero. Tempo is too heavy and you risk it falling out. However, as @goldenboy I am most comfortable with HIH 950 as it has a P tap which makes it not disappear in the rectum. But why be discreet? I totally agree with @evergreen. Long ago I told my wife about using Aneros. It's very exciting to know that she knows about it. I often lie beside her in bed with my Aneros inserted while she watching. She knows that I often use it alone. That’s very exciting and makes my session even better.

Wow, thank you all for the input. I am definitely checking out the devices that were recommended. @amaz@evergreen I fully intend to get the wife on board sooner than later, the HIH site looks like it provides a great starting point. I’m not sure how much she would be directly involved, other than allocating more time for sessions, at first. I use my sessions as ME time. From the first time I started following this forum, the phrase that continues to appear is “no expectations”, so from day 1 I went into this journey with that in mind. It seems as though we get sucked into this fast pace of life, I decided that my sessions were just hour+ relaxation periods. Fortunately, I have been able to achieve multiple dry O’s as a bonus! @SOwithoutAneros I have been doing Kegel exercises for some time now. However, my focus was only on keeping the PC’s tone and healthy. Only after reading the thread “Kegels do work” did I start concentrating on breathing and how each contraction “felt”. I seem to be getting slight “chills”, which make the workday a little more enjoyable!

It seems as though we get sucked into this fast pace of life, I decided that my sessions were just hour+ relaxation periods. Fortunately, I have been able to achieve multiple dry O’s as a bonus! [USER="56283"]

Hi @Nu2AS-O, if I may add another advice, please don't forget to give your mind and your body a rest.

You shouldn't either go to a gym every day, right? Your brain, your nerves and your muscles each need their refractory period.

Sit out a dance! And you will see, with no effort you could have made it further and the best is yet to come!

I tend to agree with @SOwithoutAneros . I find that some of my best sessions are after I have been starved for a few days, after allowing a resting period. And this is especially true when I don't think I'm going to be able to have a session due to schedules, but then the seas part. For example, my wife offers to take the kids to soccer practice, and just like that, I have a full 2 hours to myself that I wasn't expecting. These "surprise" sessions, for me, have been far more intense than the ones I plan. Has anyone had a similar experience? I agree with you @Nu2AS-O the fast pace of life certainly gets in the way, but it really makes me treasure the hour+ periods that I am able to find, especially when they come to me unexpected!