My journey-gctid9948

I felt I had to post something here since I found so much useful information on this forum that has helped my journey. Hopefully someone gleams something useful from this as I have from so many of you. Most of this can be found in lots of places on the forum so if you are new read, read and read some more.

I am a 45 year old hetero married male. From a young age I have been curious about anal play and experimented some while going thru puberty when everything got me going. I experimented with fingers, brushes and such but nothing ever really felt good. Over the years I would try again here and there but never got anywhere that felt good. I chalked it up to just not being for me and had fun with the other areas of my sex life.

I can't remember how or why I came across the Aneros site but when I did I remember reading about their devices with not a small bit of scepticism. I would run across it again, here and there and curiosity eventually got the better of me and after trying a few off brand cheaper versions which didn't do much, I purchased a Helix Syn. As far as that choice, well, it was what was available locally as I did not want to wait for shipping and was mentioned as being good for beginners.

First time using it all I could think about was, "There is something in my butt!". It wasn't painful but it wasn't comfortable either. This was before I read about pre lubing so I was using just a water based lube applied to the Helix. By the second session I felt a very weak Pwave which was nothing to write home about. I was not able to reproduce it, probably because I was trying way too hard. After some marathon reading of the Wiki, forums, Brian Mayfield's excellent primer, and the sub Reddit I learned a lot more. I figured out quite a few things I was doing wrong. My pc muscles were not developed enough for the subtle movements, I was not doing the deep breathing and I did not know how to relax.

Here is how I got to my first orgasm.

Pre Aneros session
It definitely helps things along to be aroused prior to insertion. I lay on my back with my legs bent and feet on the bed. Deep slow breathing into the lower abdomen thru the nose and exhale slowly thru the mouth. I had originally used a count of 8 seconds inhale, 4 seconds hold, 8 seconds exhale but have since stopped counting as the process is more automatic now and the counting was distracting but necessary early on to learn as I had never done controlled breathing before. A slight (10%) contraction of the PC muscles starts anal twitches which are felt in the prostate as well. I usually watch porn. Particularly lesbian porn. That seems to get things going for me. Some people use music, erotica, fantasizing, or just concentrating on the sensations. This is a matter of personal preference. Whatever gets you going. Experiment and see what works for you.

Lube
Since the Helix Syn is silicone based I could not use silicone lube. What wound up working best for me was pre lubing with a small medicine dropper. I use KY Liquid, about 4 or 5 ccs. I then coat the Helix generously with Vaseline and top that off with KY Jelly. Insertion of both the dropper and Helix is most comfortable lying on my side with one leg slightly bent and the other drawn up toward my chest with my body and legs relaxed. Taking things slow is important so as not to irritate the area. Also I read bearing down slightly opens the rectum making it easier to get past the anal entry muscles and that seems to hold true as well.

Aneros session
Once aroused and ready to proceed. I put one towel down to cover the bed and another folded up under my butt to raise it so the curled handle does not come into contact with the bed. I then lie still and relax which, for me, is easier said than done. It sounds simple but it took me quite awhile to allow my brain and thoughts to throttle down and my muscles to do the same. This takes 10 or so minutes. Once I am relaxed I employ the do nothing method. I found early on that I was contracting too hard and basically beating my poor prostate to a pulp. Soreness and frustration ensued. I now take thing much slower and more subtly. Also I can't emphasize enough the importance of just being along for the ride rather than trying to force things. Hard to do particularly in the beginning but practice, reading and learning help. No session was wasted. Some were less than others but all were helpful. Porn usually gets things going. In the beginning (about 3 months ago) most of what I got was Pwaves and anal twitching which felt curious but not necessarily good. Just sensations. A sense of things happening kind of like rubbing your elbow. A awareness of touch and motion but not anything special.

Nipples
My wife is the one who turned me on to nipple play years ago. She randomly began sucking my nipples during foreplay and it felt fantastic! She uses this to full advantage now when we have sex. Sometimes when we are too tired for sex she will suck my nipples while I masturbate and it always feels amazing, especially when coming. So I knew that nipples ties into the pelvic area and nipple play is an integral part of my routine now. I usually wait until things are buzzing then start very very lightly stroking them sometimes running circles around the nipple with my finger. This definitely seems to charge up the sensations quite a bit. They get more sensitive as I go so long as I don't use too much pressure which will desensitize them for a bit. My right one is more sensitive than my left one for some reason but both feel amazing.

So last night things moved to a new level. Not necessarily a super O as described here on the forums but a pretty damn good handsfree O on my journey. From reading it can best be described as the calm seas orgasm. I had been teasing myself during the day when sitting with deep breathes and pc contractions so was pretty primed before bed. I took a good long hot shower right before bed and lubed up, inserted the Helix and lay down. I just lay still for awhile breathing normally and just letting my mind and body wind down. About 20 minutes in I pulled up some porn and began watching while deepening my breathing and the anal twitches were off and running. I had noticed in previous sessions that after awhile I would start feeling a tightening in my groin area and at the base of my penis. Sometimes this was accompanied by a drop of precum but never more than that. My penis also remained soft though I could feel and see it pulsing at times. Just moving in and out to the rhythms of the anal twitches. This happened last night after about an hour but kept going when it usually fades away. I made myself relax into it and the feeling increased. It was strange. There was the tightening but in a relaxed way, if that makes sense. The tightening was not coming from my manual pc contractions but seemed to be a reaction to the movements of the Helix. The sensations went way past where it normally fades and my vision and hearing became softer. It was as if I was looking through a fog and hearing through cotton. The sensations started in my prostate and ran up my penis. Eventually everything went still and started to vibrate. My penis pulsed as if I was having a traditional orgasm but I did not ejaculate. I did leak 10 or so drops of precum, far more than ever before. This felt amazing and went on for a few minutes or so. It was the first time I was consumed with deep pleasurable sensations and was just along for the ride. After I just lay there with my body buzzing with good feelings and happy that I had gotten somewhere I had not been before. I did not see colors or have an out of body experience or the body jerking that others have described. But that is fine with me whether it happens later or not at all. I went on for another hour or so and was able to have 3 more orgasms of lesser intensity though they felt great as well.

I can say the journey has been interesting. I have experienced many sensations along the way. Aless orgasms, chair orgasms, orgasms out the blue, all of varying intensities. Some sessions are fantastic where others are flat but even the less than stellar ones teach me when my body is not ready.

I have been able to reproduce the feelings of the first orgasm several times more in sessions. I feel like there is more out there but am not in a hurry. I definitely learned not to rush things and not to stress if a session does not go as planned or if circumstances don't allow for one. All in good time.

So read up, experiment, relax and enjoy YOUR journey. Thanks for reading!