My Aneros sessions and how it effects my wife

Thank you Brian for sharing your story. I am really touched. Even though I don't know you, I hoped you would have a experience like this. Great descriptions.

Absolutely wonderful! I'm thrilled for you and your wife! As you've noticed, the sensitivity of your body extends way beyond your Prostate! Again, you are very fortunate indeed to have reached such milestones so quickly! I wish you all the best with your adventure!

TG

@Brian21030
Wonderful, wonderful post. Your story definitely reinforces and reflects the importance of one's Wife or GF actively and lovingly participating in sessions. This topic has been discussed at length and ad nauseum on the chat. Continued successes on your path.

Thanks @Pspotsquirter... it really is wonderful

This is the perfect timing for me to read this. I brought up this very subject with my wife last week. We're pretty open and honest with each other, but I was still a little nervous asking her opinion. She's fully supportive, and maybe even a little excited about the idea. So my Helix Syn arrived yesterday, and we'll be starting my journey together this weekend. Thanks so much for sharing!

@Brian21030 thanks for being one of the men who give a PERFECT example of how to include your wife. I think your example will impress upon men that they should open up about this subject. I understand the sheepish feelings but I applaud you for not allowing those feelings to get in the way of your open communication with your wife. After all if one takes vows with a person, gets naked, and does all types of intimate stuff...yet cant talk to that person about sexual topics...there is a problem.

I love that you talk about a balanced blend. That is one of the things that I try to impress upon men here. I also know for most women that is the way a man can prevent from alienating his spouse. It is also a way to allow her to look into the window of your eroticism. I'm sure if you were able to probe her head she finds you to be the most erotic and arousing person or thing that exists, so to visually see, and even energetically feel your pleasure is often way more than enough. As women usually need the mental orgasm pump primed before the physical one...I'm happy to see that you have grasped this concept.

You are more than right about having tough skin and asking for what you want, that is a key learning process. As people grow what they like often grows or morphs as well, if you dont guide your partner how else will they know explicitly what you like/want/need and vice versa? For most loving relationships though...I usually find partners will go above and beyond to at least try to please their partner...honestly when people give a flat no without trying that action in itself says a lot.

With all this being said I feel the Women Too page of the wiki should be destroyed and replaced by the bulk of the original post, it was just that brilliant, and I think it will resonate with a LOT more men in actually helping them get their partners involved instead of the opposite. You may be new here but you are one of the very few that I have thoroughly enjoyed ALL of your posts. I can tell you are one of the voices that people will seek out here for advice. Please continue to keep us updated.

@Archimedes congrats, I'd love for you to create your own thread (only if you chose to of course) and let us know how everything goes. Good luck and welcome!

@Archimedes - Your welcome. Get ready for some unbelievable things in you and in your relationship with your wife... it has been very exciting for me as I'm sure it will be for you :>

@devajones - thanks for your kind words... Glad you enjoy my posts, I hope they add value to your relational plate :>

wife likes seeing my progasm working my prostate, sometimes teases my cock other times gets agressive and changes out my progasm with a nice thick dildo

wife likes seeing my progasm working my prostate, sometimes teases my cock other times gets agressive and changes out my progasm with a nice thick dildo@muscleman65 - Nothing like having an arsenal of choices to spice things up!

A woman watching you orgasm for more than 2 minutes has to be the most erotic thing a woman can experience with a man. When they are the one causing it, via toys, is even a whole level above that. You will feel connected like nothing else can provide. They have a feeling of power and control tthat is empowering and you have no problem submitting to it

@Mostinteresting1 - Man you've got that right! It brings a whole new dynamic to the bedroom... car... office chair...

I tried out my Helix Syn with my wife the other night. The problem was, we were both so turned on. She couldn't keep her hands off my cock, and I honestly didn't want her to. I guess I'll have to work on some alone sessions to be able to leave it in there for any length of time without penis stimulation.

Once she learns how to give you a 30 min orgasm, that will change for both of you! Of course, after rewiring, my GF can cause me to dry orgasm just my pinching and rubbing my nipples, she just loves that new found power over me

We laughed about it afterwards, but promised to try to leave the cock out of the picture longer next time. Regardless, it was a great expression of trust and vulnerability. It opened us up to an even deeper and more open level of communication (and we were pretty open and honest before). That, in itself, is pretty hot. And sex with the Aneros in place? Mind-blowing traditional penile orgasm. So it's gonna be a great journey, no matter what.

@devajones - I took your advice and decided to start a blog to track both my solo and couple sessions as we start the journey.

@Mostinteresting1 - Nipples are SUCH a trigger now... soft touch = soft P-wave hard touch= Dry O!

@Archimedes - I like my Aneros session by myself... so I've had good, "No penis touching" training... that said, Sex with Aneros can be as you said, mind blowing... so just give yourself some time to 'learn' about your body and give yourself time to rewire as you go... Incredible ain't it? :-c

There is not anything better than watching him experience pleasure. I absolutely love watching his body as it changes in the course of pleasure, orgasm, and satisfaction. I don't mind being a bit of a "voyeur " and soaking it all in. Nipples? Oh my. Teasing and watching one enjoy that type of pleasure is exquisite. Offering Aneros as a form of stimulation is an all around plus, however - I love hearing. It's one of those senses that I enjoy. The sounds of love making. 🙂

Ok, so for the past few hours (It is around 4:45 a.m. here now) I've been awake/asleep experiencing sublime envelopment of ecstasy that has come in waves of pleasure... I've heard of calm seas this started as 'calm seas' and evolved into falling into myself as I lay in bed next to my wife in the early hours of the morning.

I suppose in Aneros parlance you would call it an A-less experience, in my newbiew way, I'd call it a dry/wet dream when awake and yet not fully conscious.

Thought 1. Being relaxed and unexpectent was there. I was asleep! I awoke because of a bit of sour stomach from a hamburger the night before, but interwoven in my awareness were p-waves coming and going.

Thought 2. My wife is right next to me... I don't want to disturb her... The build up had begun and would crest at the top of my deep breath... so there was a LOT of sighing. but I somehow managed to keep the verbal noise to almost nothing... sorry @nurselady ;-).

Thought 3. I've had something much closer to a 'real' dry orgasm than ever before.. my abs and body softly contracting and writhing together to summon and 'push' out of my penis the invisible ejaculate... over and over.

Thought 4. My wife. This is all about me and she is not sharing in the experience. Note: I have a long standing invite to wake her up at any time and 'surprise' her with delight... so I got naked and began to spoon with her already exposed and naked butt... oh my goodness. The sharing began! I didn't wake her up (note: she can sleep through penetration sometimes!) but her breathing sounded like it was coming into sync with mine and as the waves swept over me, I imagined them rolling over her too.

Thoguht 5. Does anybody know about the possible release of oxytocin (dubbed the cuddle nuerotransmitter) during a prostate orgasm? Because I'll tell you what during the few moments we were together, I feel more in love with her that ever before... Her gentle breathing, soft lines of her body, the waves of pleasure softly rolling over and over and over... How lucky am I????

Thought 6. There are as many connections between Aneros and sharing with my wife as there are unique experiences with Aneros!

Thanks Aneros

Thought 4
Wake her up gently with a little soft petting and then ask her to start teasing you, she will be SO GLAD you woke her up, I promise! The sharing hasn't even started yet! 🙂

Thought 5
Once you are in the middle of it and had a few O's, you just want to touch the world! But again, it is once she starts sharing your experiences, you will just not believe how many levels above you will be than now...

@mostinteresting1 - I can't wait!!!!Thanks for the encouragement

@Brian21030 It is all about the SHARING! The togetherness and intimacy that couples can share in their experiences is precious. If she tells you to wake her up- do it! Lol. And hearing... It was part of your experience too.

I think you will really love your wife even more once she starts exercising her new found power over you!

@nurselady - I'm waiting for the next time I wake up at 4a.m. so I can share with my love 😡

Pre-rewired, I'd tell her I'm going to go relax in bed for awhile. That was our code phrase for Aneros time. She'd give me 30 minutes to warm up, then come attack me. My only instructions were no penis play for 30 minutes and touch me like she likes to be touched. It did not take long before no matter where she touched caused me to orgasm! Now I don't even need one inserted to experience the same affect! Good times!

@Mostinteresting1 - I'm still very private about my Aneros time... but when she touches me after a session... look out! So, we could be getting closer to your time frame... The blending of eroticism and good sex is found for me in that touch she gives me or I give her after a session... I'm so sensitive and open/available that it just sends me... and draws me to her.

So I'll keep you posted, but for now the blending is happening after use, not during... although now that I think about it, I've had sex with the aneros inserted, but it wasn't like a 'session', it was more for that full feeling I get when one is inserted...

"My only instructions were no penis play for 30 minutes and touch me like she likes to be touched."


This sounds like good advice for when that time comes 😉

This thread has become very interesting. What @MostInteresting1 said about male orgasms and its relation to female power is right on target bravo my friend! I'm like @nurselady in that I love being a voyeur as well. @Archimedes I had the same problem as your wife...hard to leave that beautiful cock alone...but its all in fun. Keep experimenting and sharing and soon she'll get the hang of it as will you. There are no failures only great experiences. Glad to hear about your blog I'll check it out.

@Brian21030 just a suggestion. I'm not sure whats in your head when you think of a session with her...nor other guys for that matter. I'm thinking (correct me if I'm wrong) that you guys think you have to do something. In my case thats not it. He does nothing...its all about him. I massage him, arouse him, lube him, insert the device of his choice, stimulate him however he likes...during inaugural sessions I needed more guidance. Now he guides me very little, whether its nipple stim, kissing, tugging his balls, caressing is body etc... Just watching and listening to (the hearing is really the best) him in bliss is enough. I dont want him to think of anything else but what he is feeling, not me, what i'm getting out of it, am i being stimulated, am i going to get off, any of that stuff that I find men worry about. I can have my time later...and often times the act of helping him get off is all I need its much more erotic than all other forms of entertainment I can think of. Just the act of him letting me into something that can be thought of as very personal and even spiritual says a lot. I mean even you describe it as private, so the act of him sharing something private with me shows me how special and important I must be, it solidifies my place and role in his life. Think of your deepest darkest secrets...who else knows them besides you? (I'm willing to bet my life on your wife is the answer).

Now as far as the satisfying her piece of the puzzle. I look at it like this...thats the beauty of prostate play...if you want to get her off you have all the time in the world once the session is over...and usually no foreplay is needed as I'm so riled up after watching and listening to him I just want to be NAILED.

Disclaimer: @Brian21030 my comment above is not meant to rush you into action. It is simply to provoke thought. As I've said before you are one of the most forward thinkers here. I applaud your flexibility, curiosity, intelligence, openness, and loving spirit. There are only a handful of people who get compliments from me...I dole them out very sparingly, however you are more than deserving of them.

Let us know how it goes!!! I'm happy for you guys!!!

@devajones, your " just a suggestion" above is totally new ground breaking for me. I sort of had this idea in a secret corner of my mind, well hidden and just nudged from time to time in fantasies. Not sure if I can get it out of the closet.

@isvara ahhh I see. This is enlightening, as many times I have read on this very forum (and I know a lot of it is due to that Women Too page on the wiki that suggests all this "alone" time...without any thought of how a woman would feel about that, but thats a whole other rant in itself) how men keep saying they "cant" have a session with their spouse. I have never really suggested it the way I have above allowing the guy to totally enjoy his session but the woman becomes the center of his arousal, not subtracting from his sensations but adding to. I often find that men (at least those that I have asked) find a live woman in real time most arousing especially if she is the woman he is in a sexual relationship with or desires her sexually, so if she heightens your arousal the scientist in me says that may indeed heighten your results. I plan to do a blog post on partnered sessions maybe even a thread, although I have to think twice about that, and my theory behind it.

I believe you can ease it out of that secret part of your mind to the forefront if you wish to, what you focus on can very well become your reality.

@deva is spot on. Pleasing me is the greatest thrill for her! I just lay back and enjoy. It can last over and hour sometimes! We take turns pleasing each other, so there is always payback

The experience deepens... Last night, my wife and I enjoyed a time of love making which included my use of Aneros. Here is the way it happened.

Background: I have struggled with ED for the past 3 years and have not been able to successfully complete intercourse. I have started injecting into my penis to achieve an erection that will allow me to have intercourse. This was the second and most successful time of using the injectable medication.


So I get home from work and injected before my wife gets home, so I'm at the ready when she is... sort of like taking Cialis (tadalafil). We eventually get into things and the fun begins... kissings, touching, oral and masturbation moved into tentative but very successful intercourse, which lead to multiple positions, which lead to exhaustion and lots of dry Os but no ejaculation, which is so common for me now, it was fine with both of us.


As I laid there I wondered what it would be to insert my Helix, so I did and back at it we went, only this time with an Aneros state of mind. I was sensitive all over, vocal in that deep guttural kind of way... my touching of her was gentle and mirrored what I'd like (Aneros style, not old school straight to my penis style). The combo was over the top. The more vocal I was, the more turned on she got and the more my body responded in an aneros kind of way! It was very much about sharing the experience, even to the point of my TO which I did by masturbating was a shared experience (as she watched and got excited by the view ;-). It takes longer, much longer now as I can go for hours with MMOs (which we joke about now as our roles have become more in sync with each other or are in some ways reversed and she asks about the possibility of a quickie... LOL)


My observations:


Aneros and mutual sex can go together quiet well for me.


Aneros has changed my life and my outlook/attitudes and behavior. While cargasms and a-less sessions are fun and becoming more common place, my body's sensitivity is prompting my actions and attitudes in different directions than ever before: I'm more sensitive to everything. My body, my love for my wife, my emotional intelligence is on the rise along with my awareness of my wife's needs. I'm more free to ask for what I want/need and so is she! We are freer now in what we do. (I'd would have died of embarrassment at the thought of being seen lubing up and inserting anything up my butt a year ago! Now, it adds to the excitement)


The blending of an Aneros state of mind and mutual sexual expression like it happened last night, has become a goal of mine. My reference to 'an Aneros state of mind or kind of way' is making reference to how my body responds when I'm doing a session with my aneros inserted or how my body responds to a-less sessions.


I'm hoping you guys who are wondering how your Aneros use can possibly help out your sex life will add your comments, fears, hopes and experiences. Your sharing has made a HUGE difference to me 🙂