I've made great progress with my aneros and loving every minute of it. However there are still somethings I'm confused about.
first question: what does an involuntary contradiction feel like?
second question: I feel like I've found pleasure on my prostate but I'm still doubting what I'm experiencing as actual prostate pleasure but rather just pleasure from being aroused. Is there specific things i should be looking for in terms of feeling?
third question: awakening the prostate, I've heard a lot about this on the forums. How do i know when I've reached that?
fourth question: buzzing, I have heard a lot about this as well and i don't believe I've experienced this yet is there maybe a more defined explanation of how this may feel and maybe I'm missing it?
Thanks in advanced for helping, I'm a logical person with my thought process and sometimes it seems prostate play and pseudoscience blur together in many ways for a lot of people. Not that i don't believe in such things, as I do, but I prefer logical definition's of things such as physical sensations. Once I've discovered a well defined explanation I can usually guide myself better towards a new beginning. Thanks again everyone!
Sounds like you are progressing on your journey! Each story is
different. Involuntary contractions occur when the anal canal or prostate is sufficiently aroused to begin movement on its own thereby generating more waves of pleasure and eventually dry Os. The "buzzing" I have experienced is a feeling like mini vibrations or tingling of the prostate and perenium area. Nipple play seems to generate those feelings for me. Your prostate will enlarge as it becomes aroused - you will be able to feel
it as you touch the area between your anus and scrotum - as
you gently push in this area you will feel as small hard spot.
@qwer1234 sometimes you can help the involuntaries along by holding a pelvic floor contraction (a Kegle) at half or 1/4 strength for several minutes...
Its like when when you pick up a weighty object and hold it straight out from your body at arms length... after a few minutes your arm muscles begin to tremble from fatigue.
on the flip side they can seemingly start automatically.
I don't know that helping them along is good or bad... if my body is not "in the mood" no amount of induced involuntaries seem to help me... but it does seem to help your body "understand" what they are and how they can feel. Also as I mentioned holding the contraction is a form of Kegle exercise I suppose - which seem to be beneficial.
first question: what does an involuntary contradiction feel like?
You're probably going to think this is a cop-out answer. IMHO an involuntary contraction feels just like a voluntary contraction only it is initiated at a subconscious level rather than as a conscious, willful action. The physical sensations, for me, are the same but the associative emotional aspects are quite different due to the decreased participation of my ego consciousness.
second question: I feel like I've found pleasure on my prostate but I'm still doubting what I'm experiencing as actual prostate pleasure but rather just pleasure from being aroused. Is there specific things i should be looking for in terms of feeling?
That's great you are getting pleasurable results, but you doubts may be arising because you are over analyzing and perhaps setting yourself up for disappointment if you start to expect "...specific things...". It may have become a cliché but the saying "everyone is different so every reaction will be different" is still applicable. IMHO. NO, you shouldn't be looking for "...specific things...", rather just be open to experiencing all feelings your body generates and be thankful for whatever you do experience.
third question: awakening the prostate, I've heard a lot about this on the forums. How do i know when I've reached that?
That's a difficult one to answer and I don't know that there is a consensus explanation of what constitutes an 'awakened' prostate. I think it may hinge on one's conscious experiential awareness of that little gland as a source of pleasure.
fourth question: buzzing, I have heard a lot about this as well and i don't believe I've experienced this yet is there maybe a more defined explanation of how this may feel and maybe I'm missing it?
Again individual reactions to Aneros use vary tremendously, you may or may not ever experience the 'butt buzz', it's impossible to predict who will or will not experience these sensations, nor is there any technique I've read about which purports to induce those sensations, it seems it just happens for some men and not for others. IMHO, you are probably NOT missing it, more likely it is just not in your body's nature to produce them, however, even this may change in time as your practice evolves.
I'm a logical person with my thought process and sometimes it seems prostate play and pseudoscience blur together in many ways for a lot of people.... I prefer logical definition's of things such as physical sensations.
While definitions often help our understanding and ability to communicate there are experiences and sensations which are ineffable and inscrutable. There are a number of paradoxical experiences one encounters on the Aneros journey which simply do not lend themselves to rational, logical thought processes. Why do some people prefer strawberry to vanilla ice cream? Can you define the physical sensation of eating chocolate pudding? There's often no discernible, logical reasoning behind some of our actions or reactions to the environments we live in. Many of our choices are being made for us at subconscious levels of understanding which are not always logical or rational as emotions can greatly influence the decision making process.
Even if you were able to define some of these physical sensations. how would you account for the myriad of anomalous associative sensations which are also characteristics of any Anerosession? All you may end up with is finding yourself caught in an endless Mobious strip thought loop.
I hope you don't fall into the trap of trying to analyze your experience in the midst of an Anerosession, such mind noise only dilutes the pleasure you might otherwise experience. After your session you can reflect upon what you experienced and make your own definitions for and about it, it is totally your intimate little world, make of it what you will. Good Vibes to You !
It does seem to me that I start to feel a build, where i know something is waiting for me on the other side but often times i think "oh boy here it comes" and i lose it. Letting go and letting my body do as it needs is somewhat against my nature. I always like to be in control. I have more growing to do in order to reach this new beginning. This has been eye opening for me thank you. Also I'd like to mention after my session last night I do in fact feel the buzzing. Its small and subtle but in fact there. Actually last night I felt that through out my whole body at one point and i could feel it reaching a point. Again my ego got in the way. Maybe my next bit of advice would where to start on letting go and letting my body do its thing.
So an update i suppose, i feel like everytime I have a session its different, but again this time it was different (spoiler lol). Anyways its started off with my normal routine with a few changes. I tried something new, first off a longer period of arousal, more light masturbation, and kegel holds, like suggested. I spent maybe an hour preparing before hand which is different for me, im a very laid back guy and can quickly relax myself when i need to so for the most part finding a rhythm for me was pretty easy. But i wanted to try something new. I was exhausted from work so while i was laying in bed I was drifting in and out of sleep. Well the kegels started something new, a spasm that i felt on my prostate. This time i felt a tingling build all around my body, similar to when your leg falls asleep and you start to move but with no pain, it built and sent these waves of relief through my body, stop, then build again. It got to a point where it was a little overwhelming and i couldn't keep my head still or my body i wanted to wiggle and move. This went on until i had to get up to use the bathroom, after that point i fell asleep.
Up to this point I don't believe I have ever felt anything. Perhaps before was simply a response imagined in my head. Through all of my time put into this, a little over a year, I've never felt something like this from it. It was uncontrollable and I was unable to stop it like i could with other feelings I had from my other sessions. I have yet to recreate this and I am working out how to get there again.
@Qwerty1234 I've also felt the tingling all over my body. I remember it feels great - soothing.. I remember it slowly faded in (woke me from sleep actually)... lasted for "a while". If I moved it would lessen and rebuild to its previous "level" at the end it slowly faded away. it happened to me once and then never again - it was early in my journey and some thing unforgettable!
Glad you got to experience it!
@Qwerty1234, I have some thoughts on your most recent statements.
I was exhausted from work so while i was laying in bed I was drifting in and out of sleep.
IMHO, being "...exhausted...". either physically, mentally or both is far from an optimal state of being for an Anerosession. While a hypnagogic state is well suited to the 'letting go' relaxation process, being exhausted means you may not have sufficient energy to reach orgasmic levels despite your desire to do so.
It got to a point where it was a little overwhelming and i couldn't keep my head still or my body i wanted to wiggle and move.
This is a telling statement about your need/desire for control, an aspect of your ego which may be throwing roadblocks in your way.
Up to this point I don't believe I have ever felt anything. Perhaps before was simply a response imagined in my head.
I am quite sure you have felt many things (good things) or you wouldn't have put this much time and effort into the journey. It is the 'imaginings' of your sub-conscious which have been empowering you thus far, please do not discount the importance of them in building orgasmic states.
Through all of my time put into this, a little over a year, I've never felt something like this from it. It was uncontrollable and I was unable to stop it like i could with other feelings I had from my other sessions. I have yet to recreate this and I am working out how to get there again.
Another telling statement "...I was unable to stop it like i could with other feelings..." about the issue of control. It seems you may be suffering from a mild form of cognitive dissonance between the understanding of the need to "Just Let Go !" and the ego's illusory sense of control over bodily functioning. Why do you even feel a need to "...stop..." your feelings ???
The Aneros journey often allows men to examine aspects of their own personality unrelated to the sexual/sensual nature of the practice itself. IMHO, this is really an excellent, under reported facet of the experience. This self examination can empower you to betterment, if you so choose and it can improve your Anerosession enjoyment too !
Good Vibes to You !
Well i took everyones advice and decided that doing things my way and not worrying about what certain feelings are and I did it and had my first dry orgasm. Felt similar to a traditional orgasm but on my prostate followed by far more intense waves of pleasure. Truly something incredible, the spasms on my prostate kept bringing waves of pleasure. Glad i finally found a method that works for me, next step on this train is super o town.
@Qwerty1234 Awesome!
I have to say thanks for everyone's advice, I've discovered an amazing world of pleasure recently and things keep getting better and better! Last night was even better then the night before and im sure tonight will be even better still. Finally found what i was looking for.