Mind / body control and breathing are essential to acheive MMO. It is a process that has taken me years to master and I am not all the way there yet. However, each session I have reveals a little more of the process and the experience to me. I have been at this for 7 years intensively and 17 semi seriously. To newbies the path seems daunting but it really isnt. I have learned that the key for me is enjoying the ride.
As a guide for those of us who are grappling with the issues of breathing, mind body control and mmo my latest blog entry may be a help:
http://linghamanslog.wordpress.com/2012/09/11/finessing-orgasm/
Nice blog post bigguy! That's truly amazing what you are experiencing. And you are really good at the writing to describe the experiences so vividly. I hope that someday I will achieve what you are experiencing.