Men who don’t use porn — how do you get and stay aroused

Posted by: @sowithoutaneros

Posted by: @techpump

When I watch a girl masturbate (my favorite kind of porn) I think, while I'm jerking off, "it would be so cool to be with her!" When I'm with just my toys I think, "it is so cool to have these toys and use them for myself!" Its all self-focus without porn on, that's how I see it.

When I watch a girl masturbate (my favorite kind of porn), I'm NOT jerking off, instead I empathize with her and thus I begin to feel what I guess she might feel. Fully clothed and without any physical stimulation I indulge in what I see. The better the girl can let go and give in to her pleasure, the more naturally she performs, the better it works for me. Mostly I then will have my own dry orgasm along with her orgasming and if it‘s safe I‘ll perhaps even moan along with her. The artful videos by Petter Hegre are some of my favorites for this very special kind of viewing porn I only achieved since re-wiring.

That‘s not meant as a call to use porn. To start arousal I don‘t need any porn. I just close my eyes and focus on my gland and my p-waves start over. Or I do anything in a slow sexual way, like gathering some saliva, then wetting and licking my lips in slow motion and focusing on every micro-sensation as if I were exploring my own mouth the first time like it wouldn‘t be mine but a fully new terrain. My mind cinema provides the best porn, now I‘ll take a banana and give that thing a memorable blow job, while this will stimulate my palate and tongue and lips and give me a lot of p-waves and dry orgasms. Enjoy! And you‘ll never eat a banana in the public again. 😉 

Good vibes! Mart

lol!

Guys thanks for appreciating my post! I love what everyone's been saying here, its so nice to hear.

Posted by: @divine_o

@canonprf

method purists? Maybe. But I have doubts about that. I think that is what works for us. Well before aneros, I discovered that having my balls rubbed and my neck and chest sucked by a partner brought on intensely beautiful sensations that would last for anywhere from 10-30 minutes. After a while the sensations would die down. Oh and there was one other things that would kill the sensations: touching my penis! I had to instruct new partners to do this to me without touching my penis. (I still enjoy this, though now it brings me rolling orgasms, thanks to orgasmic skills learned here. And it is always at the beginning of a session with a partner because afterwards the penis is involved.) That’s an example of convergent evolution: I came across a version of “penis-not” on my own, through my experiences. 

So again, I think if people abstain from touching their penis for part or all of their sessions, it is because they have found through trial and error that that works for them, and not blindly through dogmatic beliefs. Just like you have found what works for you. And I think everyone should try everything, because you don’t know if t works until you try it (over and over again in life, because we all change).

 

 

Indeed yes, I’m totally onboard with “find what works”. My objective was to say “follow suggestions but don’t be constrained by rules”. If a strict ‘hands-off’ rule isn’t working, don’t be afraid to experiment. For me, a little stroking goes a long way in firing up arousal. But I must emphasize that once the Aneros begins ‘working’ I agree that cock teasing interferes with prostate teasing. Sometimes I have to sit on my hands 🙂

And then afterwards, or when I’m out of time or just need to get to sleep for God’s sake .. well gee, thats a different ballgame. Masturbating with the Aneros in place rocks me, so I do that. And if I had a willing partner I’m sure I’d be gleefully fucking her with it in me too. 

@canonprf I wrote a post yesterday on what works for me very reliably

https://community.aneros.com/community/general-discussion/super-o-cascade-how-i-do-it-reliably

@flesh_joe — I saw your detailed and expressive post, and I learned from that, Joe. Very well expressed. 

Almost every man uses porn sites.

@toyboyy whether or not this is true, the point here is how to get aroused without porn. Many, like myself, find porn incompatible with prostate play.