Memories of sessions?

Posted by: @darwin

All i remember is vague stuff like "that was a great session" and maybe one or two salient details (from an 1.5 hour session).

This is my general experience. Frequently just a few moments stand out in my mind of the prior evening fun.

The same holds true more and more frequently when I have sex, which often involves, sensory play, prostate toys and non genital orgasms (the vast definition of sex). I have upset partners before through my poor memory of nighttime frolicking. With my partner now, she was a bit upset in the beginning of our relationship, but now that she has drifted into the realm of non-genital pleasure and multi orgasmic madness, she has the same trouble as I do with linear recollection of sex.  We are sober most of the time. But after 1-2 hours we don’t feel sober. Sometimes the wildest moments are forgotten until the other person brings it up later. And if I can tell you what we did last night, going further back in time I encounter a tangle of memories.

i wouldn’t be surprised if it has to do with the amount of hormones pumped into bloodstream. It also probably has to do with the trance-like aspect involved. Time stretches as we follow sensations, not story lines.  And though there are a lot of new gestures, new sensual and psychological discoveries, there are many familiar pathways that never get old. I imagine these blend together into sorts of meta memories. Just as I can think of what it is like to kiss my partner, based on thousands of kisses, I can also think of what it is like for my toy to rub againt my prostate in a certain way. I can imagine what It feels like to caress and be caressed all over my body, and conjure up the sensations of different orgasms in my mind.  Many sessions alone or with a regular partner bear a lot of similarity to one another in the individual actions. Even if sessions are filled with imagination and creativity, we end up falling into many of the same pathways over and over again. Each new session is sort of like a seeing the same movie over and over, but with the scenes jumbled up, slightly different dialogue and a new character appearing now and again. So it seems logical that one single session is hard to remember in detail.

what fascinates me is that, even though we all know approximately what is going to happen, we still are enticed by the wonderful sensations, time and time again. I’ve thought about this for years. Why do some of us always go back for more, night after night? I guess this is just one of the curiosities of our horny existence.

I don't even know if I trust my memory of sessions! I remember the sessions leading up to my first (and best) superO, and I remember the mind blowing feeling that things will never be the same again after this. 

That was a year ago. Now, if I have a good session or remember back to a great one, or oddly if I think about the shape of the Eupho, I can go into a state of arousal. But arousal is different now...it's like a longer, more constant, deeper feeling of acquiring an erection. Muscles are churning down there that never did before just by the sight of a sexy woman, or ever her touch. 

You raise a very interesting topic @darwin!

I'd say I remember most things but it's as if they are behind a vail and hard to see. As you already said, I remember vague stuff like "That one moment was the highlight of the session." or "That one toy worked better than ever tonight, what a pleasant surprise.". 

It makes sense to me, that a lot of the little details vanish. See, trance (respectively the alpha wave brain state) is a state between sleep and wakefulness. We don't form memories so easily in our sleep, that's why it's often so hard to remember a dream if we don't put the effort into remembering it right after waking up. So it makes sense, that this problem already arises betweens states, when you are about to drift away in an orgasmic trance.

I use weed every other session and although it makes a difference, the fading memory effect is still there when sober (but to a lesser degree maybe).

I do tend to remember,both the pleasure and the methods,but it’s a double edge sword.I find that if I try to hard recreate a previous session,it can work against me. Had a great session yesterday,I’ve been over it a lot in my mind lol

Posted by: @divine_o

 

multi orgasmic madness

Hehehe, if ever there was ever a mental illness to have! 

Darwin, you're one of the most experienced (and earliest) members here so I don't think there's much I could contribute to your musings but I certainly find this topic fascinating and the posts insightful.  I'm not sure I have the best memory (perhaps I should do brain training), but I try to take a lot of photographs at any important event, as an aid to memory at a later time, and also because I like to take pictures.  So many of my earliest memories revolve around pictures and the stories my parents have told me about them that I don't know if I really have any of my own memories of those events.  It could well be just other people's perspectives but that and a visual record is better than nothing. 

I very rarely remember dreams even immediately upon waking; it takes a very important and powerful dream for me to remember more than snippets mere minutes after I wake up, so I make it a point to keep a dream journal and write down as much as I can as soon as possible.  I try with Anerosessions to do the same, keep an orgasm journal and articulate as much of what I'm feeling as possible, to help me make further progress next time, recognize  familiar signposts along the way to finding the Super-O.  I'm surprised that journaling isn't given to every new member along with standard advice like "Relax" and "Don't touch your penis." 

So far we can record two of the five senses pretty well, though perhaps someday we'll be able to record the sensation of touch/feeling too. 

Posted by: @divine_o

 

...but now that she has drifted into the realm of non-genital pleasure and multi orgasmic madness, she has the same trouble as I do with linear recollection of sex. We are sober most of the time. But after 1-2 hours we don’t feel sober. Sometimes the wildest moments are forgotten until the other person brings it up later. And if I can tell you what we did last night, going further back in time I encounter a tangle of memories.

Hmmmm...talk more often, maybe! 

@faith-manages

An orgasm journal is brilliant! It never occurred to me.

Tonight it just happened, I read my initial post and following threads all the way through. If I hadn't written my experiences in that post, I know I wouldn't remember much. I might not have even have believed that I had multi-orgasm sessions.

Going forward, I'm starting an orgasm journal and I'll start it by pasting in my post. 

Thanks

An orgasm journal is invaluable. I kick myself for not having data on my first years, but now I write everything down. Even if I don't go back to it, just the act of putting feelings on paper help me solidify the process. Sometimes I'll just write a single line, something like: I felt "x" and tried to do "y", but as always, what I needed to do was to let go.

Then later on, when I feel "x", I'll remember writing about it and I'll know what to do. 

I also keep some scrap paper and a marker beside my bed, I've written some notes during session breaks, some are hard to read or don't make sense later but there are some gems that I recopy to my journal. I write my journal on legal pads, when they're full, in the scanner they go so the memory is safe.

The orgasm journal (notebook, scratchpad, phone note, sticky note, etc.) can't be recommended enough. After my first Super-O session I jotted down a few mantras/emotions that I arrived at and broke me through the ceiling, as well as afterthoughts for use in the next session. Keeping a physical "journal" of these notes, as deeply personal as that is, intensifies these orgasmic sensations as I'm really in the act of accepting my orgasm and my self/body/prostate/experiences.

I thank @Darwin for telling me to try and write down where my mind and body traveled to and arrived at after a session, as that's a great writing prompt to get jumpstarted on journaling for reflection and diving deeper in the next session.